Have you ever dated someone who criticized a lot of things about your appearance?

[Flower7]

Yes

No

I’ve never dated anyone at all.

[aWes0MeNeSs]

Yes, and I think the end goal was to make me insecure and feel undesirable, and as if I was lucky to even have him and could never do better than him. Unfortunately for him, I would rather be single than deal with someone putting me down like that.

[Flower7]

Good choice! I’m glad you didn’t fall for that trick.

[aWes0MeNeSs]

Thank you!

[MsTacy00]

Yes I got up and walked out. Before we ordered.

[Flower7]

Wow, so that started on the very first date?

[MsTacy00]

Yes, she told me I was dressed like a slut. It wasn’t that bad. So I walked out.

[Flower7]

Very good decision!!!

[Flower7]

Did you tell her it bothered you that she said that, or did you just let your actions speak for themselves?

[MsTacy00]

I did. “She didn't care”

[Flower7]

I can’t believe she actually said that. Fastest argument ever! Well at least you saved some money on the meal!

[MsTacy00]

Yea didn’t order yet. I didn’t even sit.

[MsTacy00]

Thank You for MHO.

[Smashingdoozy]

Oooh god yes.
It was like : "why are you wearing that skirt, it makes you look fat"
" Why don't you wear skirts anymore? You're turning into a prude"
"Why are you always wearing leggings"
"I liked your hair better x color"
"Your face looks ugly when your hair is up"
"The stretch marks on your thighs make me feel sick"
"You should get braces and teeth whitening I think you'll look better"
"Your boobs are too small"
"Don't wear push up bras it's basically lying"

[Flower7]

This sounds extremely toxic!

[Mdm617]

I dated a girl once who would say a lot of passive aggressive things about my size. I am only 5’5 and she accused me of lying on my dating profile. Or she would make comments about her not being able to wear all the high heels she had in her closet. I told her I didn’t care if she was taller in heels but she would never wear them still. I thought she was just joking around but after a while she just mention it out of nowhere. During that time I got hurt at work and couldn’t lift weights for a few months and she would also make comments on how my biceps had shrunk.

[Flower7]

Did you put 5'5" on your dating profile? And yes, this situation definitely sounds toxic all-around.

[Mdm617]

Yeah I did. I never lie about my height on dating sites because it’s pretty easy to tell if someone short is lying. If you are like 5’11 saying you are 6’0 then that’s easier to get away with. She was like 5’2 so I don’t know why she thought I was lying.

[Flower7]

It sounds like it was her own fault for not reading your profile carefully!

[Lucy68]

Unfortunately yes, from the comments of "you're too fat" to "my ex was did this better, my ex looked better, my ex was better" and the "you should dress like this instead you would look more attractive wearing this". Lucky for me I'm out of that relationship.

[Flower7]

Yes, it's definitely a good thing for that to be over! Being compared to an ex is especially bad!

[shaysh87]

From my experience, never ever go on a date with a guy who criticizes your appearance. It usually means that he either doesn't like you enough or you are not his type. Never ever marry a guy who insists that you stay a certain weight your whole life because there is a good chance that it won't happen and he would have the "wandeirng eye" by the time you hit your mid 40s.

[Flower7]

I’m my experience, the criticism usually didn’t start until after we’d been dating for a while.

[ChrisMaster69]

I did date a girl that wanted me to dress in trousers, suit etc, smartly dressed etc.

i said no, I was doing it for work and I prefer being me when not working.

jeans, joggers, shorts, T shirts and also lots of purples n blacks lol

she tried to be a bit too controlling and we parted ways,

[lilyanony1]

Biggest soul crushing experience ever.
I thought I could handle standing up to him but it eroded my confidence.
If someone does it once, that's a mistake. A second time even as a joke after. it's bye bye from me.
Im not tolerating it.
Especially if the compliments seem like next to none!

[silvermoon84]

Nothing about my appearance, but when I was in the military I dated a guy who kept criticizing my New York accent and once told me to get rid of it if I wanted to keep dating him. Relationship ended that day.

[Flower7]

Good decision.

[Prettygurl12]

No, my husband is constantly amazed by my apparent ability to eat as much as he does and not gain weight. He thinks I'm extremely attractive for some reason. I've never had my physical appearance critiqued by any romantic partner.

[GoldenCage]

How these two things can happen at the same time? if either of us don't like how the other one looks then why are we still dating? Is it ugly ducky dating mating season or something

Jokes aside. Never be with someone who verbally and actively puts you down. And no it is not his decision to leave or stay. It is yours. Just read the user right manual lol

[Static_In_The_Attic]

Not at all & if they did I would be out like a fat kid in dodgeball.

[Flower7]

Lol I love that analogy!

[Static_In_The_Attic]

Is someone dating now?

[Flower7]

No this is a question about the past.

[Ninani]

My ex husband. He did it in subtle ways and made it out to be helpful advice for my own good. At the end he didn't even try to hide that he wanted to control me.

[PeterCharie1991]

My ex girlfriend did she'd say things in an argument like you need to lose weight your so fat unlike my ex who had a sexy body :(

[Flower7]

It’s always a bad feeling to be compared to an ex!

[PeterCharie1991]

Shed apologize and say didn't mean it but it plays on your mind

[Flower7]

I feel like most things people say when they’re mad are true.

[PeterCharie1991]

Her ex hit her i never hit her

[EnglishEuropean]

No, why would they do that? If I don't find you attractive I won't date you, simples.

[Flower7]

Some people seem to want to change the person who they are dating.

[Interstate]

I only dated three Women in my life, and I can say none of them did such a thing. Twss.

[NathanDavis]

nope... neither friends, acquaintances or family would do that... that's just rude

[Phoenix98]

No and I wouldn't be with someone like that anyway.

[Bricealan]

Yes, and I buried them all in the back yard, under the grapefruit tree !!!

[Wester1967]

“You’re too good looking for me. You’ll run off with the next hit girl you see”

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

No, but she came back and told me things about her step-dad said I made poor judgement

[Slim57]

She didn't when we were dating but decided to finally tell me right before we broke up all at once

[Flower7]

Was that part of the reason for the break-up?

[Slim57]

I don't know it was a lot of things, she was talking to guys behind my back and we broke up that next week before I even said anything about it