Do you have a crush on someone but are afraid to let them know?

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Youryeodongsaeng · Accepted Answer

I did have a crush on my cousin a few weeks ago.
When one of my friends came over, he said that he was into her. Let me tell you, I was furious. I had pulled said friend into my room to tell her not to do any funny shit with him. She told me that he was the one who said he liked her. I didn't like the idea of one of my friends dating my first cousin. Not only that, she wouldn't be a good girlfriend. There's a video of her giving head to some dude, and she's already got her heart set on some 20-something-year-old guy that has a child. She did tell me and some others that she wouldn't mind being with a man who already has a child.

Two days after my cousin said that he liked her, my mom and my cousin and I were in the car. I forgot where we were going. So, my mom h=was having a conversation with her nephew. He said that he likes big girls. "I like meat on my women." I instantly felt loved for some reason because I'm fat and I did think that I would have my chance with him... Though, I wasn't optimistic.
My mother then starts to tell him the truth about said friend. I was relieved to hear that he has lost interest in her.

Fast forward to that night, I decided to hit him up on Facebook Messenger. I searched for him on my friend list, then I messaged him. I started with what I remember what we did as kids. It was only a one-time thing, so I decided to bring it up. It was something sexual, so I am not going to say it here.
He replied if I liked him and I confessed. He told me to 'come here.' (he was staying at the house for a little while, so he slept in my little brother's room). At the time, everyone was asleep. I walked into the room and we talked.
He said that he doesn't remember us doing that when we were kids. Then a few seconds later, he said, "But you're my cousin..." or "But we're cousins..."
He then asked if my feelings were sexual and I said yes. He did consider sex, then reconsider because he thought about the most important part. I said that I have the rubber, so he told me to bring it, so I did.
The next thing I know, he was choking me with the wand. Then it escalated, yet I can't say it up here because my account has been frozen for putting rated-r opinions up here.

Skipping to after all of that, yeah, it was my first time. We both got up and he said that we are never doing that again. I left the room and I felt an idiotic smile forming across my face.

Skipping to the next day, he decided to mess with a skinny woman who legit belongs to the streets. (I'm not calling her that out of jealousy, I'm calling her that because it is the truth. My mom knows it and my stepdad does too. She did say that she has a boyfriend the day after she had her little fun; I wanted to slap her so badly because she cheated. This female dog wears a fucking neck brace just to gain sympathy out of people). Anyway, I did get upset and then that same next day, I confronted him. I had the right to be angry because he did not discuss my feelings for him. Like, someone tells you that they have a crush on you and you turn around and mess with someone else, not discussing the other's feelings.
We texted, of course. I was trying to get an answer. He said, "You just need a boyfriend and I'm not it."
I just sat there, processing it, because it just occurred to me that I really do need emotional support. The only thing is, I have to wait for that special someone to come. For four years, I told myself that I'm not ready for a relationship because I was just done with dating. My last relationship made me lose all hope for love to the point where I convinced myself that I'm not ready.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I currently have really strong feelings for a guy at the moment (as a 23-year-old girl, this is the first time I’ve actually ever been attracted to someone). This guy that I’ve been texting to for a few months and hung out with a few times is a very kind and charming gentleman, and we seem to share a lot of interests and values. I’m not afraid to tell him how I feel but unfortunately he’s been experiencing a lot of unfortunate events recently that has made him depressed at the moment, so I’ve kinda backed off the idea of telling him that and just want to be a supportive friend to him for the time being while he’s getting through these problems he’s facing.

Don’t get me wrong…I’m terrified of the idea of being rejected by him since I feel I have a good connection and bond to him, but I know that he needs to know how I feel about him since we’ve been in the friend-zone for a while now. I don’t want him to think that we’re not going anywhere as far as a relationship goes, and for him to start looking into dating other women due to that. If I had to choose between telling the guy I like that I have feelings for him only to end up being rejected and staying in the friend-zone vs never telling him out of fear and him eventually ending up with another girl in the future due to having the impression that I only see him as a friend, I would much rather choose the first option. I’m definitely ready to get my feelings out in the open to him, but I’ll have to wait to shoot my shot when he’s at a better place emotionally.

