Why are most men obsessed with good girls?

[anon1903]

She has :
- small, but cute boobs
- long hair
- doesn't swear
- sweet
- shy
- wants kids and marriage
- submissive asf
- eve or something
- naive but in a cutesy way
- believes in God, praying, conventional stuff
- cute + hot
- cares about rules, society
- wallflower ™
- can't let loose

In relation to : Why are women mostly attracted to bad boys? ↗

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+1 y

Y'all be confusing good girls with good people. Ever heard of morality alignment? It shows the complexity.

[Ez-Bri-Z]

I thought the old expression was something like they want a lady in the streets and a demon in the sheets. Basically they want the best of both worlds.

Now that is a MASSIVE over generalization of men in general because honestly they are not all like that, but who doesn't want perfection sometimes?

[anon1903]

This question is in relation to "all girls love bad boys"

[Ez-Bri-Z]

I'll be glad to answer that one too if you'd like : )

Being sheltered most likely. You know how a lot of parents get when it comes to daughters. The sons are allowed to get to explore their world more than the daughters do so when it comes to dating, that is a place a girl can explore herself a bit more earlier in life. The danger is exciting because it is different than the overprotective parenting and world saying something is too dangerous for us. I think some of it too has to do with our nurturing nature. Sometimes we get it stuck in our heads that we need to care for something that is "broken".

[anon1903]

Good explanation

[Ceslovas]

True Ez, we want to feel we have best of both worlds, otherwise We would feel somewhat incomplete. I don't represent ALL men so i have to be honest and use word 'I' but... next time.

[Ez-Bri-Z]

And I can't begrudge anyone who is wanting that kind of person, but where some guys lose me is expecting that kind of girl from every woman and not treating us like individuals. Then they turn around and complain about feminism or non traditional women compounding the issue further. It becomes a massive hate spiral.

[anon1903]

Exactly 💅

[Nazgol]

So they can control and dominate her and make their imaginary world& fantazations come alive! What else?

[Nazgol]

& to make unrealistic expectations come true because they want someone "perfect", not an average human being just like them

[anon1903]

💅💅💅💅

[anon1903]

You friggin nailed it

[Nazgol]

👌👌

[Nazgol]

Also, the characteristics of the girl you mentioned is like an anime/video game character! No wonder!

[OlderAndWiser]

When men are serous in relationships, they have the good sense to evaluate a woman's ability to be a good mother to the man's children.

[WowwGirl]

My apple pieness has done me well

[OlderAndWiser]

Your are, indeed, apple pie! 😃😃😃

[WowwGirl]

"curtsey"

[WhatTheHeckkkk]

I am not sure. I have noticed that a lot of men like more “traditional” women, or the ones who aren’t into modern lifestyles. However, they also like a mix of both Good girls and Bad girls depending on situations.

[HighValue]

I'm a good man (better than others for sure) and I want a good girl.


Me: White, 6' tall, Strong, Trustworthy, Loyal, Affectionate, Never done any hook ups, No contact with any ex, no kids but I do want some with the right person, I am very good with kids, Don't do any drugs, alcohol, or smoke, no tattoos, I work (no welfare or food stamps), I know how to cook, I'm educated (not indoctrinated). I enjoy physical stuff like riding bikes, lifting weights, and also indoor stuff like board games, video games, movies, tv series, comedy videos, learning new things, reading a book, bowling, pool, air hockey, amusement parks, and other stuff. I will try new things as long as it isn't gross or immoral. I prefer things to be planned most of the time. I like to make the important decisions for the family/kids/etc. but I would also take responsibility for those choices and the outcomes too. One example of a decision I would make is the kids won't have smart phones. Another example would be no alcohol allowed in the home. So gatherings would be with sober people only. Once in a relationship I believe people shouldn't be making NEW opposite gender friends to hang out with one on one. I wouldn't be doing that either. I am good to people that are good to me, but there is no obligation for me to help strangers. What I earn is for me and people I care about and I won't share it freely.

Potential Girlfriend:
18 to 30 (over 30 equals no interest), hasn't done any hook ups or ONS, doesn't do any drugs (no weed either), doesn't drink alcohol or drinks very rarely and is willing to quit, doesn't smoke, no kids from past relationships, but does want some with the right person, no contact with any ex, once in a relationship won't be posting revealing and flirty pictures online for attention, will be very affectionate with me and she initiates the affection sometimes too, doesn't have an immoral job or one that requires her to spend multiple days away from home (traveling), no tattoos or very few (each tattoo makes her less attractive to me), will exercise every week just like I will to stay healthy and in shape for long term, is not hypocritical.

[kholland65]

Ok you basically just picked a random set of trait's and have arbitrarily equated them to being "a good girl", whatever that means.

