Yes because as an adult you should be comfortable enough to communicate how you feel… ghosting is VERY toxic and it’s very unhealthy.. it’s the same as being physically abused.. that’s how our brain takes it.
Sometimes it is a necessary evil. I have told people straight up that I'm not interested or that I'm married and they keep asking and pursuing anyway. When the friendly approach and the direct approach fail, I'm not above ghosting someone.
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Sometimes it's necessary for the sake of someone's safety. for example a toxic partner or parent, who gets violent at the smallest thing is best ghosted before you get hurt.
No. Expecting people not to ghost and instead have long conversations about why they don't like you and how it will be totally impossible to work things out seems like what? Adulthood?
Agree with "expecting people not to ghost" - you can't run other people's lives for them. Maturity means okay so what they are immature, get over it and move on.
Disagree with "long conversations about why they don't like you" - people ghost without saying a single word. It doesn't have to be a long conversation, a simple and short "I'm done with this interaction and won't be responding anymore." means you are officially not ghosting and gave clear closure.
On some chat apps you can get up to 50 responses on a post. It's not worth the effort to explain to all the creeps why they're creepy, it's better to just ignore them.
In cases of dealing with stalkers / narcissists / toxic people I think it's alright too.
"50 responses on a post" - not responding to someone's comment is not the same as ghosting. Ghosting is you are in the middle of a conversation then stop interacting forever with no closing comment like "Hey, I'm done with this conversation forever."
As for narcissists/toxic, sure, stop talking, but even then all it takes is one short "I'm done." and you've not ghosted, you've said goodbye.
It's narcissists and toxic people who actually do a lot of ghosting, imho, because they are the type of people who dgaf about others and treat others as though they don't exist, except at the pleasure of the narcissist/toxic person.
Sometimes. If the person you ghosted, is acting like a child, staking you, being mean, or disrespectful. Than just walking away from the situation, is the most mature thing you can do.
It doesn’t always work. If you’re not important enough, they might not even notice. Like the time I ghosted @t-8900 for two whole days and he didn’t even notice.
Unless the person is a legit creep or something along those lines (allowing for vagueness because some people have different definitions of creep) then yeah I think it's kinda childish to ghost
Depends. With abbusive persons, is not. With someone (ex, or not) who really cares about you (despite of), I view it as a form of disrespect. You don't do that to someone you respect, or reallt care for.
I had a neighbor who supposedly and suddenly ghosted his marriage about 20 years ago on a whim. The wife still lives there with her new husband and family. Whether or not it’s childish is irrelevant as people don’t seem to care.
It's very SAD... I guess the person doing the ghosting in unable to work through issues (small or large) that come up in every relationship... so they will be alone and leaving a "Ghost Trail" behind them...
It's not only childish but disrespectful and cowardly. If you're not interested in the person just tell them straight out. Be honest with them instead of leaving them hanging. I can't stand when someone ghosts people.
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Yes because as an adult you should be comfortable enough to communicate how you feel… ghosting is VERY toxic and it’s very unhealthy.. it’s the same as being physically abused.. that’s how our brain takes it.
Sometimes it is a necessary evil. I have told people straight up that I'm not interested or that I'm married and they keep asking and pursuing anyway. When the friendly approach and the direct approach fail, I'm not above ghosting someone.
Sometimes it's necessary for the sake of someone's safety.
for example a toxic partner or parent, who gets violent at the smallest thing is best ghosted before you get hurt.
Exactly what I was going to say
No. Expecting people not to ghost and instead have long conversations about why they don't like you and how it will be totally impossible to work things out seems like what? Adulthood?
Agree with "expecting people not to ghost" - you can't run other people's lives for them. Maturity means okay so what they are immature, get over it and move on.
Disagree with "long conversations about why they don't like you" - people ghost without saying a single word. It doesn't have to be a long conversation, a simple and short "I'm done with this interaction and won't be responding anymore." means you are officially not ghosting and gave clear closure.
@zeitgeist057 I do not have time to reply to this. Have a nice life...
@Wester1967 Well done, sir. As demonstrated, there is always enough time for the brief courtesy of closing the conversation. Have a nice life! :)
Depends on the how / when?
On some chat apps you can get up to 50 responses on a post. It's not worth the effort to explain to all the creeps why they're creepy, it's better to just ignore them.
In cases of dealing with stalkers / narcissists / toxic people I think it's alright too.
"50 responses on a post" - not responding to someone's comment is not the same as ghosting. Ghosting is you are in the middle of a conversation then stop interacting forever with no closing comment like "Hey, I'm done with this conversation forever."
As for narcissists/toxic, sure, stop talking, but even then all it takes is one short "I'm done." and you've not ghosted, you've said goodbye.
It's narcissists and toxic people who actually do a lot of ghosting, imho, because they are the type of people who dgaf about others and treat others as though they don't exist, except at the pleasure of the narcissist/toxic person.
I agree, I think ghosting is immature but sometimes people don’t know how to be honest about their feelings.
Sometimes. If the person you ghosted, is acting like a child, staking you, being mean, or disrespectful. Than just walking away from the situation, is the most mature thing you can do.
It doesn’t always work. If you’re not important enough, they might not even notice. Like the time I ghosted @t-8900 for two whole days and he didn’t even notice.
Wait what? 😂
@t-8900 I know. It’s so embarrassing. I don’t even remember why I ghosted you or if I just got you mixed up with @t-7900.
I have no idea what is going on right now 😅😂
@t-8900 That’s exactly the problem with ghosting.
Unless the person is a legit creep or something along those lines (allowing for vagueness because some people have different definitions of creep) then yeah I think it's kinda childish to ghost
Nobody should be ghosting. It is rude and immature.
Kind of but at the same time it's the easiest way to let someone know you don't want to talk to them.
Yeah, it's pathetic.
'Nobody owes anyone an explanation', yeah well no one owes anyone an apology for insulting you either.
Sometimes it’s appropriate. I wouldn’t to anyone I had actually met. But neither would I waste time texting someone I hadn’t met.
It's absolutely childish and cruel. Nobody should treat someone that way. The least someone can do is tell you it's over to your face.
Depends. With abbusive persons, is not. With someone (ex, or not) who really cares about you (despite of), I view it as a form of disrespect. You don't do that to someone you respect, or reallt care for.
I had a neighbor who supposedly and suddenly ghosted his marriage about 20 years ago on a whim. The wife still lives there with her new husband and family. Whether or not it’s childish is irrelevant as people don’t seem to care.
It's very SAD... I guess the person doing the ghosting in unable to work through issues (small or large) that come up in every relationship... so they will be alone and leaving a "Ghost Trail" behind them...
It's not only childish but disrespectful and cowardly. If you're not interested in the person just tell them straight out. Be honest with them instead of leaving them hanging. I can't stand when someone ghosts people.
I think we grown ups should own our shitty wrongdoing and stop putting that on kids behavior... lol