ZackBan · Accepted Answer

This used to be the story of my life until fairly recently.
Now I say what I mean and mean what I say, be it to a crush a co-worker or even my boss.
Because I found that in an attempt to avoid confrontation you lose the respect of others instead of gaining it.
Humans tend to respect the ones who are unapologetic about their lives and it took me a while to drill that into my head but I think I'm at a point where I'm more unapologetic than the average guy

OlderAndWiser · Accepted Answer

I'm living with my girlfriend and every night, before we go to sleep spooned together, I whisper in her ear that I'm glad she is in my life. I know it sounds disgustingly saccharin but it's who I am.

Cynicaldreamer · Answer

Thank goodness no! I haven't had a crush on anyone in a while- Kind of glad too, as all of my crushes end up exactly as that: crushes my heart and spirit :|

Account · Answer

I do, but it is complicated and it is also none of their business to know how I feel.

jennifer_bloom · Answer

I let all my interests know what I think - at least the ones I saw at work or fellowship - I am now waiting for them to come to me

howhigh420 · Answer

Iam never a shy girk at allbguys that are nice lookingvin pubs I've always told out straight uve got some ass your fkn hot av been to tesco nd said to a hot guy in a work suit now i love seeing guys in worksuits nd a said ibtapped his shoulder nd sayed a always like seeing a sexy in a worksuit av told a guy in my optitions he's gorgous to a can't stop saying it a guy that wirks in my gym i say to him ure absoulutly gorgeous chris ure a looker guys on moter bikes af shouted your hot or a guy a seen in a belter ae a car a shoulted out to him beltervae a motor when something needs to be said i go with my instincts and say am not shy am a straight forward girl plus a good looking guy must always be told he's beautiful samecas women if ure a guy

Amy10223 · Answer

Yes, I do. But it's no good art all because he is married already. So it's wrong--but I was not aware he was. It is a silly situation--we both play a game on an app--and I googled his name. He's married. You would not know it because he's aways on it playing at night. But he is. :(

ThrowAwayx404 · Answer

I don’t tell any girl/woman that I have a crush on them about it. I remember growing up girls/women would be kind and polite even if they were rejecting you. Now a days being approached and/or told about a crush is nothing more than a narcissistic ego stroke for them. Now a days, girls/women use it as a power play to demean and insult you for having the audacity to like them, especially if you’re not tall enough or have enough money. I’m just tired of being treated like a leper just because I like you and made an effort to let you know. Not to mention that with #MeToo anything can be misinterpreted or misconstrued as sexual harassment.

It’s just not worth the mockery and looks of disgust.

Jaximus-Lion · Answer

When i was a kid, at age of 15-16, yes. I did nothing about it. I have no idea where the girl is now (i moved to another country). But i have been in the situation where i am the crush, one girl told me about her feelings and it got awkward real quick. Few other women i worked with were pretty obveious they couldn't hide it and it's funny and awkward.

Cherry234 · Answer

Currently, no. I haven't always told my crushes I like them. I have told some or have shown some I like them. Though I don't think it's always a good idea to let a person know you like him/her, especially if you barely know that person or the other person has no interest in you whatsoever.

DizzyDesii · Answer

Nah its easy letting someone know. Its hard to face their reaction because you dont know what to expect

lightbulb27 · Answer

yea, I have a crush on my girlfriend. I tell her I love her every day, but there's always another way to say she's special to me.

She's really amazing, sweet, strong, so enjoy being with her when she has time to cook, enjoying good food together, snuggling up watching a show, exploring the world. I got lucky to find her.

How do you do it?

