I cheated on my boyfriend out of anger a couple of days ago. Can I pretend this never happened if it was truly a mistake? (Page 2)

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I really can’t tell him this because it would end my 5 year relationship with him. I would rather learn from this mistake on my own.

Anonymous · Answer

The truth is gonna come out later in the future one way or another so I suggest that you should just come clean now before it’s too late. If you wait longer the betrayal is gonna be so much worse, but if you come clean now and own up to your “mistakes” then there is still hope.

admles · Answer

It is not a "mistake", it was a conscious decision you made, and now you have to live with the consequences.

Tell him, and be honest - if he finds out and you didn't tell him, it will go badly. Tell him, and you might just have a chance.

Alwayreckles93 · Answer

Wow your a whore. Break it up you don't want to give your soon to be ex boyfriend and STD. Good you people have forgot about God commandments. You for sure Will be going to hell.

SinceYouAsked · Answer

Do NOT ever tell him. If you need to tell someone, go to confession (even if you're not Catholic).
But do you truly regret it? When you say it was a mistake, I hope that's what you mean. Not, oh, gee, I slipped and fell on this other guy's penis. And - do not EVER repeat this mistake.
Also - I hope you were safe. If not, get yourself tested ASAP. If you care for your boyfriend, you don't want to pass an STD on to him.

Rambling010 · Answer

You can pretend whatever you want. We have people pretending there are 64 genders and cops killing black people in the thousands in America. Neither is true.

. This one shouldn't be too hard to pretend. It comes down to what you really believe to be true in your heart. So if you're a person who's made of any moral substance you're not going to be able to just forget about it like it didn't happen. You have a better chance to believe in 64 genders

SynthKobra · Answer

You asked for the opinion, you got opinions and you wanted some kind of validation for your mistake. You got your answer. You made your mistake. Now, lie in it instead of lying to your boyfriend and yourself. We are human beings. We make mistakes. But cheating is one of the ultimate betrayals a human being can experience. I hope you understand that.

mickeystoned · Answer

Well you try to move on from it what's going to happen is if you're a real person with a conscience and morals your cut is going to eat at you and you're going to be your own worst enemy you need to figure out a way to at least tell somebody to get it off your mind and off your chest then maybe you can move on I understand it's a mistake but still that being said you can't change the fact that you already did it but you can't change the outcome of what happens he finds out to find somebody else

Aurora1010 · Answer

You can bet that he'll find out sooner or later, lies always come to the light somehow

Ninania · Answer

You have to either tell him or leave him. Lying to him by keeping it secret is egoistic and damaging to both of you.

Darine123 · Answer

You just acted really like my ex , he gets mad at me for talked to another guys when I never see them so he see 4 prostitutes for $4,000 for 10 times, if you really love him please let him find someone who’s better than you.

DonkeyDan · Answer

No you can't pretend it didn't happen, your choice was to cheat, you should tell him and be honest and take whatever consequences come your way. You're not in school anymore.

Anonymous · Answer

You don't really love your boyfriend. You want to know how I know? Because you're putting YOUR happiness over the truth. Yes if you tell him you might lose him. But by not telling him you're denying him the truth about who you really are. He deserves better.

1millonlies · Answer

Yes you “could” not tell him. Like you could steal money from your moms purse. Doesn’t make it ok or morally right in the end.

ZoeyMercer · Answer

someone who’s cheated on their boyfriend can have a guy for 5 years and I can’t even get a guy to like me for 5 days. Life shouldn’t be this unfair

annabananna · Answer

You should consider counseling. When someone cheats they have an inner issue they need to work through. If you don’t work in that issue than you are very likely to do it again.

Guanfei · Answer

So basically, you just wanted people to absolve you because you feel guilty but you're way too selfish to admit you did something bag.
Yes, he deserves better, and you're a gigantic piece of shit. Leave him and give him the chance to meet someone who cares about him.

anniisa97 · Answer

Dont ask the question if you're going to get upset with the response. People like you are the worst, this is why people are afraid to give their heart to someone. He does deserve better.

padreflint · Answer

I think you should tell him. Chances are he may find out eventually anyway. Whether it's a week from now or five years after you are married. If you tell him now, you may be able to work through it. If after years of marriage he finds out, it would be a lot more difficult.

