My boyfriend hasn’t taken me out on a date in months. Please send help, what should imdo?

[Luna_blue]

My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 years. I haven’t been on a date in months. He never asks me or initiate anything other then going to the gym together. When we are there all he does is stare like stare long too. I don’t care who he stares at to be honest but the length of time bothers me. I pretty much see him everyday but no dates. When I ask he says he is busy and never gets rest, he does work really long hours so I give him that. Should I start to distance myself to make him miss me? Should I change the way I look? I do love him but at the same time I feel I’m falling out of love. Any advice would be great if you can.

[loveslongnails]

Sounds to me like he's already gone mentally and you're just convenient. Lots of people work long hours and get tired, but they look forward to the time they get with those they love, and they express it. It not so much going on dates that's a red flag, it's the lack of everything else PLUS... who is he staring at when you're at the gym? Hot women?

Your first questions should be to yourself " Do I want to attempt to save this, and why? What's the best possible outcome, knowing who he is? Do I see myself going forward with this guy, or is this as good as it gets? Answer those honestly and I believe you'll know what to do.

[ohshee]

Get one of your girlfriends you guys get all dolled up and you guys go out and have fun and if he ask you why you going to do that you have to say will because you don't do that I would rather be doing it with you but see that's what friends do just imagine what friends in a relationship do LOL

[MelonSoda]

I'd assume with covid still rampant, going on out on dates would be rather difficult.

[TheorionMage]

Time to 'friend zone' his lazy ass and look for green pastures...
neither of you are getting any younger and the time you're squandering
waiting for him could obviously be better invested.
making shameless memories that will make you blush looking back upon them! <3 ;)

[Leonharted]

Tell him that you understand that he's tired and works long hours, but that's not an excuse to neglect you. You want to go out on a date, and that he should take you out.

[Novacane]

2 options. A. express to tell him that you want to go on a date. OR B. You take him on a date (nothing wrong with that)

[Drumlin2001]

Talk to him. You could arrange a date.
Distancing yourself seems a rather petty way of dealing with things. It's not how a relationship should work

[slatyb]

Have you asked him? What does he say? If you knew this would never change, would you stay with him?

[LegendaryIcon]

to be fair, lots of people are paranoid about the virus

my parents didn't go out for new years, simply because they were paranoid about the virus

you should be too

[AndrésC64]

Why are you expecting him to do things that you aren't doing? If you want to go on a date you can ask.

[Waldoe]

Honesty is the best policy... always.. tell him how you feel... or show this question to hima and say... this girl could be me...

[jahaims]

All your solutions are immature and ignorant. Talk to him about it or surprise him with a date

[2021biguy]

Tell him how this is making your relationship fall apart.

[Abinav08]

Pick someone better than wasting time for a dork lol

[FunkyMonkee]

Did you try putting a bag on your head?

[MannyFrs]

how often are you having sex?

[In_Trance]

Have you taken him out?

[fireforeffect]

Finde a new boyfriend.

[Wise4myage]

Dump his sorry ass.

[Iron_Man]

No more sex