Is it true once man hit 30 they prefer younger woman?

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One of my friends from the church I go to introduce me to one of her highschool long time friend. My friend's guy friend who had just turn 30 ask me to go out for dinner with him at a restaurant , We bought exchange numbers and schedule the day. Yesterday we meet up at the restaurant every was going well we were enjoying a good conversation it was until the waitress came and my date order his wine latter the lady ask me I told her oh no thank you so my date told me oh once you turn 21 you will be able to spoiled yourself lol. I told my date oh I'm actually 28 I am just not a fan of drink. My dates facial expressions change he told me , Oh I was expecting for you to be much younger. He got disappointed and told me he had to live and never heard from him since. What was that all about? I am feeling self conscious of myself since I will be 29 soon closer to 30. Why does age matter more then the same maturity level. This guy he is 30 which means he has more things in common then a 21 y are old. I noticed that guys at least the ones that are almost my same age only want younger woman.

bamesjond0069 · Accepted Answer

Its true men prefer younger women and your confusion comes from some faulty assumptions. Here is the one you explicitly stated: "This guy he is 30 which means he has more things in common then a 21 y are old." Why are you so sure about this? Im 35 and my girlfriend is 19. I have way more in common with her thats important than a girl my age. So im not sure why you think this wouldn't be true.

Generally young women want to have some fun and then settle down. Thats what i want too. Someone around 30 already is too old to both have fun and settle down. Id want to date a girl for 3 years then get married 2 years then have a 4 kids. So maybe 8 years. So 13 years in total. That would have 30 year old having last children in her 40s! Not a good bet medically speaking since after 35 the safety and capability of women to have kids drops drastically. And so you say well why not just date a bit shorter and have one or two less kids? But why? This is YOUR problem not mine. I could just date young women then i have lots of time to date and have fun as well as the opportunity to have as many kids as i want without any kind of rush. These big decisions give men some anxiety ie marriage kids so to have every option available is very valuable.

The other benefits are younger girls generally have less sex partners. My girlfriend was a virgin when i met her. Where would i find a 30 year old with less than like 5? Also younger is more attractive. Sure girls are often attractive through their 30s but i get her 20s as well as her 30s. Not a bad thing at all.

There are literally zero downsides. An average 20 year old is always generally more attractive for a relationship than an average 30 year old.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Not sure where you got the number 30, it's always the case in my opinion, not just at a certain age.
Younger girls are more attractive, fun to be around, and fertile.
You could look really good/young tho, and be 28 or more, and men will probably not really care about your age. But i know, that for whatever reason girls strictly around my age are not that attractive anymore..

And a girl who is closer to 30 then 20, has probably had many sexual encounters, which turns off a lot of men. Just guessing here, but maybe it's because some men don't want "used" girls. Because they look for a more serious relationship perhaps.
The "innocent" girl will be always more desirable to me, then the party girl who gives out blowjobs and fucks for fun at parties...

Why does gag show you are 20 by the way.
That situation wasn't just about your age, but you kinda lied to him. Not sure if you were talking about your age before with him, or why did he think you were 20.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Yes, there's a lot of ageism towards women over 25, as they approach late 20s and 30. Which is idiotic, as someone's age has nothing to do with their maturity, personality and how many partners they've had. Same thing had happened to me, once they hear my age, they instantly freeze and act like I'm 100 years old. That's why, I never tell anyone my actual age nowadays, since I can pass as younger than my age anyway.
Um I know it's right, but maybe you should also do the same?
In this shallow society people treat you better the younger you are

Nazgol · Accepted Answer

Not necessarily. You can't generalize like that. Some do, some don't. I know a person who actually went with a 45 year old woman, but he's 35. They prefer their maturity

GreenLanternI0I · Answer

I understand him, because I would of done the same thing and NOT because I'm an asshole or a so called ""pervert"" but because you are on a clock and your clock is running out, so unless you don't want to have children, you are somewhat desperate. If a girl is in her Early 20's it give me couple years to fully bond with her and see if she is wife worthy, without compromising any birth defects or miscarriage's etc... Plus, I STRONGLY prefer to have a young girl as a mother, because it takes A LOT of energy and effort to raise kids. I know it, because I'm raising 2. Regardless of what people say, people who are in their 30's and up don't have the same energy as people in their 20's and down.

