Are you afraid to tell someone you like them?

[Avicenna]

In a romantic sense, of course

Yes

No, are you crazy? It's easy

[Mia-Wallace]

Yes. It takes time for me to develop love for someone. And when I love a man, I love him with each and every cell in my body. Opening myself up when I'm in love is like pulling my heart out and leaving it on the table for him to decide whether he likes to play football with it or basketball. You're at the mercy of the one you love. That is terrifying.

But I've done it, and I'm happy I did.

[TEtra9]

Well said! lol That is how I felt too

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

I think it would depend on how well you know the person and how comfortable you really feel with that person. But you shouldn't be. That's the best way to find out if they feel the same way

[Avicenna]

Exactly. There should be No shame in your game.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

That's what I always say lol 😊

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Thanks for mho😊

[OlderAndWiser]

When I was YoungerAndStupider. . . yes, it was difficult for me.

Now that I am OlderAndWiser. . . it is much, much easier!

[pizzalovershouse]

Not if you are a couple

[pizzalovershouse]

Thanks for MH 👍

[theRen]

For me personally it always takes years and years of build up for me to get really comfortable with someone, but you can't really wait that long for crushes so the pressure to make a move is scary combine with having to break the ice. It's gotten a lot better these days because I just don't think about failure as much but taking that first step is always nerve wracking.

[Obtuse]

Might need more context. In general, I'm averse to doing that upfront since I don't want to make the girl uncomfortable and prefer showing over telling. I prefer just asking her out (ideally with a smooth conversation transition to an invite) over just blatantly saying I like her. I prefer to make my invitations as light and easy as possible so that she isn't uncomfortable saying "no" but also might entertain the notion more than she might otherwise by making it sound fun.

[Obtuse]

So I like to keep things very light and fun in the beginning that way. I don't like to start off with heavy/dramatic. Just fun and easy. Usually, I don't like a girl that much anyway until we've been on some dates. It takes a while for me and lots of things clicking and working well mutually to grow the strongest interest.

[Obtuse]

In the dating context, I still tend to prefer showing over telling. I prefer holding hands, touching each other, connecting deeply and expressing a certain sentiment or affection for each other in the process, and perhaps working up to a kiss and more. It should be quite clear that I like her by this point, and also that she likes me, without either of us having to blatantly state it.

[Obtuse]

I think I find the idea of blatantly stating it a bit unromantic as well. I am a bit of a romantic but I'm the type where I read Hallmark cards and roll my eyes. They seem so cliche. Words are cheap. I prefer to create romantic moments that don't involve such obvious and direct sentiments of desire and affection. It becomes implied and reasonably obvious just through our actions.

[Qonyboi]

I feel like a lot of women attracted to me won't tell me, but body language is a HUGE give away. It's like they're trying to tell you without saying anything. I'm the opposite though, I typically get shy and try not to show any signs. I notice that it turns people off, but I just automatically do it. If I know someone or feel comfortable it's quite easy to be honest though.

[justinacsn]

I've never had the confidence enough to tell them straight away. It's way easier when a guy have already told me (not necessarily directly) that I'm his type or stuff. But when it's me the one that has to make the first step, it's scaaary

[DorkVader]

Yes. Because I don't know how normal people do things. I'm a super late bloomer and I always do it weird, or feel like I do. So it's nerve wracking for me

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Yes , i am afraid cause i worry if i will be rejected?

[Avicenna]

You should never worry about rejection. Focus on getting the girl instead.

[CalabrianClaudia]

NO! if I like a guy I let him know! Guys very rarely reject me, unless they are gay or already taken. :p

[Lman3000]

No, I will always get rejected though and feel like dog shit for like a day, so yeah I don't really like dating or flirting the shit always ends the same way that might as well. take my dating life out to the back of my house like old yeller and fucking put two buck shotgun rounds in the head and end the misery, yeah my dating life sucks that much.

[Rebeulochon]

In general i'm not afraid to say it, but to the reaction. I tell her, and after that, the fear appears 😂

[Liam_Hayden]

Not at all. If she says she isn't interested at least I know and ca\n approach the next target.

[Gedaria]

I would say nervous. I try to hide that by doing it a bit of fun...

[austinbooth]

I hit the wrong one. No I'm not