When your girl walks out on you when you were at your lowest would you take her back when you were back up on top?

Question

You were down on your luck, the reasons could be many, but your girl decided to move on because she felt you were a loser. So 2 years later you turned things around and now you have started a successful business. Suddenly she shows up in your store and tries to rekindle your interest in her. What do you do?

Itsok2behapp-e · Accepted Answer

No.

For all the men out there, if she can't love you at your worst, why does she deserve you at your best?

For the man who this post was intended for. The one whose girl walked out on him here's a little treat from me to you.

He refers to the man whose girl walked out on him.
You refers to the girl who walked out on said man. Enjoy!

"When he gets down on his luck he hides behind his eyes in Hollywood
They say ain't what you know but who you know
He needs to know someone to know no one
When he gets down on his luck
He rolls one up and rolls around all by his lonesome
Lost two years, he used to know
He knows his fate like bullets in a shotgun.

You love to dream, living in and off and out of his mind
In space and time, you take a line and lies your life [is better off without him]
Away you might just say you stay to go nowhere
Midnight scenes from an old romantic movie
Usually you'd be there today he says was different
He used to take you with him wandering, when you wanted go there.

Down on his luck
Down on his luck.

Do you think about the things you say you don't?
He knows you do, white wine you over cool
Ooh look at you, look at you!
Do you think the things you do or who you know?
'Cause they told you to, why you listen to 'em?
Hands up, middle finger to 'em,
Fuck that, here's one to you too!" 🖕🏼

Inspired by 'Down On My Luck' by Vic Mensa, Track 16, Disc 1 on Clubland 26

When your girl walks out on you when you were at your lowest would you take her back when you were back up on top?

Unknown_Swan_ · Accepted Answer

No.

There are some things that can be smoothed over, but walking out on someone at their lowest and then wanting to come back months, or years later when they're on top?
No. That's irreversible damage.

It shows a very hypergamous and purely selfish streak in someone's being.
This goes for girlfriends, friends and family to me.

You have to ask yourself, do I really want to let someone who abandoned me when I hit rock bottom (in this case my ex-girlfriend), come back into my life permanently, romantically, just because I've got material stuff going for me now?

The answer would always be a no from me.
Forgive by all means and let go of the pain, but remember how you were treated and made to feel.

Phoenix98 · Answer

Well context matters a lot when talking about something like this.

If she left me because of set backs in my life that I didn't really have any control over or just because she saw me as a loser and that was that then no of course I wouldn't take her back.

But If I was the one at fault and I was doing some stupid bullshit and making obviously bad life decisions then I wouldn't exactly blame her for leaving if I blatantly fucked everything up.

hahahmm · Answer

I don't see anybody else talking about this aspect but from my POV: If you didn't marry her then you didn't fully commit. If you didn't do that then you should have zero expectation of her following you to hell and back. That doesn't mean you have to take her back... just saying, it doesn't maker her a bad person if she dumped her boyfriend who was living on the street in favor of the dude who was living on the yacht. Unfortunately life isn't fair and the roles of men & women aren't the same. We'll get judged differently for our decisions. Yes, many men are trying to change the equation to fight back against how modern feminists try and abuse/use men.

jaybee281 · Answer

I actually would - Then while having sex after I'm done - not her just me - I'll tell her oh I remembered something - Bitch - You left me when I needed you the most - What I did now was just use you as an insult and what I'm gonna do is tell you how worthless I think you are - After my rant specifically designed to achieve the purpose I've already stated - I'll tell her not to even think about pressing some rape bs charge on me because I already have everything filmed and recorded including your consent, how much you enjoyed it, and me specifically telling you not to press any charges so if you try anything not only will I whoop your ass in court but I'll also send it without any restriction on every porn site available - Now get out of my apartment before I decide to use you again and have You like it.. Again - That's what I'd do personally😊

WalterBlack · Answer

It depends on what is meant by "at your lowest". If I put myself in a bad situation by making poor choices, I would not expect someone to choose to suffer along with me. However, if my life took a negative turn through no fault of my own, I would expect my relationship partner to stand by me. Under those circumstances, you don't get a do-over. Once a person has proven that they are not loyal, it is almost impossible to trust them again.

