Have you ever had feelings for someone and were too afraid to tell them?

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FenderMustango · Accepted Answer

Yes I was at university and I fancied a student who also lived in the same shared halls I did and lived oposite my room. I was to scared so when I eventualy did it was through an email. Kicker was I didn't knkw if she had got it as she had not replied or nocked on my door or anything. I got worried so I told her on the way to class and she said she hadn't checked so I told her to ignore it and she told me she was seeing someone and to make it more awkward he was in the some of the same classes as we where.

2nd time again was university I had moved into a shared house instead of student halls. This time I messaged this other women on facebook kicker was she was in the downstairs room and she got on with the other two housemates who I had no issues with but they were not my thing all about partying and clubbing which I can not stand. So because the kitchen was beyond the lounge made it worse because she was with them when I messaged her and she did reply back. However knowing that she could potentialy tell the other two, one female and one male and the awkwardness of if I needed to go to the kitchen and they would know. She rejected me and I do think they didn't know and eventually she left either quit university but certainly moved out. This one was more awkward because I was upstairs and in a pretty bad state as I had major butterflies and I felt really bad when I got rejected and the fact she got on with the other two. Where as in halls you usualy don't see a lot of the other people as you aee mostlt in your room or the kitchen.

Somoneelse · Accepted Answer

Yep.  The more I got rejected or the closer I am to someone I have feelings for, the more difficult it is for me to tell them. I'm currently in a situation where I have a crush on one of my close girl-friends , think about her a lot and are so afraid to tell her about my feelings/crush. She is amazing and we share some same hobbies/interest. But we live quite a distance away from eachother. 3,5hours drive to other side of country. We met eachother online 7-8 years ago. Why?  I don't want to ruin the years-long friendship we have and every deep-conversations we ever had. I've had this a lot in the past where I got feelings for a girl-friend, told her about it and within 1 or two months the friendship slowly died because we stopped talking, she stopped responding (or responded very dry) and stuff got awkward. And also because somewhere deep within myself, I already have a feeling it ain't mutual so telling her about my feelings will only make me a fool. Also deep within myself after me and my ex broke up (due to relationship-tiktoks vs our relationship), I just feel not like wanting a relationship or loving someone anymore. The typical heart vs brain fight. The heart wants to go for it and try to love someone, but my brain screams no and wants to spend energy to improve myself instead of spending energy on worrying about others or worrying about how others feel about me.

Monalisa77 · Accepted Answer

Everytime, hence y I've nevr had a boyfriend. Too scared theyll

A) not like me and tell me very harshly
B) not like me and ill feel embarrassed
C) ill muck it up and say something ridiculous and embarasse myself
D) theyll say they do like me but are only out to use me and take advantage
E) they act like they like me to show off infront of their mates

Cynicaldreamer · Accepted Answer

All the time . Because usually it ends up with me being hurt and/or disappointed-  And I'm usually correct because when I did tell them or ask how they felt about me? Rejection :| Nah, if I'm afraid to tell someone how I feel, I think that's my intuition's way of protecting me from disappointment and further heartache.

dynamicyandere · Answer

Oddly… No. I’ve always shot my shot. Whenever I held back, it was only because they were already taken or because I was already taken.

LaFemmeFatale_1 · Answer

Yes, when I was younger.

WhiteSteve · Answer

Sure, we’ve all been there. If nothing else, sometimes the other person just isn’t available, so there’s nothing to be gained be confessing feelings for them. I can fall in love upwards of 20 times a day if I happen across the right ladies, lmfao, I can’t just be running around telling women I’m into them, haha

DancingQueen16 · Answer

Yeah I had a big crush on one of my best friends for years but I was always too scare to tell him because I thought if I told him and he didn't feel the same way things would be weird between us but it turns out he did feel the same way and as of now we've been together for a year and seven months

molonski2 · Answer

Ohh yes , many many times over the years , but I'm so old right , it would be a bit weird if the answer was NO ! Sometimes , completely inappropriate ( Marital status , work scenario , other type stuff ) , so many things do happen , that really just can't be , and even if it did , it most likely wouldn't work out..

And , I think I've made enough morally questionable decisions , without slapping in another 20 or 30 / 40 hahahaha , yes , so many times.

Valdemort · Answer

100%

Told two guys, got rejected both times. With valid reasoning though. Both were seeing someone, so they had my respect.

In other cases, I've only told them afterwards, when I no longer had those feelings. One of them is now one of my closest friends.

And some guys will probably never know.

IslaTheWitch · Answer

I'm like an open book... if I have feelings for someone, everyone would know... including the person I like :D So being afraid, in my case, doesn't work :D

NathanDavis · Answer

nope... but I don't really "catch feelings" unless we are both going about it the same way... and by then it is kind of obvious for both

Tiptoetamm · Answer

Yes I've been afraid to tell someone I like them. It can be scary but eventually I get up the nerve to say hi and ask them out. Sometimes awkward but that's cool lol

PeachyPie93 · Answer

Yes many times, even if a guy I like shows interest in me. If I feel he is out of my league I won't tell them.

Alwayreckles93 · Answer

Longtime ago yes his name was Juan Longoria he was a womanizer back in those days. He was agrade above me. We would only glanzed at each other thats it. Now he is 32 and he only wants to date 21 year old woman.

FreyaRed · Answer

No. It wasn't feelings and I wasn't afraid. It was just strategically unfavorable to follow my desires

HawkPerception · Answer

I can't remember a time when I was into someone and didn't say anything, but I'm sure there must have been a time when I was more shy 😅 Just a bunch of fish that swim by though, so it definitely makes it hard to remember specific scenarios

Kreneman · Answer

One time I had feelings for a hot woman at my job and I was to afraid to tell her because of her intimidating good looks but its a good thing that I did not tell her because she was going through some difficult times with her baby father.

MemeSupreme · Answer

yeah im too awkward for that shit like let me just crawl under a desk and die

7Phoenix7 · Answer

Yeah, but I always end up telling or showing it anyway.

Booklover_90 · Answer

No. I’ve never been afraid to tell a man I was interested in him. However, circumstances have prevented me from telling them. For example, that person was a superior and it would’ve been inappropriate to tell them.

menina · Answer

Yes, all the time. It's the story of my life 😆😆

bobalife · Answer

Typically I let them know lol. But there are times, rather they show interest or not, I get scare of being hurt and decide to distance myself

Altheavas · Answer

I’m going to say no, if I’m available I would be the one to approach him, and let him know that I’d like to get to know him.

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