Are girls generally more loving?

[Pillarofhell]

Yes

No

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+1 y

Answer from the heart

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+1 y

Talk it out guys

[jaybee281]

Well are we asking if there are more girls that are loving than guys or are we saying that a girl's degree of love is usually greater than a man's degree of love?

I wouldn't agree with either question by the way.

for question 1 Men in general have a cold exterior while women have a warm exterior - That is not out of love or the lack of it that is how we have learned to adapt (a man with a very warm exterior is a pushover while a woman with a cold exterior is too unappealing since that it's too disagreeable for men) - I think that women with a cold exterior are the least existing people on earth - followed by dudes with cold exterior that have learned their lesson - followed by men with warm exterior who have learned theirs or have yet to learn.. Realize that I'm only talking about exteriors - because what we show socially has nothing to do with actual love - many men with colder exteriors are the most loving people you'd ever get to know - many men with warm exteriors are just too shy and scared to act otherwise - while many women with a warm exterior could be the most socially adequate manipulative people on earth - It's not love it's just a perceptive illusion of it...

For question 2 they say that they're the "fair" sex - Which is true - Could it mean that they're more loving? Yes it could depending on your standards for the word love - bear in mind the initial reasons that lead to that type of love are naive reasons that lead to poor decision making based on emotion - While men mostly make their decisions based on logic - Men think about how to efficiently a country in a way that protects their people and have them prosper - While women feel it's not right that not everyone is the same regardless of the economic consequences and judicial and social implications that would lead to (yes I am talking about equity, socialism and unnecessary rights)

I say that women care too much about the outer world without having a realistic nor futuristic view of it which leads to bad consequences but makes them look more loving - but as I said depending on your standard for love this could not actually be "loving" it could be just a classic case of naivete - meanwhile men care too much about their inner world (the people they actually care about) while still logically trying to make the world around them more efficient - In a way that allows them to prosper all the while being always ready in case bad things happen to prevent their people from getting hurt - Which in a way is an act of love..

[HighValue]

Definitely NOT!

1. More caring? Nope. Why? How often are holidays thought of as only for the woman and she will get angry if the man doesn't plan/do something for her and give her gifts, but if she does nothing for him and gives him nothing it is seen as totally acceptable by society.
2. More nurturing? Nope. In my experience, men teachers are often more caring about their students, more willing to do extra for their students, more willing to spend out of their own pocket if they think it will be beneficial for their students.
As far as women caring about their own children, plenty of them use their kids as a weapon to hurt the father and use the courts to prevent the father from spending time with his kids. And again, from what I have seen while working in schools (I literally have met hundreds of families over the years), women are much more likely to leave their elementary age kids at home alone for extended periods of time so they can go out and party in clubs/bars.
3. More loving? No. When do women do something special like create a hand made card for their SO that includes pictures and notes about experiences they have enjoyed together over the years. How many women make their SO feel cared about instead of just being concerned what she can get from him or what he will do for her. They aren't considered about their partner's emotional well being and think that the only thing men need from a partner is sex.

[AmandaYVR]

I wouldn't use that word, 'loving', no.
But girls are more sensitive, are more often caregivers (both professionally and at home), support and vote for more rights for minority groups and the disenfranchised, and sometimes/quite often (but not always) they can understand more, and have more patience for, the inner world of emotions and feelings and analyzing others' thoughts. (There's definitely no hard-and-fast rule to that though. It does vary a bit, person to person.)
I think both women and men are equally capable of being loving.
But females used to be generally more compassionate to people in general. Now, I'm not sure.

[MrOracle]

"support and vote for more rights for minority groups and the disenfranchised"

This is a huge problem. They should have the SAME rights as everyone else, not more or less. Voting for MORE rights means supporting policies that favor some groups based on race or gender, and that is literally racism and sexism. The playing field needs to be level for everyone, even if some are better at playing the game than others. That's a problem that should be solved in other ways than enacting racist or sexist laws (which the Left likes to call "equity", but that's just putting a more media-friendly name on racist and sexist ideas).

[AmandaYVR]

@MrOracle I strongly disagree. I wasn't referring to women's rights and meant exactly what I said.
I suspected, and have seen tons of examples, of females being more supportive of these.
I'm referring to the marginalization and oppression of people based on a socially-constructed hierarchy. It's inaccurate to try and label this sexism, racism, etc.

