Opinions on what to do?

[Anonymous]

So I've been seeing this guy for the past year. I thought everything was great. I felt we had a good bond and we were getting more comfortable over time. Anyway, fast forward to Sunday evening. I spotted he had a dating profile, he got a notification on his phone and it said 'Tara has messages you'. I instantly thought to ask whats that?
He said he still had an account but he doesn't use it. He's 'far too busy to meet anyone'.
He's also told me that he's only had 2 people in his apartment. Anyway, its like everytime I doubt something, he will find something to say that is somewhat reassuring.

I later created an acocunt on the same app and actually came across his. I felt sick. Angry. Horrified. I cringed an died inside a little. I'm supposed to be meeting him pn Friday again, but...
I dont know what to do. Do I meet him and confront him? If I do, should I be firm and tell him how much he's hurt me?
Do I act really grown up about it and mention it as more of discussion?
Do I block and delete? Do I message, block and then delete?

I honestly want to see if he has the audacity to lie to my face so I can tell him to fuck himself whilst I look sexy, right before I leave to go out with the girls.

Wondering what people usually do when this happens?

[AviatorTom]

In the past year, I assume you've come to know him quite well, yet you think his comment that it's an old account and he doesn't use it is a lie. Why?

[Asker]

It's got his location on it, he moved about a year ago, which is fair enough but, there's also other things I picked up on. Like, he mentions convos he's supposedly had with me, that he defintiley hasn't had with me. Or the time he told me i left my yogurt in his fridge an it wasn't my yogurt at all. Yeah it might sound daft, but small things like that keep popping up where I'm wondering wtf is he on about, we didn't go that place together, or i never mentioned that to him. Just numerous things. Yes it could be nothing, but when i flag it with him, he kinda seems to recoil like he's cringing cos i think he knows I've cottoned on

[Asker]

I've noticed bobbles in his apartment, an he's like 'here you left this' and its not my bobble. Like that to me is just undeniabe

[AviatorTom]

@kerrylouise It sounds like you're looking for reasons to break up with him. You know, you don't need a reason. Just break up. Or, do you really want to stay with him and are hoping that there's a good reason for this? Your choice. It's your life to live the way you want to live it.

[Asker]

Mmm no, I'm not looking for a reason to break up with him. I'm looking for reasurance. If he no longer uses the dating site, why have a profile? That doesn't make any sense to me. I'm not trying to be controlling, I'm just pointing out the obvious. The profile remains for a reason. If i was really interested in someone I wouldn't have myself as available on anything. That would be sending the wrong impression to the person I've been seeing. Or maybe my thinking is totally illogical. I feel like he doesn't truly understand why that would be seen as an issue for me, i think its disrespectful. In particular if he did have a profile for the past year an he notices I've seen it but does nothing about it, what use is that to me?
It just creates more questions

[whosnumber1]

A. you do not bottle it up
B. if it bothers you, you need to talk to him
C. it doesn't sound like he really wants a committed relationship so just be prepared for that conversation

[weysally]

go to the meet and see if he turns up, if he does turn up tell him who you are and disappear from his life, because it will happen again for sure

[Finchie40]

Be done with him , don’t waste your energy , if he truly valued you he wouldn’t be keeping his options opened , so realize you deserve better than that

[Tornado92]

This bitch is old no guy wants her!
A beautiful young 20 year old is a twice better then this old goods.
It's like a car you want the new model not the d model that's how woman are.
I don't care about woman my age. I want the nice hot young 21 year olds.

[Finchie40]

That’s pretty harsh to say @Tornado92 but lately with my experiences with girls’ I can kind of see where you are coming from cuz my experiences haven’t been the greatest , I have been experiencing things with girls today that just shows how selfish girls are and how most of them think grass is greener on the other side and will drop you like a fly , so maybe you are experiencing the same things I have been, to the point where I been focusing on younger girls myself sadly to say , cuz age really never bothered me before , it was more about the chemistry and connection and attraction I have with a girl over anything so her age never really mattered to me but nowadays who fucking knows , All I know is girls my age or older go through a cycle of change , Especially Menopause , for a marriage to last through menopause Good luck with that shit , You have to be a pure simp to stay with a girl going through menopause , cuz the shit she does to her man during that time is so fucked up , and I feel bad for all the guys that tolerate that abuse , her hormones go on haywire and she changes like a flip of a switch , she is more likely to cheat on her man during that time and play victim and nitpick at everything he does , he can be the most loving caring guy that loves her with all his heart and she will find reasons to be angry at him to give herself excuses to fuck someone else , Sadly I know this cuz I fucked some of these married women without knowing they were married and I witnessed a lot of this shit when I worked as a bouncer at a bar , I didn’t find out these Girls were married until after the fact that she was a selfish whore and I feel so bad for the husbands that had no clue , I am not saying guys don’t cheat either, but a guy only cheats when he doesn’t receive respect and love from his partner and she withholds sex from him in most cases where a girl cheats cuz she thinks grass is greener on the other side , or she gets bored and starts comparing her

[Finchie40]

To other guys , or her friends husbands , she thinks to herself that is the type of man I deserve so all of a sudden you are a piece of shit to her , I have witnessed and experienced this shit to many times to the point I am focusing on younger girls , part of me feels like I will be able
To guide a younger girl and show her true love and respect before she gets damaged from all the guys her age that will probably end up playing her , reason I say that is cuz I was that age once and I didn’t know then what I know now , so my last shot of true love I am hoping it’s in a younger girl cuz I am tired of being treated like pure shit for no reason , I think social media has destroyed the way people look at each other to the point of true love really exists anymore sadly to say , Selfishness is the biggest relationship killer and these girls thinking grass is greener , the fucked up thing is these girls will leave their good men go Fock other men And then try to come back to you after she realizes how much of a dumb ass she was , pretty much everyone of my exes has tried coming back to me and I just laugh in their faces and say nope not going
To happen whore

[nawtee_me]

If it were me I would just leave him and be done with it. The rest of that stuff doesn't mean a thing. If you know the truth then you are justified in leaving him. The rest is all ego...

[Tornado92]

He wants a beautiful young 20 year old not an old hag like you!
Okay Karen! You're premium years are over!!