We've been dating for a month, no exclusivity talk. Is it too early to tell him I only want something longterm?

[Anonymous]

He asks me on dates every week. Both late twenties. Haven't had sex yet. We spend hours together on dates. Do couple things (kiss, hold hands). I feel worried that we may be just having a casual relationship with no labels. We recently started making out and cuddling. I soon realized I went too far with that because we haven't had the exclusivity talk. He knows I'm not the type to hook up or do a friends with benefits arrangement. When we first started dating he mentioned how he likes to take things slow. He mentioned how he plans to introduce me to his friends. Recently, he's been more persistent with texting and sweeter in his texts. He's become very persistent with kissing me. He also bought me a very expensive Christmas gift. Should I wait a few months to clear the air on what we are?

[horatiohornblower]

I think the first date is when you should cover the basics of what you're going to expect. Such as not casual dating but dating towards the goal of a serious relationship. You're just wasting time with a second date. If you're opposed on that point.

[SiberFox]

If that's what you want, I say do it, you don't have to have sex soon either, but if you want to make sure he knows that you're looking for something serious, tell him. Be honest, communicate. Good luck.

[Asker]

Wouldn't it be too early?

[SiberFox]

I don't think so no.

[Asker]

When would you have that talk with a girl?

[SiberFox]

3rd or 4th date.

[Asker]

You mean you would ask her to be your girlfriend?

[Wise4myage]

Its wayyyy to soon for that talk.

[Asker]

What's a good time?

[Wise4myage]

Id say 4-5 months.

[Asker]

Would you lose respect for a girl who kisses your neck/makes out with you after the one month mark?

[Asker]

You knew her for just one month

[Wise4myage]

No I wouldn't.

[Asker]

Would she come off as easy?

[Wise4myage]

Nope