[MrOracle]

Can you give me an example? Because RIGHTS (the word you used) don't come with any guarantee of financial success - though they still talk about equality under the law, meaning your $100 is just as valuable as my $100, and if a bank offers a 5% return on a bond (let's say), then that would apply to everyone who buys the bond.

[AmandaYVR]

@MrOracle 1. Mothers tend to support their gay children more than fathers do.
2. Banks do not approve loans to single working f/t females as often as their male counterparts. They also get worse rates.
3. Black Americans applying for jobs are passed over when their name is recognized to be African-American. How do they know this is the reason? Because studies have been done, where the exact same person, same resume, was submitted, but with a Caucasian-Ango sounding name.

I'm not talking about legal rights exclusively. It begins before that, on a social level. The underrepresented, disenfranchised.

[Anonymous]

I think both men and women can be very loving but women are just more upfront about it. Guys don’t generally show their loving side to the general public but girls are more openly affectionate (even with each other), while guys on the other hand are sometimes shamed when they do show affection to other guys without declaring “no homo”.

[PeterQuillsAlive]

I would say with girls you get 2 things

1. Girls tend to be far more emotional, and can very easily develop deep connections.
This is also likely why many girls tend to have LGBTQ qualities as well (think of how many straight women are open to experimenting... just simply because of something like "there are not enough good men".. or how many women go through bi phases.. etc)..
I think women are generally more loving, nurturing, caring.. ETC

HOWEVER
there is a double side to this where I believe
2. Women can be far more vicious..
"hell hath no fury like a woman scorned"
SOME WOMEN seem almost incapable of loving anything... and are nearly impossible to deal with.


It really just depends
but I would say generally women are more "loving" than men.
it is just more in their nature.

but like with anything
there are contradictions and complexities

[Pillarofhell]

I was talking to a young bi girl who told me her parents ignored her and she's desperate for respect and love. She "really wants " woman. I asked her if she thinks girls are more loving, caring and respectful and she said yes

[PeterQuillsAlive]

That is ironic haha.

[menina]

Yes I would say that we are. It's not that guys can't also be loving, they can but girls are usually more affectionate.
However we still live in world where if a man shows affection he is considered weak or "gay" and that doesn't help them. It's toxic.

[Nomoturtle]

Men are inherently toxic by their nature... because they do not act like women.
Women are inherently toxic by their nature... because they do not act like men.
We exist as we do as a historical imprint of the desires and needs of our opposites.

Even if we take your premise that these behaviours are socialised, they do whatever gives them results. It's like men complaining about make-up being fake... but it works.

And even today, with people like you saying men need to cry and be more vulnerable; they usually get attacked, or dismissed by the same people in their vulnerability. Hmm. Why do you want men to be vulnerable again?

[menina]

@Nomoturtle I don't know what you're talking about but I would NEVER attack a man because he was crying or being vulnerable.

[Nomoturtle]

Perhaps you wouldn't. What I'm saying is that there are many reasons things are the way they are, even if you think the result is "toxic".

[menina]

@Nomoturtle No, I wouldn't for sure. And it is toxic because men should have the right of crying without being labelled as "weak" or "gay".

[Nomoturtle]

I wrote a rant addressing what you said; let me know if you want to hear it, or you could derive it from what I've said already. But I thought it would be better to just ask you questions instead:

Why do you think men have toxic behaviours? How did these behaviours come about? And assuming they are functional and perhaps were desired in the past, what has changed in the present such that you now want them to change?

[menina]

@Nomoturtle No, I don't want to hear your rant but I can answer your questions. Thanks for asking first.

"Why do you think men have toxic behaviours? - Because they're taught from an early age that they must act in a certain way due to their gender otherwise people will see them as weak or "gay". They won't be acting like a "real man" does.

How did these behaviours come about? It's the way our society was made. Man had to be "manly" and tough and women "feminine", weak and delicate.

And assuming they are functional and perhaps were desired in the past, what has changed in the present such that you now want them to change? I was just stating my opinion. It's not up to me to change the way men or women behave.

[Nomoturtle]

Well then that's the difference between our views. You think these things are socialised, devoid of any non-arbitrary cause. And if it's arbitrary and not related to any cause or effect, why not change it?

I think it's a mix of nature and nurture, and that even the nurture components have selective pressures that derive them. And there's evidence for natural components. Eg men have larger tear ducts, smaller tear glands, and are indeed socially taught not to cry. I think of all 3 of these as evolutionary adaptations to the needs and wants of women and the conditions of reality, hence what I said at the start.