Either way, good luck.

ParkRangerDan · Answer

Not only is this the behavior of a selfish bitch, it is a blatant disrespect of the guy you are in a relationship with. Yes people make mistakes, but to have sex with another man out of anger just gives me the feeling you are loading an emotional gun to shoot him with later. Tell him, if it works it works, and get therapy.

prosmind · Answer

You are drowned in confusing position. In case you don't confess you will have psychological pressure, and telling means end of relationship. But let me say, cheating wasn't instant reaction. You might be fantasising sex with other guy and you got the opportunity. Now wait for a few days to decide the best way.

Anonymous · Answer

Thanks for proving my point to a dumb feminist who believes only men cheat. Need to tell him you cheated, keeping secrets from your partner is never a good idea, and the longer you keep secrets, the worse the situation is. I'd be mad as hell if my partner waited 20 years to tell me, or worse ye if I found out through someone else my partner cheated. I hope when you tell him you cheated, he dump's yo ass and finds someone who will remain faithful.

Telekinetic-Potato · Answer

Please don't leave GAG. Nothing is ever as bad as it seems like it is and whatever you end up doing, you're going to have to move forward one way or the other.

But what specifically do you feel you've learned from this?

Reva_Dalby · Answer

I say this to those who said don't say it:
I hope your boyfriend/girlfriend will cheat on you too (because he/she was angry) and never tell you. you deserve it. A girl cheats on her faithful partner then claims it was a mistake and you respect it. If one day your partner here asks anonymously: "I cheated on my girlfriend/boyfriend but I regret it." and most of the answerer say that your partner shouldn't tell it to you, then maybe you know what it feels like to be lied to!

motownplayer2000 · Answer

You cheated out of anger you said? It’s not a mistake. You intended to do it. I sincerely hope he does find out. He needs to know so he can decide if being with you is his choice. You will suffer the consequences eventually.

johnyash1324 · Answer

he needs to know because no one deserves to be cheated on , and he should make you a cu*kold lmao , just kidding

just please tell him what you did, then its his choice whether to be with you or not.. you don't deserve to decide this because you're the one who cheated on him.

supercutebutt · Answer

Well you may now have this gentleman's baby in your belly. So that could complicate matters. Unless you think your boyfriend would be OK with raising another man's child.

Jltakk · Answer

Not going to lie, this level of immature thinking what scares many men away from dating.

It takes two to tango and you clearly abandoned your half of the responsibility in the relationship. I know you will only follow the answers you *want* to hear, but here's the thing about life. The answer is usually what you don't want to hear. He may be an asshole for all I know, but you owe him an honest explanation. Like an adult. Good luck.

TheorionMage · Answer

Would you PREFER he learned of your indiscretion from someone else FIRST? There is ALWAYS someone envious seeking to 'stir the pot' to foment 'drama'---

Anonymous · Answer

Only a worthless piece of trash thot would choose dishonesty here.. You need to face the music and accept the fact that you fucked up, and he will leave you..

Cheaters are not human, they care nothing for anyone but them selves. They exist without empathy.. Without a soul.

Anonymous · Answer

No. If you get angry and cheat, especially after 5 years, you are either extremely dysfunctional, no longer interested in your boyfriend, or likely both. End the relationship, don’t tell him you cheated, just end the relationship. Prolonging the relationship after you have already ended it in your mind is borderline abusive and furthers my dysfunction theory.

Anonymous · Answer

What exactly have you learned from your mistake? I think you've learned that you can cheat on your boyfriend and get away with it! Cool. Why bother to tell him now? He probably hasn't told you about the times he cheated on you either! Don't leave G@G because of other people's answers who were not what you wanted to hear, or who were nasty. You're anonymous anyway.

Backseatvibing · Answer

Don’t tell him i never told my ex and he never found out and I never did it again

Voodoo69 · Answer

Personally I think you should sit and watch while he beats him close to death and then he should leave you because you don’t deserve to even be in a relationship. Just my opinion of course.

douride2 · Answer

Cheating is never a mistake. It's a choice.

doggylover64 · Answer

What the fuck? Is she serious? You don’t cheat on somebody you say you “supposedly” love. Yes you should tell him. YOU cheated on him with another man. Yes.