-What does breast size have to do with being good or bad?
-what does hair length have to do with being good or bad?
-I don't know many people who don't swear.
-I mean, of course we prefer someone who is sweet and kind and not brash and an jerk.
-Shy has nothing to do with being good or bad.
-I mean 99% of people want kids and marriage because we're biologically wired to want this. If you don't, you are not the norm but the exception, get over it.
-Well men are naturally more dominant than women, and therefore generally prefer women who are on the submissive side. Just biology again at play.
-WTF is "eve of something"
-What is naive in a cutsie way even mean?
-Religious affiliation is a separate issue all together.
-Yeah because people totally want to date ugly people and not hot/cute people. I'm also pretty sure that your level of attractiveness is not necessarily correlated to how good or bad you are morally.
-I mean, lots of people generally think it's a good idea to play by the rules, most of the time.
-What does a wallflower have to do with being good or bad?

It sounds to me, like some dude you like, has bypassed you for someone else, and all you're doing is listing off all of the traits the girl has who beat you because you don't understand why a guy would prefer them. If you want to be an unfeminine asshole who is ugly, brash, domineering, looks masculine, and has no interest in marriage or kids, get used to the fact that most people are biologically wired to dislike people like you.

[anon1903]

Yes, jealousy is the only possible explanation for my rage 😂😂😂😂

[Finchie40]

Because most guys don’t want to play games , we get to a point in our lives that having a good girl that can love us the same way we love them is what matters most , We want a girl that we can give our heart to and feel safe and secure that she isn’t going to shit on it and be loyal and faithful to us , A relationship is pointless if someone is just going to use you as a convenience and then trade you in once shit hits the fan , Life is filled with ups and downs so having a partner that has your back like they have yours is what matters the most, Love only grows when 2 people remove selfishness for each other and make each other their priority and sacrifice for each other , without that the relationship is a waste of time. The problem with today’s world is a lot of people think grass is greener on the other side , they compare their lives to others and want only what’s best for them , I feel social media has played a big part on destroying relationships, brainwashing people to believe things that are false reality , Peoples preferences and standards are too far fetched , and think the only way they can love someone or be happy with someone is by that person being everything their heart desires , we are all imperfect people , we all have flaws, when you find someone that can accept your flaws like you accept theirs than love will grow. But if you choose selfishness over your partner then that relationship will not last , Most people today choose selfishness and can’t admit to themselves that they are wrong.

[ChrisMaster69]

Hmm, I don’t really do good girls or bad girls, as no one ever gives me a decent description as to what constitutes good or bad,

in the link, the asker says afterwards, yeah cos we are all psychic

has :
- small, but cute boobs yes I like
- long hair - prefer shoulder or short.
- doesn't swear - she will around me
- sweet - 🤢
- shy🤮
- wants kids and marriage😬
- submissive asf means something totally different to me
- eve or something what?
- naive but in a cutesy way 🤮🤮🤮🤮
- believes in God, praying, conventional stuff🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮
- cute + hot - yes that’s good,
- cares about rules, society - yes that’s fine but depends what.
wallflower - no thanks
Can’t let loose - needs to be open and free to say how she feels and whatever she likes.

i just find people try to put others in to pigeon holes.

[anon1903]

This is ideal opinion lol

[anon1903]

Where can I clone you

[ChrisMaster69]

@anon1903 lol, someone good would drive me insane.

Far too passive sounding.

[anon1903]

Exact-fucking-ly

[GaGirls]

Now this is the actual definition of a good girl or at least closer than the op list.

[GaGirls]

The REAL list
She has :
- sweet, courteous, affectionate
- submissive or equally in the middle of dominant and submissive
- good person with a positive attitude majority of the time
- cute, pretty
- not interested in drinking and smoking but doesn't judge it (this may be omitted in many cases)

[anon1903]

Thanks for your input.

I really liked the last point.

[TruthBringer]

@gagirls Thanks for this list! Pretty much sums up my girlfriend as well

[MuddyMole]

Guys like girls to be feminine and youthful, which explains a lot of the things on your list.
They don't, however, want them to be boring, which is why a lot of the other things on your list don't belong there - stuff like "cares about rules", "wallflower", "can't let loose" - that's not attractive to anyone.
And then there are few things on your list - being religious, wanting kids etc - that might be attractive, or might be a huge turn-off, depending on the guy's own thoughts on the matter.

[WowwGirl]

So a conservative girl basically, for one we are okay with men being men and women being women.
Conservative females because of the religious background are proven to be less sexually liberated ( sleep around less)

Conservative girls want and demand marriage which secretly most men want.
There's a couple reasons.

[anon1903]

I was waiting on your opinion! 😭

[WowwGirl]

Men date bad girls sure but rarely keep them.

[WowwGirl]

I know it's sad. I can never act right

[anon1903]

Same with women, girl. They wanna bed the hot bad boys. Why is that hard to understand?

[WowwGirl]

And the prototype looks I think is just media and other influences.

[WowwGirl]

I don't know they bitch about everything man

[anon1903]

Yu-uh

[Ninani]

Because such a girl can be corrupted and taken advantage of. Another option is that he wants to protect her against predators and corruptors.
She exudes innocence and vulnerability and attract both predators and protectors - some predators might even disguise themselves as protectors to get close to her.