Jemini_Crocket · Answer

In a way, I don't know him, I only see and sometimes meet him when shopping in the morning... I haven't seen for a long time now though... I'm afraid I may have missed my chance.

Heartache0405 · Answer

No. I don't do crushes.

I used to have one in grade school. Liked the same girl sense elementary school all the way up till we graduated in high school. Never talked to each other even though we used to be friends in high school.

I had one other crush at another school while in elementary school before switching schools, but I forgot about her pretty easy.

I don't have crushes anymore. Not worth it

Anonymous · Answer

Yeah… I met this guy on tinder and we matched and we talk a bit but he doesn’t seem interested or attracted to me and I’m afraid to ask him if he is, and I’m also afraid to tell him that I’m really interested in him and want to date him… Maybe he’s taking things slow but it’s giving me mixed signals 🥲

beebella · Answer

I always have a crush on someone, but it's not that I'm afraid to let them know, I just don't think it's that necessary to tell them if I'm not interested dating right now.

Cloudsareunderrated · Answer

No.. already gone down that path before.. I had liked a guy for 6 years and finally told him that I used to like him.. he said he saw it as a compliment but kind of laughed it off. I'm over him now, but I did kind of throw up in my mouth when he asked a sophmore I really don't like to homecoming. They went together..

Anonymous · Answer

Yeah, of course. I had and i could not say to him. But i was quite sure that he already knew. If i could talk to him about any topic to start conversation i was sure that he would answer me. I was not thinking that he liked me like i liked him. He was very confident, flirty and handsome person. But i can say that if i had the courage and talked with him and even if we would not be a couple i would feel relieved to say to him my feelings. But i could not being shy is a hell.

Seangreen · Answer

I gave up on that mentality a long time ago you might as well just get it out of the way cuz two things can only happen one they like you too and it becomes a beautiful thing at least for a little while or they reject your ass and you pick yourself up dust yourself off and go on to the next

TDDMS · Answer

It depends on where the woman is from when it comes to expressing my affection for them. If it's an American woman, then no, I will not say anything to her. In fact I will go to lengths as to not show my interest in her and if she shows any interest in me, I will just dismiss her flirtations as accidents or faux pas. If, on the other hand, it's a Japanese, Korean, or Québecois woman, then yes I will let her know.

Purplemonkey242 · Answer

Huge crush on my ex co worker. He wasn't cute but I loved his personality. He always made me laugh and we got along great. BUT he's active military, married with 3 kids. So I didn't even bother. I miss him so much.

kyleelyn199723 · Answer

Thankfully not anymore lol my crush is my boyfriend

Anonymous · Answer

Yes! This one white guy. He wears glasses and seems smart. I always catch him looking at me. I don't know how to approach him, because I can come on strong. Then again, if I involved myself with him, I'd unintentionally hurt him because I don't see long term and I know for a fact he would fall for me hard. I'm thinking about asking him on Tuesday to help me with my resume. Just to break the ice.

ZS007 · Answer

I have a crush on someone right now and I asked him out for sushi.

Wild_princess · Answer

No... if i like someone... i confess it... who knows what will happen next😁

t-8900 · Answer

Currently, yes. And it's been years so that's something, I guess. Though I did let her know recently.

randomperson222 · Answer

My crush knows even though I deny it because it would ruin the friendship. That is more me trying to convince myself. but when we talked about people who liked him, he said but supposedly not you... which i am assuming that is him trying to say he knows what i say but he dont believe it.

Izayoi · Answer

Surely this is an experience everyone's familiar with at one point or another in their lives? I try not to let anyone know but people say my face is as easy to read as stoplights. Thankfully? I'm on the asexual spectrum so my crushes are often brushed up as puppy love... =_=''

kingykringy · Answer

I believe a girl has a crush on me. She’s pretty, but recently I was suggested her page to follow on the social media since we have a common follower and it has pics with her husband and kid. So I don't know how to approach this. I’d probably be okay if she just wants to smash, but if I’m gonna be the new daddy then nope nope nope

InventorofWarp · Answer

Yes. One of my closest and most amazing friends. She's taken. All I intend to do is continue a great friendship and enjoy getting to have her in my life. God, she's gorgeous and just awesome.

readyplayer001 · Answer

i think it is more that apprehension of all the feelings the next step, im working on it in a mutual crush now

Ez-Bri-Z · Answer

Yeah, I have a bit of one on someone on this site. I just really dig their personality, but I'd never tell them.