Slartybartfast · Answer

I've only dated women very close to my age. I got a divorce at 30, looked around at the women my age and most had children already, had gotten obese or were still expecting a 6' 5" guy built like Thor with a seven figure income who only works two days a week.

So after a few dates that took months of work just to get a date with women who I really had zero interest in and shelling out thousands. while being treated like a disposable utilitie I gave up like a lot of men are doing these days.

I waited for women to do SOMETHING , but they still waited around playing middle school Disney princess, expecting prince charming to do all the work initiating a relationship, while getting wider and wider and less appealing by the day.

All I wanted was a decent women who loved me to have a family with.

What I got was hypergamy run wild and women with far to many exes.

HighValue · Answer

I would not want a woman past 30. I want a partner to have kids with and realistically it would be 7 years from our first date by the time we would have our 3rd/last kid and that is if it was easy to get pregnant.
Women that are offended by that are ignorant of biology. Just like men that pass 55 have less chance of having healthy kids, but that is closer to a 45 degree angle of decline for men after 55, but for women it drops off a cliff with an 80 degree decline in their 30s.
No amount of delusions or denial will change biology.

275153 · Answer

Your date doesn’t sound like a gentleman. I’m 56. I couldn’t imagine dating a woman who wasn’t at least in her 40s. Mind you, im not saying I don’t like to look at some young eye candy. But to be in a relationship with, I need to be with a woman in the same level of maturity as myself.

DamnSam · Answer

Never thought that this could be true, but it is

I'm 32 and most women in my league are just crazy egocentric... damnt, my fckn ex turned into a Karen after our daughter was born... like the extreme Karen's you watch on YouTube

All women I fell for in the last years where all 8-10 years younger... mostly because they where more adult in their thinking than I was used too

Anonymous · Answer

I know I sound like a jerk saying that, but honesty is a good thing in this situations. The very few times I "fell in love" was with women ten years older than me. Older women tend to be more mature and self-conscious, I never had to listen any drama from them. But when it comes to serious relationships, I just freak out if I'm with a woman my age or older. Why? I have no idea but my parents have a significant age gap, so have my grandparents and they have been married for more than 30 years. Something in my mind tells me that if I want to succeed in love I have to be with a woman younger than me and I never betray my instincts so I sort of understand the way this guy felt, I just think he's an idiot for not telling you the truth.

slatyb · Answer

What sort of church? Let me guess -- it's some evangelical Christian church. This is typical of Evangelical men. They are looking for a very young woman they can easily dominate.

JCrockett · Answer

Generally speaking, guys are most attracted to girls in their early twenties. This is true for their entire lives.

Hangry06 · Answer

Most or half of them are that way. It's shallow but it's based on false myths and pedo dreams

This_Is_My_Opinion8 · Answer

We always prefer younger women. But not a lot younger. I am almost 30 and i would never be with anyone bellow 25.

Avicenna · Answer

I think even before that. I started dating younger women once I turned 22.

Cowboy6666 · Answer

Well ideally I want a lady around your age, We would have same maturity level :) I prefer personality, open mindedness, kind, non racist lady in my life :)

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

What a jerk. He's no spring chicken himself to be looking down on your age. Being 29 isn't old at all.

zagor · Answer

Why do you think all men are the same? Of course it is not true of all men. Yes, men tend to go for younger women, but that doesn't start at 30.

TheFlak38 · Answer

you're one step away from the wall. of course he would leave.

loveslongnails · Answer

It's probably true for some men, certainly not all.

Dchrls78104 · Answer

Not for me. Ideally, in fact, I'd date/marry a (preferably virgin) woman at or close to my own age.

Shy_Steve · Answer

I don't really understand his reaction, I reckon that's a good age gap.

Anonymous · Answer

Absolutely 🤗 Mostly males seek yooung females since they're more beautiful, sexually fertile and erotic

Exterminatore · Answer

I have no idea what that’s about. Very strange.

Is it true once man hit 30 they prefer younger woman?

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