I dont understand why this gorgeous woman wants anything to do with me. Its dampering our relationship that Im ugly an dinsecure and can't accept it?

[KroovyGG]

What can I do to accept it and move on? Every day I look at her and I feel like an absolute trashcan when I realize how gorgeous she really is. And then I can't help but feel insecure and not want her to see my ugly face. I worry she will leave for someone better constantly bc face it, its not hard. Toss a rock and you'll hit 10 people who are x10 better looking. It drives me insane that I couldn't even look average. I need advice on what to do.

[boltfox20]

Believe me when I say that I completely understand your pain. I have felt the exact same way, even now, with my fiancé sleeping next to me and cuddling me. It blows my mind every day that she wants anything to do with me.

However, the difference is that my confusion actually has nothing to do with my appearance. It has nothing to do with my personality. It has nothing to do with how beautiful she is.

It's all in your head.

That's not to say your feelings are not real or valid. They are very much real and a huge threat to your relationship. However, it's all about personal perception of yourself, nothing to do with your actual appearance.

You have grown so disappointed with yourself and your body that all you see is the bad. Regardless of situation, when you see yourself, you see an ugly man, undeserving of such a fine beauty queen. You look in the mirror and no longer see yourself. You just see an ugly man that no woman could ever possibly want. You fully understand all of the rejections women have given you over the years, either directly or indirectly, and don't blame them for not giving you a chance. You're far too undesirable for that, right?

Trust me when I say this. I speak the truth, with every fiber of my being.

You are damn sexy.

Most men would say no homo, here, but there is a lot of homo in those words. I am bisexual. I prefer women. I would absolutely consider you if you wanted to be my first boyfriend. You look great!

So, why don't you see it?

The brain is a powerful tool, for good and evil. When you experience nothing but positives in your life, you think nothing but positive thoughts. When you experience nothing but negatives throughout your life, you think negative thoughts. When you experience only negatives about specific things, your brain will only feed you back more negatives about that one thing and all related things.

What you need is positive reinforcement. Not just from your girlfriend, but from outsiders, people that don't know you or have a vested interest in your happiness. To that end, this post is a great starting point. Just look at the replies you've already received. They say it all.

There is only one league you need to be concerned with, and that is how much she loves you. From what you said here, I can tell you that you are #1 in that league. Top position out of nearly 4 billion other men on this planet. Do you honestly think it's purely because of how you look? Do you think she is that shallow? Or do you think there are other things about you tat put you in a higher position, over all of the other men she has ever met?

You have a long road ahead of you, but not as long if you trust others to help you. I recommend seeing a therapist about your self-esteem issue. Trust me on this. As I said, I had the same problem. I went to therapy for it. Slowly, my vision of myself improved, but I felt the same about it, for a while. Finally, about 2 years into my therapy, I looked into a mirror and I didn't see the ugly man, anymore. It felt like I was looking at an old friend that I hadn't seen in decades. There I was. Just me. As myself. No ugliness. Nothing to be ashamed of. No more questions about how attractive I was to my fiancé.

I was me, again.

Positive reinforcement helped me out significantly, and the therapy helped me find the source of my problem so I could target it, directly. It was a long road, but worth the journey. You'll get there, too. Never give up on yourself. You are significantly more attractive than you give yourself credit for. :)

[CharlesScene]

You look amazing man. Don't sweat it at all. Also trust me, It is very normal to feel out of a girls league, I feel all the time too. Also dig the flow, that is a good head of hair

You can try focusing on your wins, and these wins can be anything, you have job? that's a win. You are going to school, that's a win. You just took a shower, that is a win. You take wins everyday, I am sure there is plenty of things when you truly think deep down that are definitely a positive.

[tatianamay]

She is in your league. She loves you, and you love her. Enjoy yoyr relationship and live a happy life.

[jshm2]

Firstly she's not that hot, bub.

Secondly, what you're talking about is "impostor syndrome" . Not saying you'll murder her one day or anything, but you are suffering mental problems and she's in the middle of it in a negative way.

You will probably need to address your mental health before it makes you do sketchy things.

[slatyb]

Is that the two of you? In this straight man's opinion, you are more attractive than her. What do you imagine is unattractive about you? Or are you just fishing for complements?

[wankiam]

you look like a good match to me so stop letting it get to you else you run the risk becoming the victim of self fulfilling prophecy

[Jamie05rhs]

Bro, not to sound gay or anything, but you're just as hot as she is. And I really mean that; that is a genuine compliment.
But I think it's great that you hold her in such high esteem. That's a good thing! You're SUPPOSED to love your woman! :)

[FýrdracaDócincel]

Just leave her before you shoot her in the face for so much as glancing at another dude's direction? Don't even try to get help after, just lock your own ass up.

[Iron_Man]

There’s no way she’s out of your league I can tell you that much

[HughDogg]

You're falling into a dangerous trap my friend. I suggest you stop talking so negatively about yourself before it's too late

[OddBeMe]

The fact that you’re both vampires seems to be a good connection.

[ManHater]

She's good looking? Get a hair cut Micheal Baldwin.

[REDHOTLINE]

You are better then her. She is fat not sexy or so beautiful and also great.

[Relux47]

You have a very special woman in your life man that loves you a lot. No reason to feel that way