Do you have a crush on someone but are afraid to let them know?

[coachTanthony]

[Youryeodongsaeng]

I did have a crush on my cousin a few weeks ago.
When one of my friends came over, he said that he was into her. Let me tell you, I was furious. I had pulled said friend into my room to tell her not to do any funny shit with him. She told me that he was the one who said he liked her. I didn't like the idea of one of my friends dating my first cousin. Not only that, she wouldn't be a good girlfriend. There's a video of her giving head to some dude, and she's already got her heart set on some 20-something-year-old guy that has a child. She did tell me and some others that she wouldn't mind being with a man who already has a child.

Two days after my cousin said that he liked her, my mom and my cousin and I were in the car. I forgot where we were going. So, my mom h=was having a conversation with her nephew. He said that he likes big girls. "I like meat on my women." I instantly felt loved for some reason because I'm fat and I did think that I would have my chance with him... Though, I wasn't optimistic.
My mother then starts to tell him the truth about said friend. I was relieved to hear that he has lost interest in her.

Fast forward to that night, I decided to hit him up on Facebook Messenger. I searched for him on my friend list, then I messaged him. I started with what I remember what we did as kids. It was only a one-time thing, so I decided to bring it up. It was something sexual, so I am not going to say it here.
He replied if I liked him and I confessed. He told me to 'come here.' (he was staying at the house for a little while, so he slept in my little brother's room). At the time, everyone was asleep. I walked into the room and we talked.
He said that he doesn't remember us doing that when we were kids. Then a few seconds later, he said, "But you're my cousin..." or "But we're cousins..."
He then asked if my feelings were sexual and I said yes. He did consider sex, then reconsider because he thought about the most important part. I said that I have the rubber, so he told me to bring it, so I did.
The next thing I know, he was choking me with the wand. Then it escalated, yet I can't say it up here because my account has been frozen for putting rated-r opinions up here.

Skipping to after all of that, yeah, it was my first time. We both got up and he said that we are never doing that again. I left the room and I felt an idiotic smile forming across my face.

Skipping to the next day, he decided to mess with a skinny woman who legit belongs to the streets. (I'm not calling her that out of jealousy, I'm calling her that because it is the truth. My mom knows it and my stepdad does too. She did say that she has a boyfriend the day after she had her little fun; I wanted to slap her so badly because she cheated. This female dog wears a fucking neck brace just to gain sympathy out of people). Anyway, I did get upset and then that same next day, I confronted him. I had the right to be angry because he did not discuss my feelings for him. Like, someone tells you that they have a crush on you and you turn around and mess with someone else, not discussing the other's feelings.
We texted, of course. I was trying to get an answer. He said, "You just need a boyfriend and I'm not it."
I just sat there, processing it, because it just occurred to me that I really do need emotional support. The only thing is, I have to wait for that special someone to come. For four years, I told myself that I'm not ready for a relationship because I was just done with dating. My last relationship made me lose all hope for love to the point where I convinced myself that I'm not ready.

[Youryeodongsaeng]

I know dating my cousin, let alone liking was wrong. I even told him to forget about what we did that night and to forget my feelings for him. I ended up being sad for two or three weeks, then I just went back to being done with things. This is why I don't try to shoot my shot. Nothing ever goes right. And I'm not the only one who has been in a scenario where things just don't go right for them either.

[Gogeta42]

Well I'm really sorry that happened but dang that's crazy he should've just left that girl alone if he knows she cheats.

[Anonymous]

I currently have really strong feelings for a guy at the moment (as a 23-year-old girl, this is the first time I’ve actually ever been attracted to someone). This guy that I’ve been texting to for a few months and hung out with a few times is a very kind and charming gentleman, and we seem to share a lot of interests and values. I’m not afraid to tell him how I feel but unfortunately he’s been experiencing a lot of unfortunate events recently that has made him depressed at the moment, so I’ve kinda backed off the idea of telling him that and just want to be a supportive friend to him for the time being while he’s getting through these problems he’s facing.