[Phoenix98]

Well why wouldn't you want to be with a good woman? Typically men date to marry and have families it would only make sense to choose a partner that would make a good wife and mother.

I'm personally not gonna date someone who wouldn't be a good long term partner or wife and certainly not someone who'd make a terrible mother.

That being said the above traits you mentioned are not set in stone and those traits or combination of traits won't necessarily make a good wife or mother.

You only really need 3-4 of those traits the rest can be up to personal preference.

[meera78]

I don't think it's the most men but definitely the misogynist ones who are literally obsessed with this. They submit to toxic masculinity and want someone to rule over, which is their wife because they probably can't control any other aspects of their life.

[Hallo626262]

Nothing about that is toxic. Plenty of women exactly want that. Sorry.

[ohshee]

I think it depends on how you were raised our what has happened in your life while you are being raised. I know a lot of bad boys that are in motorcycle clubs
But I have found out is that a lot of girls that has been hurt as they were growing up raped are molested or just abused in some manner never wanted to happen again so they go after a guy that will protect him and at the same time almost do the same thing it has happened to her growing up this is the part that I do not understand because they get used and abused even worse
Bad Boys hate their mothers because of the way if they were brought up and watched their mother's boyfriends beat them up and also beat up the boy when he was younger and he hates his mother for allowing it to happen.. so he goes after the good girl thinking that it's all good but then he starts abusing her just like his mother was none of it makes any sense to me whatsoever

[adriana05]

Because good girls might give guys a more realistic life in the long run. They have good wife qualities and show that they want a life not just a one night stand.

[xamm89]

I'm not attracted to a number of those traits. My wife is the perfect woman. She's taller than me. Has big boobs. Swears like a sailor. Doesn't believe in God. Isn't submissive.

She does have a big heart. She's shy. She's genuinely kind and will go out of her way to help someone in need.

Now, to me it sounds like you're describing that old fashioned man in charge, woman in the kitchen type.

[DizzyDesii]

Dudes like to “turn out” good girls. Make em go bad just for them. Shit works damn near everytime 😭 Thats how i lost my innocence toooo

[DizzyDesii]

by the way your good girl description described me for the most part except i had big boobs lmao

[anon1903]

I love big boobs (not a creepy comment)

[DizzyDesii]

Loll

[Morgador]

OMG who's trying to turn someone out now? You are far far from good girl "I mean this in the very best way". Your innocence is what made him fall for you and I will guarantee he was never the same after you. He will always regret what he did and loosing you. So tell us all how many have you turned out? Lol

[DizzyDesii]

@Morgador lmao i was 14/15 so yea i was naive af. I don't know if anyone else turned me out. Well maybe this one guy at 21. Other than that I probably turned them out lol

[Morgador]

Oh I'm sure you did. Your like a Red Dimond and never forget that.

[DizzyDesii]

@Morgador lmao what is that

[Morgador]

Also in the creepiest way you can imagine, I love big boobs! Lol if they are natural OMG nothing is better than natural boobs

[Morgador]

The rarest diamond ever

[DizzyDesii]

@Morgador hahaha

[tiajoka]

Damn why you gotta call me out 😭

[tiajoka]

@Morgador not saying its you, but guys always say they love big boobs but then expect them to look like porn boobs 😂 perky and round.

[Morgador]

@tiajoka that's why I said natural boobs. I want them bouncing, swinging and flopping all over the place. Big or small as long as they are natural. No I've had ex"s that have implants and I don't like them. They feel fake, they look fake, they loose sensitivity. I understand why women get them and honestly that's sad that society puts that nuch pressure on a woman that she doesn't feel comfortable with her breast. I apologize if I have offended anyone with saying that I don't mean to.

[anon1903]

It'd only be offensive if you hadn't apologized.

[Esten]

I want big titty goth girlfriend, but that does not mean I would get one. Men have some fantasies that they might want from their potential partner, but they know that they will not find all of them in said partner. They might find few qualities and they will be ok with it... we all know that first is look and than it is the rest. Also "good looking" is vague term, because every single person can imagine something different.

[shaysh87]

no guy is gonna fall in love with a girl just by those descriptions. Its about her personality, not what she seems like or what first impressions are. A guy will not fall for you just because you are a "good girl". I have seen guys fall for bad girls or even feisty bad tempered girls. Not all guys look for the same things

[Redstang88]

Not my speed. But they’re easier to manipulate and have less to compare to so that’s why insecure guys will chase them

[Aden02]

Best reply right here

[anon1903]

Agreed!!

[Oigit]

That is not my ideal woman and far from the kind of woman I'd obsess over. I'm very much not part of the most when it comes to this. A lot of it comes us being so dynamically opposed that one or both of us would have to make some serious changes to ourselves to even stand a chance of making a relationship work.