Do you think attention from the opposite sex gives you a confidence boost?

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globetrotter22 · Accepted Answer

Yes it absolutely does especially if the opposite sex is attractive.

But honestly this is more rare for guys unless they are very exceptional 1% of 1%. Most women are much more subtle about this.

Also there have been a few unfortunate incidents where I got “attention” for ulterior purposes. At a Halloween party 2 years ago the hottest girl there approached me because she wanted to make the guy she really liked jealous. She was a grown ass 30 year old woman and should know better not do that. I wanted to give her the benefit of the doubt at the time but it really pissed me off.

But I’ve gotten aggressive attention from women that (no offense) have absolutely zero chance with me. This includes very overweight women making sexual comments. It was okay if they smile and act flirty but some of them really pushed the envelope. If the roles were reversed it would be a metoo story.

horsenrhinounicorn · Accepted Answer

Yes, in general for males they get a confident boost. For females it all depends on if they come out creepy or as a gentleman.

AmandaYVR · Accepted Answer

Of course it does. Why wouldn't it?
Maybe if a person wasn't straight. They might be more interested in attention from the same sex.
But interest, attention, respect, kindness... they're all nice, no matter who they're coming from. Everyone likes to be appreciated.

lilyfreeman · Accepted Answer

In a certain context, yes. If it's in a bar where tons of sleazy guys are drunkenly coming onto you then no, not in that environment when you feel you're just being looked at as a piece of meat

WhatTheHeckkkk · Answer

Depends on the type of attention… Not much into the sexual or physical attention I get if I don’t know the person. Makes me feel trashy 😂

SteveSmith1985 · Answer

Yes definitely!!

Novacane · Answer

Of course, it does, we are naturally social creatures so receiving any type of affirmation from someone you would be interested in feeds the ego. I mean if you think about it that's why so many women have higher egos because of all the attention they get from the opposite gender, sometimes it can be too much and irritate them but ideally if no one gave them the attention they would start to think something is wrong with them. The same goes for men, you see that the men with the highest confidence tend to receive more attention from women, and those that don't get attention usually end up having lower confidence and being shy.

TheorionMage · Answer

OF COURSE, NATURE /God's SOLE PURPOSE for primate males is to do WHATEVER is necessary to 'merit' the favorable perception of primate fertile females to be 'worthy' to combine his Semen with HER Ovuum.

Nascent female fertility 'allure' and hence male 'desire' BEGINS FAR EARLIER than prudish Western Society is willing to comfortably admit (See Kent State 1995 Psych study)~

Worldwide, OUTSIDE of ESPOUSED 'Christian' paradigms (you'd be shocked what is advocated in the UN-featured Biblical passages) as early as 5-7 years old pending on nutrition & hereditary village customs.

ChrisMaster69 · Answer

It can it greatly depends who is giving the attention.

I attract nutters and among them are women that are barking mad, as in they will talk about killing someone or how some other weird stuff should be allowed.

Also if a girl gets too much attraction of wrong type or just too much, it moves to harassment.

it can have a large negative on overall mental health.

molonski2 · Answer

It really depends massively on the circumstance , there are many differing scenarios that are just BS , but in the correct venue , and from the correct individual ( that can be the tough part ) , its certainly an ego boost to know you are admired , lusted after , or simply focused on intently.

WhiteSteve · Answer

Yes. That, and for good athletic performance, those are my two favorite forms of attention, haha, and it boosts my confidence.

Slartybartfast · Answer

I'm a man so I wouldn't know.
Today's misandrus culture forces men to compete for attention like beggars fighting for scraps.

Men are treated like disposable utilities, walking ATM machines.

The only way to preserve your dignity is to walk away and don't play games you can't win.

ChiTown33 · Answer

If it's genuine yeah. Women are plotters though. Women don't compliment you unless there's an anterior motive though. So in the slim chance z woman comments me I have to figure out why she did it. Odds are she's setting me up for something.

Quigly · Answer

If it's the right girl, personality becomes an issue here. If I sense that her attention is fraudulent and she has other motives, it's not. If I sense that she is the type of girl that is overly critical of every little thing, it's not. Negative attention is never a confidence booster. Positive attention *is* a confidence booster. It's all about who she is.

Snakeyes7 · Answer

I don't know if that's statistically true but I wouldn't be surprised if it is. If you lived your whole life trying to impress a member of the opposite sex, why wouldn't it fill you with confidence when someone of the opposite sex gives you attention? It's gives you the idea that what you are doing is working.

Rob70 · Answer

For sure it does. If it's done in the right manner I think everyone get's a boost from being noticed by a person of the opposite sex. Even if someone of the same sex gives a person a compliment I think it boost your confidence to some degree

hahahmm · Answer

Nope. Never did. Except maybe in (long ago) in the sense that if I won a competition with guys I knew for a girl then I felt better than them. But it wasn't really about her. And that feeling would only last for a moment.

Texaskid1 · Answer

Meeehh... maybe. It depends. I have had attention from batshit crazy women. Sometimes I wish to be unnoticed.

Cherry234 · Answer

Yes, it certainly does. But I don't like unwanted attention or being catcalled. I like it when guys compliment me, especially on my looks, but the way they approach me matters

Livewire3 · Answer

Flattering not creepy attention from guys or girls for me.. yes. I'm not going home with them and playful banter (aka flirting) is always welcome.

devilish-cutie · Answer

no, quite the opposite when ugly guys and disrespectful guys shpw interest in me it can be very annoying and may make me feel those are my only options i only care if guys i like like me

jamesgoldman · Answer

Nah, well it never really happens so if I needed that to fill up my confidence tank
It would sit permanently empty

Luckily my confidence comes from my steel toed boots, my big leather jackets my wallet and my bling

Shiningtempest · Answer

@lilyanony1 I don't consider gaining attention from the opposite sex as a confidence booster. I only see it as a creep trying to ruin my life or my tight bond with my bros.

jekyllhyde · Answer

Hell yea. That’s a ego booster. If what you’re doing can catch a little attention or raise an eyebrow, you’re doing something right, even if it’s stupid. But just don’t get carried away. Everything in moderation

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