Guys, Do men still like caring/maternal women?

[Flowergal600]

I am very maternal, but aware this comes off as controlling to some guys. My ex once described me as being ‘over caring’? I always like to make sure my SO has eaten and drank enough and would always make my ex a hot snack after work. I like to spoon/hold my SO in bed and sometimes wash their hair/body in the shower. Used to call my ex a good boy and my baby boy. Are these desirable traits, or am I just odd? Just feel like my caring side goes so unappreciated sometimes!

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Forgot to say, I am 24. :)

[ReneD13]

I think caring is a very desirable trait and so is being maternal in some ways because from a biological standpoint it would signal that you are ready or would be a good mother if the relationship went that far. With that being said for a relationship I am looking for a partner not a second mother for me. I don't want to feel like a child in a relationship. Sounds like you could potentially be teetering on that edge of being overbearing but I can't know for sure because I obviously haven't experienced dating you.

[Flowergal600]

Fair enough. What would you class as overbearing?

[ReneD13]

The one part that stood out for me in your post was the making sure someone ate or drank enough in a day. Like I said in a relationship I want a partner not a second mother. I don't want someone asking me everyday if I've eaten or drank enough water, I'm an adult I can take care of myself for the most part. I think that's different than checking in when you know someone is under a lot of stress and you just want to pop in for a wellness check I think that's greatly appreciated. A lot of the other stuff you mentioned sounded great but I'm also a physical touch kind of a person with my SO, it's my "love langauge" so to speak.

[jaybee281]

I've been in a relationship with a girl like you - I genuinely loved her and loved how much she cared about me - Especially since that we were complete opposites - My only problem was whenever something was "risky" or "dangerous" she wouldn't do it and whine about me doing it and get angry about it - If I listened to her I'd just feel stale and bored which is an almost life killer for me - so I learned not to listen to her and if something bad happened she'd still take care of me.. Also the baby boy thing was something I only minded socially since that it kinda feels belittling - But yea I personally love such a person

[HellGeist]

For the most part that sounds awesome to me!

Me personally I think the good boy/baby boy stuff is a bit much for me, however I would rather date a woman like you than an entitled, high-maintenance, difficult woman any day!

If more women were like you that would be a great thing for the world and society.

Especially because it comes from the heart and you're naturally like that.

There are tons of men out there who would really appreciate that, so just get a dude that actually appreciates you.

Cheers.

[horatiohornblower]

I think it really depends on how independent a guy is. It's one of those things guys will find as a huge positive or a huge negative. Without much middle ground.

I'd expect guys who want kids and a housewife will really like those characteristics.

[TomGarand]

@Flowergal600 Yes. And while I find more masculine traits in women attractive, one of the best feminine traits a woman can have is a maternal personality--or at least a desire to be a mother.

But the fact that you called your ex a good boy and your baby boy does raise an eyebrow. Are you genuinely dominant in relationships? Do you enjoy being in charge?

[boggboss]

Most sounds fine dont know if I would like being called baby boy or good boy as to me that would come off as belittling also I guess if u go overbored it can as a whole seem clingy which can also be a turnoff

[Flowergal600]

Makes sense, thanks!

[bamesjond0069]

Baby boy is too much. The rest is ok. I like caring but i dont want it to be a mom son relationship wtf. Caring is not control. How are you controlling by making him a snack? That doesn't make sense to me.

[exitseven]

It sounds really nice. As long as you don't use baby talk. that is pretty cringe as the kids say.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

As a guy, I'm cool with that if a woman was a maternal woman with me 👍

[JSmuve]

Some guys love it, some hate it. I personally like maternal women and greatly prefer them over uncaring women but I can do without being controlled or hovered over. I had a helicopter mom growing up so I can do without another. I need my space.

[AviatorTom]

Fir me, a woman who likes to take care of us, not just me, is ideal. I guess you'd call that a maternal (not material) woman.

[Twalli]

Calling him good boy and baby boy may be a bit much. My sister makes meals for her boyfriend and does his laundry. My girlfriend and I wash each other in the shower. I think it really depends on how much you treat him like a child