Do you think attention from the opposite sex gives you a confidence boost?

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globetrotter22 · Accepted Answer

Yes it absolutely does especially if the opposite sex is attractive.

But honestly this is more rare for guys unless they are very exceptional 1% of 1%. Most women are much more subtle about this.

Also there have been a few unfortunate incidents where I got “attention” for ulterior purposes. At a Halloween party 2 years ago the hottest girl there approached me because she wanted to make the guy she really liked jealous. She was a grown ass 30 year old woman and should know better not do that. I wanted to give her the benefit of the doubt at the time but it really pissed me off.

But I’ve gotten aggressive attention from women that (no offense) have absolutely zero chance with me. This includes very overweight women making sexual comments. It was okay if they smile and act flirty but some of them really pushed the envelope. If the roles were reversed it would be a metoo story.

horsenrhinounicorn · Accepted Answer

Yes, in general for males they get a confident boost. For females it all depends on if they come out creepy or as a gentleman.

AmandaYVR · Accepted Answer

Of course it does. Why wouldn't it?
Maybe if a person wasn't straight. They might be more interested in attention from the same sex.
But interest, attention, respect, kindness... they're all nice, no matter who they're coming from. Everyone likes to be appreciated.

lilyfreeman · Accepted Answer

In a certain context, yes. If it's in a bar where tons of sleazy guys are drunkenly coming onto you then no, not in that environment when you feel you're just being looked at as a piece of meat

WhatTheHeckkkk · Answer

Depends on the type of attention… Not much into the sexual or physical attention I get if I don’t know the person. Makes me feel trashy 😂

Novacane · Answer

Of course, it does, we are naturally social creatures so receiving any type of affirmation from someone you would be interested in feeds the ego. I mean if you think about it that's why so many women have higher egos because of all the attention they get from the opposite gender, sometimes it can be too much and irritate them but ideally if no one gave them the attention they would start to think something is wrong with them. The same goes for men, you see that the men with the highest confidence tend to receive more attention from women, and those that don't get attention usually end up having lower confidence and being shy.

TheorionMage · Answer

OF COURSE, NATURE /God's SOLE PURPOSE for primate males is to do WHATEVER is necessary to 'merit' the favorable perception of primate fertile females to be 'worthy' to combine his Semen with HER Ovuum.

Nascent female fertility 'allure' and hence male 'desire' BEGINS FAR EARLIER than prudish Western Society is willing to comfortably admit (See Kent State 1995 Psych study)~

Worldwide, OUTSIDE of ESPOUSED 'Christian' paradigms (you'd be shocked what is advocated in the UN-featured Biblical passages) as early as 5-7 years old pending on nutrition & hereditary village customs.

molonski2 · Answer

It really depends massively on the circumstance , there are many differing scenarios that are just BS , but in the correct venue , and from the correct individual ( that can be the tough part ) , its certainly an ego boost to know you are admired , lusted after , or simply focused on intently.

WhiteSteve · Answer

Yes. That, and for good athletic performance, those are my two favorite forms of attention, haha, and it boosts my confidence.

Slartybartfast · Answer

I'm a man so I wouldn't know.
Today's misandrus culture forces men to compete for attention like beggars fighting for scraps.

Men are treated like disposable utilities, walking ATM machines.

The only way to preserve your dignity is to walk away and don't play games you can't win.

ChiTown33 · Answer

If it's genuine yeah. Women are plotters though. Women don't compliment you unless there's an anterior motive though. So in the slim chance z woman comments me I have to figure out why she did it. Odds are she's setting me up for something.

ChrisMaster69 · Answer

It can it greatly depends who is giving the attention.

I attract nutters and among them are women that are barking mad, as in they will talk about killing someone or how some other weird stuff should be allowed.

Also if a girl gets too much attraction of wrong type or just too much, it moves to harassment.

it can have a large negative on overall mental health.

Cherry234 · Answer

Yes, it certainly does. But I don't like unwanted attention or being catcalled. I like it when guys compliment me, especially on my looks, but the way they approach me matters

Quigly · Answer

If it's the right girl, personality becomes an issue here. If I sense that her attention is fraudulent and she has other motives, it's not. If I sense that she is the type of girl that is overly critical of every little thing, it's not. Negative attention is never a confidence booster. Positive attention *is* a confidence booster. It's all about who she is.

Snakeyes7 · Answer

I don't know if that's statistically true but I wouldn't be surprised if it is. If you lived your whole life trying to impress a member of the opposite sex, why wouldn't it fill you with confidence when someone of the opposite sex gives you attention? It's gives you the idea that what you are doing is working.

Rob70 · Answer

For sure it does. If it's done in the right manner I think everyone get's a boost from being noticed by a person of the opposite sex. Even if someone of the same sex gives a person a compliment I think it boost your confidence to some degree

hahahmm · Answer

Nope. Never did. Except maybe in (long ago) in the sense that if I won a competition with guys I knew for a girl then I felt better than them. But it wasn't really about her. And that feeling would only last for a moment.

Texaskid1 · Answer

Meeehh... maybe. It depends. I have had attention from batshit crazy women. Sometimes I wish to be unnoticed.