Don’t get me wrong…I’m terrified of the idea of being rejected by him since I feel I have a good connection and bond to him, but I know that he needs to know how I feel about him since we’ve been in the friend-zone for a while now. I don’t want him to think that we’re not going anywhere as far as a relationship goes, and for him to start looking into dating other women due to that. If I had to choose between telling the guy I like that I have feelings for him only to end up being rejected and staying in the friend-zone vs never telling him out of fear and him eventually ending up with another girl in the future due to having the impression that I only see him as a friend, I would much rather choose the first option. I’m definitely ready to get my feelings out in the open to him, but I’ll have to wait to shoot my shot when he’s at a better place emotionally.

[ZackBan]

This used to be the story of my life until fairly recently.
Now I say what I mean and mean what I say, be it to a crush a co-worker or even my boss.
Because I found that in an attempt to avoid confrontation you lose the respect of others instead of gaining it.
Humans tend to respect the ones who are unapologetic about their lives and it took me a while to drill that into my head but I think I'm at a point where I'm more unapologetic than the average guy

[OlderAndWiser]

I'm living with my girlfriend and every night, before we go to sleep spooned together, I whisper in her ear that I'm glad she is in my life. I know it sounds disgustingly saccharin but it's who I am.

[Cynicaldreamer]

Thank goodness no! I haven't had a crush on anyone in a while-

Kind of glad too, as all of my crushes end up exactly as that: crushes my heart and spirit :|

[Account]

I do, but it is complicated and it is also none of their business to know how I feel.

[ZackBan]

Damn, "none of their business to know how I feel" you make it sound like they are at fault for you having a crush.

[Account]

Kindly fuck off please.

[cookiecrusher]

You sound like someone with a inflated sense of self. Tone it down a bit.

[Shoichiro]

@Rob17792 I don't see how that makes someone "fucked up". The default setting is the guy not knowing what's going on in her head. She is clearly not obliged to tell him either.

[Account]

@cookiecrusher Thank you. You sound like someone whose opinion I don't care about. It is of null significance to me. Have the day you deserve.

@Shoichiro I don't see it either, but that is okay, thank you for understanding what I am saying though. I wouldn't want to know what is going on somebody's head too, if they were not willing to tell me. It is a 100% their right.

[Youryeodongsaeng]

I actually like your idea of this. It's none of their business if they were willing to tell you how they feel. Does this also apply to a girl having feelings for this boy and the girl knows he isn't interested in her, so she never tells him her feelings? (tbh, i like that)

[jennifer_bloom]

I let all my interests know what I think - at least the ones I saw at work or fellowship - I am now waiting for them to come to me

[Satyromaniac]

Hoping someone does. best wishes.

[howhigh420]

Iam never a shy girk at allbguys that are nice lookingvin pubs I've always told out straight uve got some ass your fkn hot av been to tesco nd said to a hot guy in a work suit now i love seeing guys in worksuits nd a said ibtapped his shoulder nd sayed a always like seeing a sexy in a worksuit av told a guy in my optitions he's gorgous to a can't stop saying it a guy that wirks in my gym i say to him ure absoulutly gorgeous chris ure a looker guys on moter bikes af shouted your hot or a guy a seen in a belter ae a car a shoulted out to him beltervae a motor when something needs to be said i go with my instincts and say am not shy am a straight forward girl plus a good looking guy must always be told he's beautiful samecas women if ure a guy

[Amy10223]

Yes, I do. But it's no good art all because he is married already. So it's wrong--but I was not aware he was. It is a silly situation--we both play a game on an app--and I googled his name. He's married. You would not know it because he's aways on it playing at night. But he is. :(

[ThrowAwayx404]

I don’t tell any girl/woman that I have a crush on them about it. I remember growing up girls/women would be kind and polite even if they were rejecting you. Now a days being approached and/or told about a crush is nothing more than a narcissistic ego stroke for them. Now a days, girls/women use it as a power play to demean and insult you for having the audacity to like them, especially if you’re not tall enough or have enough money. I’m just tired of being treated like a leper just because I like you and made an effort to let you know. Not to mention that with #MeToo anything can be misinterpreted or misconstrued as sexual harassment.

