As a black woman, black American men don't meet my dating criteria mentally, emotionally, intellectually, nor in income. Is that odd?

[Sugar_7]

Then stop dating black men it’s very simple. You are good looking and you will find someone that deserves you eventually. Doesn’t matter if he’s Asian, White or even Arab but stay away from those lazy guys that don’t want to enjoy their lives and have fun with girl they love.

[Cherry234]

If you want to date men outside of your race because you think you don't have much in common with black men then that's fine. You're free to date whoever you want. I think your criteria aren't unreasonable

[ChrisMaster69]

I don’t find that (social friends) we do stuff like that with mountain biking group.

a lot is likely down to where you live and the choices you have.

ask someone in a different location, or say in the UK, then you would get a different response.

There is zero problems having preferences, it’s only when the reasons for a preference become a bit meh, that it’s iffy.

for example a mate will not date Asian girls or more accurately Pakistani girls, his reasons are crap and we have pointed out he’s pretty much borderline racist.

as a guy trying to get other guys to do different stuff is hard and that’s irrespective of ethnicity.

[FinalFantasyBro]

I don't see that weird usually everyone can't have equal compatibility in terms of interest and attraction. But just look at it from this point on, we are in 2021 and people are dating outside of their race, while yes your family and friends might not be the biggest supporter of mix race couples but hey it is your life and not their.

Also as a black men don't completely stereotype all of us into the exact same category you may not know you probably would be a very respectable black man who share your common interests. But if you can't find black men who share your passions and you find it easier from other race of men than you can use this as a idea of dating outside of your race despite people may or may not approve of your decisions.

[Anonymous]

It's not easy finding someone period. And there also be so many black men out there you've never met or know also (ie none you've met or seen, but so many more out there). Not odd at all. But the more "selective" anyone is, the harder it will be to find. Specific circumstances (economy, where you live etc) can also impact it. But you also have to consider feelings which may not always "match". ie, you may eventually find this guy that meets all those things for you, yet you have no chemistry with maybe? I've had that happen to me. I met a wonderful woman online. On paper, and even conversations online, we were a total match. Yet when in person, I felt no chemistry with her at all. There was just nothing there romantically for me, but as a person, she was fantastic. So my point is, this can make it even harder to find that person.

[HOAAH]

If you are attracted to men of other races, there is nothing wrong with that.
If you really want a black man who loves animals and goes white water rafting with you, you just have to look harder but all things that are worth it takes work.
good luck

[FriendlyDrugDealer]

If you don’t find compatibility with someone then you don’t have to date them. If you’re into outdoor activities and animals and you want someone into the same hobbies and interests then express that in your interactions with men to filter them out.


It’s okay to have differences between people in a relationship, they can swap perspectives and try each other’s hobbies. The important thing is mutual respect and understanding of the differences. Sometimes opposites do attract

[Dinklex3]

I think it's common for people to find it hard for others to fit their listed "criteria ".
You see people complain about it on social media all the time.
I don't find myself compatible with specific races. We're all different and I've met many different types of black men, so no. I can't relate.

[ChiTown33]

No it's not odd it just means your picky. Your dating pool will be smaller and that's OK so long as you don't lash out for it being small. You set the parameters.

[rcljr]

White people stuff… lmao ! You like what you like, date whom you like, don’t let anyone tell you different.

[Phoenix98]

I don't find that odd that's just your standards and what you like, which there's nothing wrong with that.

[noohair]

I am a human, I happen to be born male. I have pale skin. You are a human, You were born female, and your skin is dark. Don't trap yourself in any groups. If I were younger, I would like to meet you.

[Anonymous]

Although some of your reasons may be understandable. It’s still not accurate you have to broaden your scope of black men. Maybe start looking in a different area part of town or go for masters programs in lost students. Some career driven people.

[Mangospacho]

There’s nothing wrong with being picky and having one specific type of person you want to date. It’s not odd at all.

[GoldenCage]

Of course they will call you picky

Just do your thing and be happy

[Anonymous]

I'm white, but I'm just not as physically attracted to white women as I am to other races.
It's just a natural, primal thing. I'm more comfortable kissing women with darker skin than my own.

[Iron_Man]

I completely understand you i
have talk to a woman like you before

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

You just have to find black men that are into the same stuff as you are.

[Highcountry]

I think black women are sexy, but I like all women.

[Anonymous]

Why not date Jamaican or African. Or go to HBCu and find those men.

It's not that hard.

They tend to be more educated

[Bklynbadboy12]

I'm a black man and you like what you like there is nothing wrong with that whoever don't like it too bad. Good luck to you and I hope you find what your looking for

[EyeAmNiceGirl]

I smell a troll. That was about as racist as it gets