DontTouchMySosij · Answer

Only a retard would tell. Why walk into a potential danger zone if you could walk around and avoid it?
To be moral and suffer consequences you don't have to? . only retards with small brain would do that. Hahahaha I laugh at those retards. The fact you even consider doing that makes me question your intelligence

theeliigilbert · Answer

You definitely should tell him and no matter how upset or angry he may get, hopefully he can learn to forgive you for your actions knowing what you did behind his back was wrong.

Hearthly11 · Answer

That’s wrong no matter what.. tell him the truth and accept your fate. Cheating is never okay but don’t that again. Next time just leave the person instead of cheating

DermalPunch · Answer

You're young. Keep it to yourself. If you feel the urge to do it again, break it off with him due to compatibility and move on.

homegardenerisback · Answer

fuck being a man in 2022, its legit over. Infidelity is the new normal now and primarily among women.

Anonymous · Answer

A random hoe on the street is better than a cheater because that random hoe didn't cheat on him yet. Breaking up would make you the better person but cheating makes you lower than him even if he abuses. Stop doing relationships and just do one night stands single because cheaters will never be trusted no matter the excuse

tiajoka · Answer

Leave him, thats the kindest thing you can do after this atrocity. Don't even tell him you cheated, just tell him you're leaving, and then go. It's better he doesn't know.

Tstrbrainer · Answer

Leaving gag is your option, but you should tell him and I read your update, he definitely deserves better a better woman no matter how you try to justify yourself.

Wester1967 · Answer

Tell him and let him leave you. Set him free. No honest man needs to have anything to do with a cheater. Go find your boy toy and make it work with him

Aakash_Hangargi · Answer

I had a question how do justify cheating because you were angry? What if he does the same or beats you in anger and says i was angry sobi beat you how does that justify?

Ehjoh1 · Answer

You're a filthy dumb slut, and he deserves better than a dishonest cheating-ass hoe. Do him and his children a favour and leave.  Get the fuck out.

RobT312 · Answer

Well, it happened. How can u pretend it didn’t happen? yes, mistakes happen, but honesty ( good or bad) is what I think makes a relationship work

Jamie05rhs · Answer

What's done is done. You can't change it. If he leaves you, oh well. You're going to have to be a big girl and accept the consequences for your actions.

And oh yeah, no one will care if you leave GAG. You're anonymous, so you're nobody to us.

CasaNorba · Answer

how was this a mistake?  you ran, tripped over a soap and landed on his dick?

Staximus · Answer

If you don't care enough about him to not cheat on him, then you need to break up with him. Unless he cheated on you, hit you, or is emotionally abusive, there is no good reason for you to cheat on him. The relationship is over.

Anonymous · Answer

no you can't "pretend it never happened". he deserves to know. next time, find better ways to release your anger... like, I don't know, talking to him?

perfectt_angel · Answer

Its probably best to tell.. i am curious tho… why were u upset with him

AndrésC64 · Answer

That was a shitty and childish thing to do, cheating on him because you got mad. I wouldn't be able to get past that. I'd never trust you again.

KatherineJ · Answer

Without honesty and trust what kind of relationship is it?

Gingerguy33 · Answer

I think you should tell him and let him make the decision plus I’m sure if he found out about it from someone else it would even be worse then if he found out from you

skyeee_ · Answer

you're either a troll or a fucking idiot

Puppystarfish23 · Answer

How was it a "mistake" did you just happen to slip on a banana and land on another man's dick

demonics · Answer

"as if there is better than me just based on this one mistake?" There literally is lol! Epic woman moment. The audacity!

SkipPerk · Answer

The right thing to do is say nothing. Telling him will only break his heart

Anonymous · Answer

😆😆Of course he DESERVES BETTER. Because a better girl/guy wouldn’t ever do this to their lover. You sound like a sociopath too. You betrayed someone who probably only loved you. One day you’ll figure out what a shit person you are 😂 you have no real guilt.

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