Girls, if after a date which you thought went well, at the end he just waved goodbye and there no hug or touch, would you be disappointed?

[Anonymous]

Yes I would be disappointed

No I would not be disappointed

[lilyanony1]

I would definitely be disappointed but not for the reasons you think.
These days we are so accustomed to men being sex hungry that we don't even consider that there are men out there that set boundaries for themselves and others at least until they feel ready to open up.

I wouldn't take it as rejection if he is still interested and giving clear indications that he wants to see me again.
Id just reassess the situation and myself to see who exactly I am dealing with.

I myself don't really like men and people that are all over me like a hot rash so this would actually be a welcomed changed. 😊

[Asker]

What would be the clear indications?

[lilyanony1]

He's still engaging in conversation, whether it's texts, calls whatever. He's talking about things he likes and interesting in finding out about me.
Inviting me out.
All the normal things a person interested in you beyond just being sex mad!

[Sam2021]

totally relate to this. i find it attractive and respectful when men have set boundaries for themselves. If a men is interested in a woman you will know trust me.

[alleon]

I spent time with a man on 3 separate occasions that he invited me on. Not one touch kiss nothing. I thought he just wanted to be my friend. We ended up having a convo about it I invited him over to my place for a kiss and it was amazing lol. So yeah give some kind of indication lol

[Asker]

If you didn’t have that conversation with him and you just became friends, do you think you would have rejected him if he tried to kiss you a year later?

[alleon]

It’s hard to say. A lot can happen in a month let alone a year. It’s hard to say how I’d feel then. But either way I’d be good about it be kind and polite wether I liked it or not. I’d say so

[Asker]

So you think guys have a limited window of opportunity to make a move? Otherwise they miss the boat?

[alleon]

It’s just better to go for what you want right off. But doesn’t mean there isn’t a chance later either. Maybe she keeps you around in hopes. Who knows. Wether you just met her or it’s been a year. “Shoot your shot” as people say these days.

[Asker]

I’ve been on 2 dates with a girl and arranged to meet a third time after a couple of months. But there’s been no touching or hugging so I just assumed we’re just heading towards friendship.

[alleon]

Then at least try a hug, while simultaneously giving a kiss on the cheek or just go for this kiss

[Asker]

I’m afraid she won’t like it. Or that it might be seen as harassment.

[alleon]

Do you want to be her friend forever? I’d the answer is yes. Then don’t make a move. Otherwise don’t be a coward. Get it over with. Rip the band aid off.

[Asker]

I have many female friends I hang out with 1 on 1. Some of them I’ve asked On a date at 1 point long after we started hanging out 1 on 1 and they alls aid they just want to be friends.

[alleon]

Then it’s clear that you have to stop waiting so long

[Asker]

Maybe I was never on the cards in the first place though.

[alleon]

You don’t know for sure

[Asker]

It’s hard to read people.

[alleon]

Trust me. It’s hard for us too. Except with us even when the signs are clear we make up reasons in our heads and think there’s still a chance when we really like someone 😂😂😂

[Asker]

I don’t. I just pretty much always give up and assume they don’t like me in that way.

[SEL195]

I have a thing aboit physical contact. I would prefer not to have it with strangers. He might be shy af though. If he is still talking to you then he was shy. If he is anything like me he is just an awkward person and doesn't know how to react in social situations with people he likes.

[Anonymous]

It depends on how many dates we went on. the first date, i wouldn’t be too upset. after the 3rd, i’d be a little confused… no hug? it depends on the boundaries, i suppose. first date is kinda a casual thing for me, i like to take it slow… all depends on the couple/person.

[Asker]

Why confused?

[Opinion Owner]

After the 3rd date, I think a hug would be appropriate… (depending on the persons boundaries) But i’d be confused as to why they held back on at least a hug goodbye.

[Asker]

So you want some level of physical intimacy by then.

[Opinion Owner]

Sure, a hug isn’t much… I’d wait until further dates to feel comfortable kissing.

[Asker]

What about touching hands?

[Opinion Owner]

Touching hands, hugging, fine with me.

[silvermoon84]

That would indicate to me that he doesn’t have any interest in seeing me again so my feeling would depend on whether or not I wanted to see him again

[KrisPW]

First date, I would be ok with it. After that, I'd expect a little more progression if things were going as well I as I thought.

[Anonymous]

I'd want a hug. I think a kiss is too much for a first date (if this is the first time really meeting the guy), but a wave or a handshake would make me think the guy wasn't interested. A hug is the perfect balance.

[melanieeeB]

Noope, I mostly don't kiss after a date anyways so that would be totally fine for me

[Anonymous]

I mean yes and no… it really just depends on how I felt the whole time. If I liked what I was seeing yea sure I’d be disappointed if I didn’t really like him then I wouldn’t have cared much.

[Anonymous]

No, if anything I would enjoy that more, especially if I was having a good time.

[FictionalCharacter]

I don't think I would notice

[JosyJosy]

I'd be okay with it, I need time anyway