[menina]

@Nomoturtle Yes I believe it has more do with social factors than genetic ones.
But I understand what you're saying.
That could be changed but I don't think it will ever change.

[CharlesScene]

I put no, but the real answer is Yes and No. Depends on the person, I am definitely more loving than my girlfriend, but know plenty of people in relationships where that was flipped. This is honestly to blanket of a statement to really use and has way to many variables

[KrisPW]

I don't think we're more "loving", but I do think we show it in different ways. It's more acceptable for us to show our love, or emotions in general, than it is for men. And I think men are more likely to show their love in their work, loving their wives / family by working hard to be good providers.

[Anonymous]

it depends. it is shown that women in nature, tend to be more nurturing and caring, but not everyone is the same.

[CandaceSims201]

not all women are same. they can be has mean or very shallow. can get along to just fine but there very attracted men they will fight out and start drama and yep this what happen some time with me they don't love anyone more les ,

[Adam1978]

No certainly not we just show love differently. And todays women seem more and more incapable of actually loving anyone except their own ego. So if anything it seems to flip if it hasn't already.

[MCheetah]

In my experience, no. No, girls are not generally more loving, or kind, or nice. Although I think they're more emotional, overall. I don't think guys or girls in general are very "loving."

[dustybiker]

It’s not gender specific. There are harsh and soft people of both genders. In emergencies woman tend to be less sensitive compared to men from my own specific personal experiences.

[dustybiker]

More loving is not gender specific either.. put my phone down a moment and should have re-read before answering from memory.

[Anonymous]

I think many girls are more open in showing love, but I don't think that necessarily makes them more loving. I've been lucky to know guys who love very deeply, even if they aren't the best at showing it.

[Wester1967]

Girls can be cynical and degenerate and toxic AF. Girls can pull of the life destroying betrayal at the drop of a hat. Most guys couldn't be that ultra cold esp to a woman. I said most.

[t-8900]

I don't know sometimes i feel like i've loved harder then the girls in past relationships. i do know some pretty cold dudes though

[Lucy68]

To be honest it depends on the girl. Some girls are more loving while some aren't.

[Cubus]

In some way. Women care more about feelings, emotions and passion while men care more about sex and physicals. But it's on average.

[Pillarofhell]

If you cared about dogs more, but I cared about cats more, who would be more loving?

[Gwenhwyfar]

Generally but there are definitely exceptions on both sides

[BobbyC65]

Loving doesn't exist.

[CuriousMufuxka]

Going no. While the appearance is completely there, the actual compassion goes to the guys. We don't show love as much, but the willingness is stronger.

[exitseven]

I am shocked that yes did not get a huge share of the vote.

[Mangospacho]

Women are more nurturing and vocal about their love. Men are more likely to sacrifice themselves or their lives for someone they love.

[Exterminatore]

Towards their children, yes. Towards their husband, no.

[EnglishEuropean]

Girls are as loving as they want to be, when they want to be. Most of them don't have any loyalty to a specific man.

[Dnice1]

Well to me both can be very loving. It just depends on the person.

[OddBeMe]

What does that mean? What are the behaviors of loving?

[InferiorElegy]

Depends on who you are. If you're like me females tend to look at you as trash.

[Xoirwinkan]

I would say yes, but you also need to consider that they display their emotions like an open book.

[Aiko_E_Lara]

They just show it more. Guys act on it more while trying not to make it obvious.

[WilliamAnton]

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[Noelnoel17]

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[WilliamAnton]

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[WilliamAnton]

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[Anonymous]

They're heartless bitches pretending to be polite to get favors and eventually she'll dump you once you're of no use to her.

Stay away from them, don't be a prey.

Telling you from my experience.

[Kingofkings1992]

Girls appear to be more loving on the surface. Deep down, a lot of them are two faced mind game playing bitches.

[DizzyDesii]

More nurturing at least

[kenz000]

Really depends on the person in my opinion.

[Anonymous]

Tbh I’d argue men are more loving and sensitive inside than women. Women suck

[Joshua0213]

Depends on who the people are.

[msc545]

No, they are far more likely to lie and betray you

[Iron_Man]

In most cases yes

[Sadway_Josh]

They maybe golddigger most of them

[Slim57]

Hell no. It's all about the person

[DoYouBelieveInMagic]

No, just different ways of expressing their love

[Anonymous]

No and men are more sensitive than women

[Kkoalalita]

Depends on the girl

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Totally false.

[Hulk30]

it's true