TwinkleLily5 · Answer

I noticed my crush crushing on me first and now I’m crushing on him 😍🥰 & he's still crushing on Me. It’s exciting to have a little crushing going on without all of the seriousness of dating.

The_Shadow_Dweller · Answer

I let my crush know and got my ass kicked. Not literally, but by all the students. I cannot blame them too. This was fresh, locally brewed content after all. I now laugh at it!

Little_Bumblebee · Answer

Not currently, but that has been the issue every time I've had a crush.

Fireguy17 · Answer

no I do not. I would always let someone know if I was interested in them. Sometimes it worked out, other times it didn't. If you don't try you will never know.

BlackTealLazer · Answer

Nope. I crush on someone, let them know, and they apparently like someone else. No big deal. Just sucks to be me.

Twalli · Answer

Not really because I am in a committed relationship and she's in a relationship

roro_hlbi · Answer

Yeah of course. Not afraid to let them know but there was no point because it's just a crush.

melanieeeB · Answer

No, cause I will always just say something and let the person know that I like him

siseñor · Answer

yes, but i don't think i'd ever go out with them. i'd just like to come clean and move on eventually.

exitseven · Answer

. This was me during my whole adolescence/. I was painfuly shy around girls. Even when I knew they liked me I could not get over my fear.

Aerissa_Jade · Answer

it is kind of hard to let them know, but if it lasts long enough I'll find a way.

SuitAndTie · Answer

No, the girl I like knows I fancy her a lot. Thank goodness I'm now more confident to let her know this whilst she doesn't feel the same way. I can be as honest with her as I like and not be embarrassed about it.

Shiningtempest · Answer

@coachtanthony I don't have a crush because I consider it as high risk, with little to no reward.

DaveToo · Answer

Her husband passed away some time ago. She's 4 years older than me. She's still very beautiful but shows no interest in me.

user1516 · Answer

I have a crush on someone but I haven’t seen them around and I don’t think I will until January. But, I might let him know :’)

SpiderManFan2002 · Answer

That's literally everytime I've had a crush or been in love lol

NathanDavis · Answer

nope... but it did happen when I was 14 years old or so

Avicenna · Answer

I’ve never had that problem- I am anything but shy about showing interest.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes but they like me too and don’t say anything either. We just go on about it and never make a move. It would change lots and I think we both don’t want the distractions that would come of it.

Luopio27 · Answer

Not right now, but when I meet a girl I have a crush on, I become as smart as beavis & butthead. Never gona score.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes, I think they have a good guess about that I like them. But I know for sure they like me and I am waiting to know for sure if they like me

HaveNoName · Answer

Haha. As a married guy, I would never want to let them know voluntarily. I would rather leave it as a crush and nothing more.

The_Outlaw · Answer

When I was half my age, I did. I still regret not saying anything to her to this day. Most likely, nothing would have come of it but ya never know.

blondfrog · Answer

yeah if she is attractive without emotional feelings it's easy to ask her out though and even compliment her though.

Relux47 · Answer

Well

Wiredone · Answer

Nope. I tell her every day how I feel about her. We've been married so long that I think she knows by now

jamesgoldman · Answer

Right now no but then with not seeing anyone in the past couple of years that can easily happen

Frank_theTank999 · Answer

Yes but I can’t, they’re already taken :( plus there are other reasons

Shark_61695 · Answer

Not at the moment, but when I have had a crush, I was afraid to tell them.

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