27 and never had a girlfriend. I don’t understand what I could do?

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I have never been successful with women. I’m 27 and the pressure of leaving my singledom keeps piling up everyday. I have tried dating apps and they don’t lead me anywhere. I have approached women and that too doesn’t lead me anywhere.

Yes, I dress and groom myself. I hit the gym. I have a good career and actively hit the gym (yes, I’ve a macular body). I don’t creep around women. Despite all of that, I am still virgin and haven’t been in a relationship.

I’m just tired of failing and failing and asking people for feedback. None of this has gotten me anywhere. The loneliness is ruining my mental health from inside. I see a lot of people around me who are getting into relationships and some are getting married. I feel extremely embarrassed to even tell people that I’m virgin at the age of 27. I just hate being in this situation, especially when my efforts don’t yield any fruits.

BeenThereLovedIt · Accepted Answer

Ya gotta talk to them, a LOT. Stop wondering to yourself the whole time whether or not it will lead to anything. Stop caring and just live in the moment. Stop trying to plan your life with them mentally while you are talking to them. It comes off as desperation and you probably reek of it when you are around them. Talking to women, and eventually flirting is a skill, and no skill is inbred, you have to practice any skill to get even reasonably good at it. You don't just pick up a guitar and play dust in the wind, you gotta learn and practice that shit for hours on hours on hours before you can remotely carry the tune.

lightbulb27 · Accepted Answer

Face reality, accept that... and keep learning. It's a "lightbulb" you have to figure out. Something is going wrong, my guess is it's the way you project yourself, but I can't see you... you are a blue smurf.

I went through all that, gave up for years, messed up, failed long time til I succeeded recently. Observe people who are successful, be a pleasure to be around, take on new endeavors, learn dating skills, learn about women, be inquisitive about them, project confidence not fear, work on your masculine self emotionally. Dating is it's own animal to attract mates and get through the process. OLD is a mess.

Little_Bumblebee · Accepted Answer

I'm gonna ask you, have you been genuinely interested in the women you've spoken with and/or approached?

And maybe consider whether or not you're more in love with the thought of a girlfriend than the actual person.

I know when I finally got my first boyfriend I realized much later that I had been in love with the idea of a boyfriend rather than my actual boyfriend.

PrettyPriya · Accepted Answer

Have you tried meeting women in different ways? Like what is your go to thing to do to meet them?

DarkWinterNights · Answer

51% of guys 18-30 are single. Close to 1/3rd in the same bracket are virgins. Your situation isn’t unique. Avoid dating apps. They aren’t designed for normal guys.
Guys are also usually SOL out of school if they don’t have a lot of female friends or larger friends groups.
Honestly get a dog or a cat to keep your company, focus on keeping yourself in good physical and financial shape, focus on your hobbies and look into joining singles groups, church groups or preferably just social groups in general.
Don’t look for a girlfriend, just look for friends and it will eventually come naturally.

OmegaDiver · Answer

Sounds like you tried improving on the "logical side" of your dating skills. Looks, career, even confidence, are logical.

Try improving the "emotional side". You can be at your best in grooming, shape, confidence, skills etc... If she doesn't feel a thing she won't be interested.

I underestimated this aspect for too long.

noohair · Answer

First, I am not a medical professional. I am just giving my opinion. I don't fish but I will use this analogy. You can't make a fish bite the hook. You have to make the fish want to bite. You might be coming off as needy or desperate. One observation I have seen in women is, they want what they can't have. Put on a positive confident demeanor. And look for the true gems, not just the superficial ones. All the best.

cookiecrusher · Answer

2 options man.

Start going to a church, tons of decent single women there.

Or a climbing gym, archery class etc. Somewhere active where women also go. Something that also interests you.

Live your life there, have fun, talk to few people and a woman will appear in your life.

Siren777 · Answer

Love finds you when you're not looking for it and trying too hard. Enjoy your life and focus on other things and it will come your way.

FilmGuy93 · Answer

Generally speaking, guys in your situation tend to make at least one of the following mistakes:

1. You aren't an interesting and engaging person for women to interact with. You don't "excite" women. You don't make them feel good.
2. The loneliness is showing through in your behavior and women pick up on that.
3. You aren't a good communicator and so you aren't able to pick up on the subtleties of interacting with a woman.

DWornock · Answer

That is because you set your sights too high. Obviously, you don't appeal to beautiful girls because they can do better. You need to look for a big girl that is age 30 and a single mom.

Avicenna · Answer

Meeting someone can be totally random. Don’t be so hard on yourself. Be flexible.

IHateBeingaMan · Answer

thats why i picked my username, due to my lifelong resentment of how guys, men, always have to be the initiators and court women, ask them out first, pursue

Fromdusktilldawn · Answer

I feel you dude. 25 here and never had a girlfriend. My first sex was with an escort girl.  My issue is self confidence/esteem and shyness. Is it same with you?

slatyb · Answer

How many women do you greet by name what you see them?

rabbitzzz · Answer

Guess its time to quit job and go fishing in remote mountains in Canada.

Anonymous · Answer

This is why hookers exist. Men want women more than money and women want money more than men. It's human nature

Chthou95 · Answer

It's over man. Look into the black pill. This will teach you about how difficult dating can be for men.

Anonymous · Answer

Another reminder of what I can't stand and it'll never change

Anonymous · Answer

I’m 27 and a virgin too. Just be thankful you’re a guy and still have more than enough time on your hands.

Vegasrunner · Answer

What feedback were you given?

JamesRandiDebates · Answer

Prostitute. Fix you right up.

Tiger288 · Answer

Screw them

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