Was this guy wrong for ghosting?

[Anonymous]

We spoke briefly through hinge, he asked for my number so I gave him my IG. He followed me but I didn’t follow back. He was usually responding to my stories and sending messages, Wednesday he asked if I wanted to go out for drinks. I said I’d rather stay in but would be down to videochat. I wasn’t really feeling him, I cut it short after an hour. Before we videochatted, he asked if I wanted to go with him to a block party for New Years and would cover my entry fee. I told him I wasn’t sure, after the video chat he sent a message saying to have a good night. I simply replied with you too and haven’t heard from him since. He saw my message and stories today, I just find it odd that he hasn’t sent any messages considering he was more engaged before we video chatted. He ghosted alright

Yes

No

[globetrotter22]

You seriously think he might be “in the wrong” for moving on? Also most people define ghosting as in when you message someone and they intentionally ignore and/or block you. The only message you sent was in your own words was a curt “you too” response to him saying good night. Do you seriously think he is supposed to respond to that?

Also Have you ever reached out to him asking how he’s doing or asked to hang out? Of course you didn’t because you straight up said above you weren’t interested. You didn’t even follow him back on IG! What the hell does he owe you?

He just figured out he’s wasting his time, money and effort on you and moved on. Not all guys are stupidly persistent. We can figure out that women like are not interested and just want to string us along as orbiters vía friendzone bullshit.

He already did his part and you did little in return. You just want him to keep giving you attention which you obviously don’t deserve. Good for him for moving on. He respects himself.

Next time try being tactfully honest with people in these situations. It might give people more hope for womenkind. Let him know you appreciate his efforts but you aren’t interested. Sure it will disappoint him for a moment but that is the respectful thing to do.

[Asker]

…what money was wasted?

[globetrotter22]

He was more than willing to cover your drinks and entry fees. I reread your take and see you didn’t accept. But even if you did would that of changed the way you feel about him?

At least you haven’t become a meal ticket (to him and yet). But for real you living up to a stereotype that men HATE right now. Spot on. I rather have a bad experience with a psycho bitch (who likes me) or have a girl act all bitchy when I ask her ok date vs. the bullshit your pulling. Don’t do this crap. Just don’t

[ImJustSomeGuyLol]

I'm not sure if you actually reflected on what you wrote but let me quote it.

"I wasn’t really feeling him", in response to the video chat.
He also invited you to things which you also denied.

He 100% did the right thing. You did not seem interested in seeing him or spending time with him. He doesn't want to spend time and energy on someone who doesn't feel the same, he probably also felt he was bothering you.

In response, he's decided to take the L and move on, good on him.
I would advise leaving him alone, don't toy with his emotions now that he's done talking to you.
If you're genuinely interested, no harm in reaching out, but if you're not feeling him, please don't.

[Vikkrram]

If you made it clear that u r not interested there's no point of him talking wid you...

[Anonymous]

No, I don't think he was wrong for ghosting. You made it very clear you weren't interested and he was wasting his time, so he stopped wasting his time.