Oh good question, and I would love to hear your own take on the matter.
I think in many cases we like how girls look so much we feel inadequate in that department and overemphasize its importance.
Similarly, guys generally have trouble understanding ways they can be wanted, and confuse it for having to be needed. Fame. Status. Riches. A glorified body guard. It's why guys can be insecure about a woman who makes more than them. "What use am I to her?" he thinks. Generally not so much out of "needing to be dominant" or whatever this or that gender studies book tells you. But generally out of feeling expendable. Like if you don't serve a function for her, you'll find a guy who does. If you can't find a use for yourself, you assume the only desirable thing is this or that specific trait. "The only thing should could want me for is looks, and I don't have that."
She doesn't need a specific "use" for you. She can just want you. And it can be for a collection of things that individually don't seem that impressive. A masterpiece artwork isn't a masterpiece because it used special colors or brighter hues. It uses the same colors everyone else is using.
I might have gone off on a tangent there at the end, but it's a common insecurity I see in men and try to address it a lot. And that last paragraph especially applies to women as well.
It depends on what it is. If it is something out of their control, they can be affected by that. Examples like height, deformities, possible disabilities that they have to live with but cannot control can be hard. Guys who deal with that generally may be a little bitter in dating, but can easily use that to their advantage by being positive and fun people and not let that anchor them down.
However if it is something controllable like personality, weight/fitness, job, etc. Then they have no right to be butthurt. They need to make those changes in order to get results and they actually have the power to do so.
Yes I think that´s a problem because women are nearly equally visual to man.
Women also value visual sides and I´ve been told that I´m not man enough for them because I can´t grow a full beard and I´m skinny.
Plus I have a rather low self-confident because of my skinny physique which takes all chances of success in dating away.
I'm sure it has an effect, not helped by my low self esteem and lack of confidence due to rejection and inexperience. That being said, if I was handsome or had the genes to easily maintain a fit body, then I'd be more successful in dating therefore more confident as a result, so bit of a catch-22.
I think for most men the issue is their own self doubt or something else mental. Preventing them from succeeding with women. Then they say stuff like women only want tall men, big muscles, big dick or wealth to avoid their character flaws. Shifting blame from themself.
It's a wide spectrum. Many factors that coincide may influence success in dating, a bit of luck sometimes among them. But with that said, certain physical traits indeed. You should see how sadistically some women rip into shorter guys in heightism culture, telling them to die since no one wants them anyway etc. It's downright inhumane how some men are treated due to some physical disadvantage at times.
Yes I'm ugly and that's jus a fact. I could try. But I'd jus fail. So what's the point. I think you jus see a lot of guys saying it online cos usually the internet attracts ugly dorks. But jus cos you see a lot. of. complaining here don't mean all guys are ugly as shit. It's just this website attracts losers like. myself
Regarding any sort of failure, you can break down the reasoning to 3 categories: Some are stupid, some are without willpower, and some are unfortunate victims. Every failure of every species on the planet falls into at least one of these categories.
Oh for sure. Women only find about 20% of men physically attractive. The other 80% are unattractive. a lot of men have physical flaws that will not be accepted and for a lot of guys it's genetic issues as well. Now for a lot of men they can try to improve and fix this issue but other men regardless of what they do will never get anywhere. The dating life is very hard for men but that's just the way it is
If you are short and/or balding as a man, you are pretty much fucked.
Desirable women won't want you, so you will have to settle for the small minority of women who would otherwise be way below your league.
It's rarely physical. There are women who are happy to date short men, heavy men, bald men, whatever. When a man is unable to get a date it's almost always his approach.
Why certainly, I don't know any short men who are successful unless they are wealthy.
Being bald, short, fat or broke is almost a %100 guaranteed lonely life for guys.
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