Livewire3 · Answer

Flattering not creepy attention from guys or girls for me.. yes. I'm not going home with them and playful banter (aka flirting) is always welcome.

devilish-cutie · Answer

no, quite the opposite when ugly guys and disrespectful guys shpw interest in me it can be very annoying and may make me feel those are my only options i only care if guys i like like me

jekyllhyde · Answer

Hell yea. That’s a ego booster. If what you’re doing can catch a little attention or raise an eyebrow, you’re doing something right, even if it’s stupid. But just don’t get carried away. Everything in moderation

jamesgoldman · Answer

Nah, well it never really happens so if I needed that to fill up my confidence tank
It would sit permanently empty

Luckily my confidence comes from my steel toed boots, my big leather jackets my wallet and my bling

DiegoO · Answer

No. It makes me wonder, "she's suspicious". Because 1: I don't get that attention in 99.9% of the times. Number 2: I don't look for it. Number: I don't care. I rather be unoticed.

CarolineW · Answer

Generally, yes. Can be a pain though if the guy persists when you've made it obvious that nothing's going to happen.

St37xy11 · Answer

Yea I guess so. It's a nice feeling but it's only meaningful if he sees me as marriage material instead of a one night stand

girlinthemirror · Answer

It really depends... most of cat call persons on the street is really annoying and makes me feel scared and its really disgusting behavior... reallyy!!!
You never see a good looking, intelligent guy to cat call anyone.

Assi2k · Answer

Lmaooo every time but it’s prob not to base confidence on something like that

Twalli · Answer

It does, but I don't want to give anyone false hope. So I make it clear that I am in a happy and strong relationship, so if they're looking for more than a friendship, I am not the person they should be looking at for such a relationship.

REDHOTLINE · Answer

Of course lily everbody likes that and everbodies confidence boost with opositr sex attention.

NathanDavis · Answer

that would depend on the context and the circumstances of the situation

ohshee · Answer

Of course or gives a a confidence booster when you can feel somebody else's energy

EssenceOfLight · Answer

Yes if they are attractive and seek eye contact with me. Often it's just a show to make their partners insecure, in this case they are more focused what their guys do than on me.

moviedude714 · Answer

Definitely does and it's an obvious reminder that women get attention from the opposite sex in a different way than men do because women have always been on the receiving end of sexual attention

Wester1967 · Answer

It's nice to know, but too much attention takes me off my purpose.

TexasRed95 · Answer

I have no idea. My head tells me no but I have never had attention from women so I don't know.

Miristheiss · Answer

Yes.  I think if you feel desired and appreciated by the opposite sex it makes you feel good.

xwmiku · Answer

Of course it does. It's the biggest confidence boost I can get.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

Yes, attention from the opposite would give me a confidence boost

Hairylegs222 · Answer

It did when I was younger, immature, and had low confidence. Now I'm more cautious and see the big picture whenever I receive attention from a woman.

crybaby1111 · Answer

Oh absolutely, even if it is platonic, or whatever, its great. there's still compliments I remember now that keep me going through my days

Gwenhwyfar · Answer

Yeah. Or the same sex if I’m into them.

Xoirwinkan · Answer

Yes, but I only noticed it once in my life, in high school. But that might have been nothing much since I had a pony tail and was dressed up for my presentation.

siseñor · Answer

if it's a nice person. sometimes men are a little too forceful & it makes for bad memories

melanieeeB · Answer

No not anymore, it used to in the past but I just don't care about that stuff anymore so no.. I actually feel really uncomfortable lately

exitseven · Answer

Yes, if you are getting noticed for the right reason.

Fireguy17 · Answer

I think so, how doesn't like to be noticed and not invisible?

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

Not one bit. I'm optimistic by nature so that leads me to be confident by nature.  Ignore me all you want I don't give a flip.

Turtleneck22 · Answer

well that would all depend on the attention one is given. If it’s a women in a bar and she is being flirtatious the yes. It would. It’s a shame we are not at a bar right now.

zagor · Answer

Absolutely. It is always nice to be reminded someone finds you attractive.

Rushabh52 · Answer

Yess!! coz we certainly in some or other ways are bother about what others are think of us!!

Ironic_Method · Answer

Absolutely, even if I don't find them attractive myself.

Massageman · Answer

A boost in confidence AND something else I can think of, also.

OddBeMe · Answer

From whoever you value is confidence boosting. So gays from other gays, furbies from other furbies. Just for example.

Abhitheone001 · Answer

Yes it does cause when you get attracted from someone of opposite sex. You try to do your best to impress them which ultimately boosts your confidence.

Uptowngirl88 · Answer

No , I get approached all the time. I find it very annoying

Retiever · Answer

Yes it helps to know sometimes that someone finds me attractive or interesting.

Soccer1998 · Answer

Yes! But if you already confident, then the attention of opposites is extra confident

Jayplays900 · Answer

If a girl went up to me and said 'You lookin' nice today', then Ima blush like a bitch and go on the rest of the day happy and flustered. Compliments like that make me all warm and cuddly.

Better_off_here · Answer

yes it does it helps me since i need all the help i can get with women. any bit helps a lot. as long as it is genuine i think it is helpful.

dragoblack · Answer

Most definitely. Confirmation of being considered attractive, helps immensely with confidence.

Joshua0213 · Answer

Nah not really, but my confidence is already extremes high

Relux47 · Answer

Yeah and then I start creating fake scenarios in my head

Stoner710 · Answer

It does especially if the girl is cute. fat women I call land whale (over 200 pounds) do not

Willoughby23 · Answer

No it actually makes me feel less confident because I know im too afraid to make a move on them, even if they showed interest or flirted with me.

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