Am I right to feel used and worthless?

Question

This guy pretend to like me and after a few times sex he threw me away and iy made me feel so worthless and used.

HellGeist · Accepted Answer

I don't really get it. If the sex was good and you wanted it, what's the issue? He clearly did like you enough to have sex with you.

If you wanted commitment from him as a precursor to having sex, then you could have tried to secure the relationship with him beforehand.

You're allowed to feel however you feel, but I don't think he used you unless you asked for commitment before having sex with him, verified his intentions with you, and then he lied and played you and dumped you as soon as he got laid and he reneged his commitment to you.

You wanted to have sex with him, and he wanted to have sex with you. You guys both agreed to the sex. Sex occurred. Equal exchange. Who is using who here?

I'm sorry, but at your age you're mature enough to know what sex and intimacy entails, and unless he straight-up lied to you about his intentions surrounding commitment, he didn't use you.

Please don't engage in casual sex in order to chase after commitment, because it doesn't work that way and you're only hurting yourself.

You put the cart before the horse.

ohshee · Accepted Answer

I know you're saying but don't feel that way feel happy and thank him for being a fucking dick because it could have lasted a lot longer maybe even a few years and then he would have done it so be happy that it happened now and there's over with you will find the person that you want to be with he will keep using people that people that use people when they have nobody else in their life and your next boyfriend listen to their words do you want me to they're lying to you look into their eyes because they will tell you the truth at the same time they just don't know it

readyplayer001 · Accepted Answer

i think what you are feeling is normal yes but as hard as it is dont dwell on it, he is a dbag. live and learn we all make mistakes. YOU ARE NOT WORTHLESS. next time he contacts you and im sure he will each out at some point, delete any contact with him, say you moved on to a better phase in your life with better people. he is worthless and a selfish human

TacosRAwesome · Accepted Answer

You're right to feel how you feel but it's also your choice.

The_Maphio · Answer

People like that exist, on both sides of the gender spectrum. Never have your awareness fogged by love or infatuations, for the clues of them being this kind of person are usually glaring, but made less evident by starry eyes. Feeling useless, sure. Worthless, I'd not say. You got a rather invaluable new piece of experience now, make good use of it.

Fireguy17 · Answer

No, you are not worthless, he is for using you.
You need to fine the right person that will appreciate you for you.
Maybe wait longer before you have sex with someone, unless you know that this will be a one night stand.
If he is truly interested, he will wait for you.
That should help get rid of those that just want to use you.

wankiam · Answer

used, yes but please dont feel worthless and if anything good is to be taken from this at least you have had a lesson in how to recognise people you can't trust in life... just look forward and dont let this get you down too much

Anonymous · Answer

Not used and worthless. Just kind of gullible... maybe a little dumb. Because the signs were there if you were looking. But it's OK. It'll probably happen again to you. Just don't use it as an excuse to hate all guys and there's a good chance you'll get it right eventually.

HighValue · Answer

People shouldn't have sex until they have been together for a while and had time to form strong emotional connections. I don't know why people haven't learned that yet.
And someone's past matters. They need to learn that too.

lonestar_01 · Answer

You have been used, and you have been treated like you are worthless. However, this is no reflection on you, this is life and it is what a lot of people are indeed like. Learn from this and move onwards and upwards my friend. Best of luck to you.

jshm2 · Answer

Well... he was trashy in what he did. But you did put out too easy, and he treated you as such.

So it's probably best you think about it differently. He didn't use and abuse you and pass you round his friends like most guys like that would.

slatyb · Answer

That's life. No reflection on you. You can't trade sex for love or commitment, don't even try.  Why do you feel used? Didn't you want to have sex with him?

boggboss · Answer

Use it as a life lesson dont have sex with guys that have not shown they are trustworthy its 2021 its not like this is a new thing

loveslongnails · Answer

No, you're not worthless, you just made a mistake because you wanted desperately to believe that someone really cared for you. He didn't. Someone else will, but you have to be careful, smart and more selective.

MCheetah · Answer

Seek professional help from a therapist to boost your self-esteem.

DaveJord · Answer

Used yes you're right to feel used. Worthless? ABSOLUTELY NOT!!!

Mango-man · Answer

No. Though you could try to seek decent men instead of boys and players.

Massageman · Answer

Most of us have been there in one form or another. The important part is to simply believe in yourself and keep on keeping on!

RichSD · Answer

It sucks that it happened to you, but you'll learn and grow from it. Get to know someone really really well before you get intimate next time.

Lazyrider67 · Answer

I wouldn't finish with a girl without talking to her about it first. It's rude and ignorant. He's just an unpleasant, arrogant guy, so forget him and move on.

Wise4myage · Answer

No, because it was likely not your fault. But just learn from this experience.

Jcrummy98 · Answer

Don't feel worthless to yourself. He might not be the person for you. Just move on and you will fond someone better.

shanesc30 · Answer

Thats really really bad. You cannot feel anything else now.

Hulk30 · Answer

no but i understand im really sorry about that maa'm

Gwenhwyfar · Answer

Oh god yes. Absolutely. I feel for you girl.

noohair · Answer

Used but not worthless.

DmMeNow · Answer

I guess But u shouldn't date him once more

Zygum · Answer

He followed the principle, Fuck and Dump

Anonymous · Answer

typical women like ass holes  deal with it

Oh-canada · Answer

Yeah you were used.

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