It’s just not worth the mockery and looks of disgust.

[Jaximus-Lion]

When i was a kid, at age of 15-16, yes. I did nothing about it. I have no idea where the girl is now (i moved to another country). But i have been in the situation where i am the crush, one girl told me about her feelings and it got awkward real quick. Few other women i worked with were pretty obveious they couldn't hide it and it's funny and awkward.

[DizzyDesii]

Nah its easy letting someone know. Its hard to face their reaction because you dont know what to expect

[Cherry234]

Currently, no. I haven't always told my crushes I like them. I have told some or have shown some I like them. Though I don't think it's always a good idea to let a person know you like him/her, especially if you barely know that person or the other person has no interest in you whatsoever.

[lightbulb27]

yea, I have a crush on my girlfriend. I tell her I love her every day, but there's always another way to say she's special to me.

She's really amazing, sweet, strong, so enjoy being with her when she has time to cook, enjoying good food together, snuggling up watching a show, exploring the world. I got lucky to find her.

How do you do it?

[Jemini_Crocket]

In a way, I don't know him, I only see and sometimes meet him when shopping in the morning... I haven't seen for a long time now though... I'm afraid I may have missed my chance.

[Bklynbadboy12]

Awwww!

[Heartache0405]

No. I don't do crushes.


I used to have one in grade school. Liked the same girl sense elementary school all the way up till we graduated in high school. Never talked to each other even though we used to be friends in high school.


I had one other crush at another school while in elementary school before switching schools, but I forgot about her pretty easy.


I don't have crushes anymore. Not worth it

[Anonymous]

Yeah… I met this guy on tinder and we matched and we talk a bit but he doesn’t seem interested or attracted to me and I’m afraid to ask him if he is, and I’m also afraid to tell him that I’m really interested in him and want to date him… Maybe he’s taking things slow but it’s giving me mixed signals 🥲

[Grl2live_nlearn4u]

Just go for it, its online and if u want to meet him you will kno if u shud continue or move on.

[Cloudsareunderrated]

No.. already gone down that path before.. I had liked a guy for 6 years and finally told him that I used to like him.. he said he saw it as a compliment but kind of laughed it off. I'm over him now, but I did kind of throw up in my mouth when he asked a sophmore I really don't like to homecoming. They went together..

[Anonymous]

Yeah, of course. I had and i could not say to him. But i was quite sure that he already knew. If i could talk to him about any topic to start conversation i was sure that he would answer me. I was not thinking that he liked me like i liked him. He was very confident, flirty and handsome person. But i can say that if i had the courage and talked with him and even if we would not be a couple i would feel relieved to say to him my feelings. But i could not being shy is a hell.

[beebella]

I always have a crush on someone, but it's not that I'm afraid to let them know, I just don't think it's that necessary to tell them if I'm not interested dating right now.

[Seangreen]

I gave up on that mentality a long time ago you might as well just get it out of the way cuz two things can only happen one they like you too and it becomes a beautiful thing at least for a little while or they reject your ass and you pick yourself up dust yourself off and go on to the next

[TDDMS]

It depends on where the woman is from when it comes to expressing my affection for them. If it's an American woman, then no, I will not say anything to her. In fact I will go to lengths as to not show my interest in her and if she shows any interest in me, I will just dismiss her flirtations as accidents or faux pas. If, on the other hand, it's a Japanese, Korean, or Québecois woman, then yes I will let her know.

[Purplemonkey242]

Huge crush on my ex co worker. He wasn't cute but I loved his personality. He always made me laugh and we got along great. BUT he's active military, married with 3 kids. So I didn't even bother. I miss him so much.

[kyleelyn199723]

Thankfully not anymore lol my crush is my boyfriend

[Bklynbadboy12]

Nice! 😂