Do you think attention from the opposite sex gives you a confidence boost?

[lilyanony1]

[globetrotter22]

Yes it absolutely does especially if the opposite sex is attractive.

But honestly this is more rare for guys unless they are very exceptional 1% of 1%. Most women are much more subtle about this.

Also there have been a few unfortunate incidents where I got “attention” for ulterior purposes. At a Halloween party 2 years ago the hottest girl there approached me because she wanted to make the guy she really liked jealous. She was a grown ass 30 year old woman and should know better not do that. I wanted to give her the benefit of the doubt at the time but it really pissed me off.

But I’ve gotten aggressive attention from women that (no offense) have absolutely zero chance with me. This includes very overweight women making sexual comments. It was okay if they smile and act flirty but some of them really pushed the envelope. If the roles were reversed it would be a metoo story.

[lilyanony1]

I think it's still valid as a me too story. No gender is exempt.
I made a silly comment once and everytime I think about it I cringe.
But I can honestly say it wasn't a me too thing just cringey. 😩🤦🏾‍♀️

[globetrotter22]

I was in a very uncomfortable and scary situation last year in my own house. To make matters more complicated she was black and I’m white. She accused me of turning her down because she was black (absolutely not true I just didn’t find her attractive.). She threatened that something might “happen” to my place.

I had to placate her by giving her a massage. But the threat she uttered both scared and deeply angered me. No way in hell that would of got swept under the rug if the roles were reversed.

[lilyanony1]

I'm really sorry to hear that. That is in fact shocking and scary race gender aside! She made it about race before you did whilst she conducted herself in a really inappropriate manner.

[globetrotter22]

This was in the middle of the BLM insanity last year.

I have to be honest I initially liked some of the attention but I never invited it. But she took things a step further. She did NOT take the rejection well even though I was polite about it.

[lilyanony1]

Well hopefully that will be the last of her!

[globetrotter22]

Yeah fortunately nothing since then. I actually told my tenant/housemate the whole story the next day. My mind was fast forwarding to the worse case scenario (her making a false accusation). Nothing happened. But still the double standard was disgusting. .

[horsenrhinounicorn]

Yes, in general for males they get a confident boost. For females it all depends on if they come out creepy or as a gentleman.

[AmandaYVR]

Of course it does. Why wouldn't it?
Maybe if a person wasn't straight. They might be more interested in attention from the same sex.
But interest, attention, respect, kindness... they're all nice, no matter who they're coming from. Everyone likes to be appreciated.

[lilyfreeman]

In a certain context, yes. If it's in a bar where tons of sleazy guys are drunkenly coming onto you then no, not in that environment when you feel you're just being looked at as a piece of meat

[Shoichiro]

I hate to break it to you, but you are precisely a piece of meat. :/

[EnglishEuropean]

@Shoichiro Yes we are all made of delicious meat.

[WhatTheHeckkkk]

Depends on the type of attention… Not much into the sexual or physical attention I get if I don’t know the person. Makes me feel trashy 😂

[Novacane]

Of course, it does, we are naturally social creatures so receiving any type of affirmation from someone you would be interested in feeds the ego. I mean if you think about it that's why so many women have higher egos because of all the attention they get from the opposite gender, sometimes it can be too much and irritate them but ideally if no one gave them the attention they would start to think something is wrong with them. The same goes for men, you see that the men with the highest confidence tend to receive more attention from women, and those that don't get attention usually end up having lower confidence and being shy.

[TheorionMage]

OF COURSE, NATURE /God's SOLE PURPOSE for primate males is to do WHATEVER is necessary to 'merit' the favorable perception of primate fertile females to be 'worthy' to combine his Semen with HER Ovuum.

Nascent female fertility 'allure' and hence male 'desire' BEGINS FAR EARLIER than prudish Western Society is willing to comfortably admit (See Kent State 1995 Psych study)~

Worldwide, OUTSIDE of ESPOUSED 'Christian' paradigms (you'd be shocked what is advocated in the UN-featured Biblical passages) as early as 5-7 years old pending on nutrition & hereditary village customs.

[molonski2]

It really depends massively on the circumstance , there are many differing scenarios that are just BS , but in the correct venue , and from the correct individual ( that can be the tough part ) , its certainly an ego boost to know you are admired , lusted after , or simply focused on intently.

[WhiteSteve]

Yes. That, and for good athletic performance, those are my two favorite forms of attention, haha, and it boosts my confidence.

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[Slartybartfast]

I'm a man so I wouldn't know.
Today's misandrus culture forces men to compete for attention like beggars fighting for scraps.

Men are treated like disposable utilities, walking ATM machines.