NathanDavis · Answer

I tried to push my ex away when I was mentally down.. mentally and emotionally, but she sort of said FU... I'm not leaving you, lol

besides that, I've never been in any relationship in which money has been a deciding factor

Adam1978 · Answer

No I would not. She is out for good. She has shown she is only there for the material things. And she doesn't deserve them unless she earn them herself from now on.

bolverk · Answer

Not a chance in hell, I'll have moved on, if she hasn't that's her problem, S
he walked out when I was at my lowest point, did not think I deserved support and thinks she can waltz right back in now times are good?
As Lady Antebellum sing -Love Don't Live Here-

TheBigGuy9 · Answer

Context matters because some lows have you dragging down others, stealing from them, etc. In that case, when I get my shit together I might date her again.
But if a family member died or it was something out of my control happening that led me to such place and my girl dumped me, then no I would not take her back.

Fireguy17 · Answer

probably not. She set a precedent of what would happen if something went wrong again. Hopefully I would have move on long ago.

ShadezMcgee · Answer

Fuck no. She left because she felt I was not worth it and a lost cause. Now she wants back in because I am winning and doing better? She is just doing it for the newfound status and wealth.

She can eat shit and fuck off.

JasM0 · Answer

Hell to the nana no… You know the true nature of a person when you have nothing to offer them. Be cordial but never engage with that person again.  Regards

msc545 · Answer

Of course I wouldn't. If she's not willing to be with me when I'm not doing so well I shouldn't be willing to be with her when I'm doing very well. It just means that she's a gold digger.

AdithyaR · Answer

Of course not. If she couldn't support me during my worst, she can't enjoy being around my best.

Avicenna · Answer

I laugh at her. Millions of other women out there, why try again with someone who has proven she isn’t partner material?

Dchrls78104 · Answer

Sorry, no. I need real friends, not fake fair-weather ones.

zagor · Answer

Depends. Did my low include drinking too much, drugs, abuse? If so then one could hardly blame her. If I was just having money problems then screw her.

rockytherock · Answer

No, if it isn't obvious enough she doesn't deserve anything remotely positive from you.

Shiningtempest · Answer

@daniela1982 I consider a woman who walks out when I'm at a lowest to be an unfaithful person.

Kaamraj · Answer

Nope. I think almost all men can universally agree to that.

Staximus · Answer

If I wasn't good enough for her then, I'm not good enough for her now.

Waldoe · Answer

no... a relationship should be supportive, (for better ot worse) not just when he is wealthy and wise

jasco · Answer

Nope through thick and thin, through good and bad, through sickness and health you are suppose to be their for your lover or try to the best extent

Anonymous · Answer

If I did it would only be so I could wait for her to be at her lowest. Then walk out on her. Payback is a b****.

UdontNeedtoknow · Answer

Nope. If you can't love me at my worst, then you can't have me at my best. it's called loyalty... Something women today sorely lack.

Kiran_Yagami · Answer

Of course not. She has shown her true character. When someone shows you who they really are, BELIEVE THEM. She belongs to the streets.

TheAfrikan · Answer

Why woukd I be interested in getting her back no not me.

Anonymous · Answer

Typical. I set favorable terms of the relationship for myself.

exitseven · Answer

No way would I take her back.

cth96190 · Answer

I probably would not.

Danny_dan92 · Answer

Fuuuuck no. Begone satan

FilmGuy93 · Answer

I would not do that, no.

awkward_author · Answer

She's probably a user, so no.

jahaims · Answer

I don't take anyone back

donnny2367764 · Answer

Nope. Never. That girl is super toxic for you

Jintendo18 · Answer

If I can be replaced, then so can she.

bamesjond0069 · Answer

Pump and dump that ho.

AncientWisdom · Answer

No I would not

Mediterraneansoul · Answer

Give me one good reason why should I lol?

Anonymous · Answer

tell her to fuck off to go fuck herself

Jmmmfi4 · Answer

Tell her to kick rocks

Leonharted · Answer

Nope.

Juxtapose · Answer

Never ever lol.

jspl90 · Answer

yeah no thank you

Jamie05rhs · Answer

Fuck no.

PAcc92 · Answer

Hell no

rabbitzzz · Answer

Yes, I am a simp.

motownplayer2000 · Answer

Fuck no.

CuriousMufuxka · Answer

Never again!

AndrésC64 · Answer

Hell no.

AimeeKyle · Answer

Uh, no..

dudeinohio · Answer

Nope

clubmanager · Answer

I wouldn't

Marinepilot · Answer

No way Jose !

EaterPeter · Answer

Probably not.

Sabretooth · Answer

no...

JamesRandiDebates · Answer

Not a chance.

MrSmithee · Answer

ruin her life.

Slim57 · Answer

Hell no

Anonymous · Answer

HELL NO!!!

Anonymous · Answer

Nope.

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