Can a man or woman who doesn't want kids or marriage still be a QUALITY man/woman?

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BirdieBeep · Accepted Answer

What's a "quality man/woman"? What determines one's quality? I do not think a desire to marry and have children determines that at all. What determines a quality partner for you personally, though, is anther matter. Maybe for you (I'm just guessing, I don't know you, so I might be wrong), a woman who wants to be a housewife and a good mother would be the perfect partner. I don't want kids and don't particularly care about marriage, so as a partner to you I might be worthless, and as someone expecting me to be a housewife, even willing to support me, you'd be worthless as a partner too because that's not what I want. My ideal partner is someone who doesn't want children, who will share my hobbies and passions, support one another and just enjoy one another's company.

See what I mean? What makes a perfect partner to you is a matter of your own needs and desires. We don't all see quality in the same things.

DizzyDesii · Accepted Answer

For others who dont want marriage/kids yes. In early 2017, I dated someone who didn't want either. I still saw him as a quality man. And we fell so hard for eachother over those 3 months that he was contemplating giving me kids and I was contemplating giving up marriage. It was more toxicity than compromise in my opinion. He was the only guy to make me question my religious beliefs and I didn't like that. But my relationship with God has been stronger than ever ever since I ended that. I dont compromise my mains for anyone now. My belief in God and my desire to become a mom are mandatory. My beliefs in marriage has its moments. I still want it but possibly without the legal docs

dontgetafemalecanine · Accepted Answer

(bro heck yes)

(my uncle and aunt are the cutest couple ever. They are bout 56 now I think. Never had kids. Worked standard 9 to 5 jobs. They travel every year and has taken us nephews and nieces to trips occasionally. )

(you did say kids or marriage)

(i aspire to have no children. I talked to my girlfriend about this. She agrees. We want to focus on working hard together, selfishly focus on ourselves. Life is short - tick toc tick toc. )

(I tend to bracket things coz they aren't formal sentences- excuse me if you weren't comfortable)

FriendlyDrugDealer · Accepted Answer

Yeah I think so, they might not be the ideal spouse in some eyes but that’s a true definition of someone’s character. You can still achieve great things and wish the best of intentions for people and humanity regardless of your marital status or how many kids you have.

Fireguy17 · Answer

sure, some people just don't want kids for 1 reason or another.
It doesn't make them a bad person.
It is probably a good idea thet their partner thinks the same way.
Once you get older it isn't such a big deal, by then many women can no longer have kids, or the guy can get fixed.

beebella · Answer

Sure, but most of the people I know who don't want either of those things have commitment issues and nobody likes dealing with commitment issues.

HighValue · Answer

They can, but then they need to be honest about it at the beginning because most people that do want kids will have no interest in them and it would only be wasting both people's time by deceiving them.

TonyMetal___86 · Answer

She can be a quality woman in other things but not in my eyes!
A woman who doesn't want to get married, do not want a family and kids means nothing to me because such people are selfish cause you might refuse one of these options but not all of them and still a quality person...

Flower7 · Answer

Yeah, definitely! Those aren’t the only things that matter in a relationship.

Anonymous · Answer

Absolutely. Not every person is meant to be a parent. Humanitarian endeavors, for example, are a lot easier when you don’t have a family of your own to look after.

Phoenix-gb · Answer

It doesn't affect what type of person they are, just means they're not a good fit for someone who does want those things. You could be their perfect partner on paper, but if they're wanting a family and you don't it's not going to work out.

Berethor · Answer

Not in biological sense.

IMuser · Answer

Yes. For example  1. Newton  2. The Pope  3. Nikola Tesla

slatyb · Answer

Of course. They might be a minority in their community but that’s a sign they should move.

IdkwhatImdoingLOL334 · Answer

If you still plan on staying with the person, not just for a few months then nicking off, then yes! You can still have a lasting relationship without being married.

AndrésC64 · Answer

Ummm... yeah. Neither marriage nor kids has anything to do with being a good person.

Twalli · Answer

Definitely if they just don't want kids. Some people say that since they don't want kids, marriage isn't important

OlderAndWiser · Answer

Depends on your reason.

England4eva · Answer

Of course, I am that woman 🙂

Anonymous · Answer

Only women who doesn't want kids is a quality woman to me

ragooo8 · Answer

If he's already had kids yeah

Mossberg500 · Answer

Not for me. But I'm sure they can yes.

bamesjond0069 · Answer

Not among younger first time marriages.

Carlit0 · Answer

Depends from a world or religion view?

moonpie89 · Answer

Ofcourse.

Nigjt · Answer

Yes. God Bless

anton_dee · Answer

Of course

Joker_ · Answer

No..

jahaims · Answer

Duh.

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