The only way to preserve your dignity is to walk away and don't play games you can't win.

[ChiTown33]

If it's genuine yeah. Women are plotters though. Women don't compliment you unless there's an anterior motive though. So in the slim chance z woman comments me I have to figure out why she did it. Odds are she's setting me up for something.

[lilyanony1]

Same could be said for men.
I find more men only compliment and profusely compliment when they like a woman

[ChiTown33]

Why would I care if a guy complimented me?

[ChrisMaster69]

It can it greatly depends who is giving the attention.

I attract nutters and among them are women that are barking mad, as in they will talk about killing someone or how some other weird stuff should be allowed.

Also if a girl gets too much attraction of wrong type or just too much, it moves to harassment.

it can have a large negative on overall mental health.

[lilyanony1]

Haha I haven't heard someone say nutters in a long time. Lol

I'm sorry you've also had strange experiences. I wonder if people say things like this because they think it's cool?

But I definitely agree we overlook the same attention given when it's from someone we like.
In my grandparents day a man being persistent and creative with his insistence meant he was worthy. Now it means you're mentally unstable.
But I do wonder if the way the pursuit was carried out has changed...
🤔

[ChrisMaster69]

Yeah in your grandparents day, he sent flowers and chocolates

These days he sends a cock pic

[lilyanony1]

Pahahaha but even then my grandparents would ask his friend my grandmother's friend to bring my grandmother to a party so they can meet.
Now guys randomly show up using your location. Pahaha or Facebook check in!

[ChrisMaster69]

Yeah top tip don’t use location

[lilyanony1]

Mine is off and I never check in.

[Cherry234]

Yes, it certainly does. But I don't like unwanted attention or being catcalled. I like it when guys compliment me, especially on my looks, but the way they approach me matters

[Quigly]

If it's the right girl, personality becomes an issue here. If I sense that her attention is fraudulent and she has other motives, it's not. If I sense that she is the type of girl that is overly critical of every little thing, it's not. Negative attention is never a confidence booster. Positive attention *is* a confidence booster. It's all about who she is.

[Snakeyes7]

I don't know if that's statistically true but I wouldn't be surprised if it is. If you lived your whole life trying to impress a member of the opposite sex, why wouldn't it fill you with confidence when someone of the opposite sex gives you attention? It's gives you the idea that what you are doing is working.

[Rob70]

For sure it does. If it's done in the right manner I think everyone get's a boost from being noticed by a person of the opposite sex. Even if someone of the same sex gives a person a compliment I think it boost your confidence to some degree

[hahahmm]

Nope. Never did. Except maybe in (long ago) in the sense that if I won a competition with guys I knew for a girl then I felt better than them. But it wasn't really about her. And that feeling would only last for a moment.

[Texaskid1]

Meeehh... maybe.

It depends. I have had attention from batshit crazy women. Sometimes I wish to be unnoticed.

[lilyanony1]

Why do you want to be unnoticed?

[Texaskid1]

I am 6'1 amd I work out when I can. I have always recieved a certain level of female attention. At times it gets anoying ( and old). Much of the attention is not always from women that I am attracted to. Some of them are nutty or expect me to be a white knight. Also, the attention from women is superficial , fleeting. It gets old after a while. Lately I have been dressing with more baggy clothing - I now wear a big and baggy windbreaker jacket to work and I have noticed less female attention. For the time being this is fine for me as I don' t want to be bothered with flirting or dating and all that.

[lilyanony1]

I hear you and I understand.
A massive part of me is ready to settle down so I'd like attention just from the right person. You know, a good one.
I've been a lot like you, changing the way I dress.

[Livewire3]

Flattering not creepy attention from guys or girls for me.. yes. I'm not going home with them and playful banter (aka flirting) is always welcome.

[devilish-cutie]

no, quite the opposite
when ugly guys and disrespectful guys shpw interest in me it can be very annoying
and may make me feel those are my only options
i only care if guys i like like me

[jamesgoldman]

Nah, well it never really happens so if I needed that to fill up my confidence tank
It would sit permanently empty

Luckily my confidence comes from my steel toed boots, my big leather jackets my wallet and my bling

[jekyllhyde]

Hell yea. That’s a ego booster. If what you’re doing can catch a little attention or raise an eyebrow, you’re doing something right, even if it’s stupid. But just don’t get carried away. Everything in moderation

[DiegoO]

No. It makes me wonder, "she's suspicious". Because 1: I don't get that attention in 99.9% of the times. Number 2: I don't look for it. Number: I don't care. I rather be unoticed.

[CarolineW]

Generally, yes. Can be a pain though if the guy persists when you've made it obvious that nothing's going to happen.