I am a successful businesswoman, Singaporean Chinese, living in the United States. What kind of person should I find for the rest of my life?

[caiwen]

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[TheBigWhistle]

You're 35 according to your profile. I'm sure you are well aware if that picture is actually of you, you are quite attractive and I'm sure have gotten a lot of attention from men and possibly women as well. Perhaps you've had boyfriends, serious relationships etc. Trial and error is how most people find out the type of person they want, the type that appeals to them and the type of person they don't want to be with. Forgive me but I find it odd that at this point in your life, you need a bunch of strangers to tell you what kind of person you would find appealing? You may not have found him yet but I would think you would know what you are looking for.

Having said that, if you find yourself on the West Coast, I would be more than happy to discuss this with you in person at much greater length after a lovely dinner, some fun conversation and laughs and a night of mind blowing sex. Hit me up.

[Interstate]

Just because you prefer a particular "kind" of person does not mean that is the type you will end up together with; (IF you are meant to have somebody). The big guy upstairs didn't destine EVERYONE to get married and live happily ever after. I know PLENTY of people who have done nothing but date and never tied the knot. My Mom for example, her Cousin NEVER dated or got married. This is one reason it is said to not look for love, let it find YOU. In other words, if you are supposed to have that love, it will happen naturally. Otherwise you will be spending your entire life looking for something you are not meant to have. But all you can do right now is live your life, what is meant to happen will happen, and move on with life.

[jennifer_bloom]

A kind and successful guy that is ugly but healthy - he will be loyal to you and never cheat on you.

[caiwen]

In a man, wisdom is more important than wealth, talent is more important than appearance, ideal is more important than stability, perseverance is more important than dreams, to know oneself is more important than tolerance, and morality is more important than anything else

[WhatTheHeckkkk]

Whomever you choose in life.

[caiwen]

being happy is the most important

[Guy13]

There’s plenty of quality men in Singapore. I know of at least one Seminary there. If you want a Conservative Ephesians 5 Guy/Family that’s dedicated enough to give up at least one year of Career to study a God greater than himself…go back to Singapore 🇸🇬 And, I will PM Seminary name to you. And, Americans spit in public…gum, sputum, sunflower/pistachio, Chew, etc..

If by chance, you are not Christian then this is where you start. I know a handful of guys that I would let my Sister date.

Which Coast are you on❓My sideline Business pulls REIT from both West/Central USA as well as Greater (not China) and Lesser (SE) Asia.

[Guy13]

One more thing, Boy-30 or Man-40. Are you looking for a Guy whose arm you could grab ahold of and be moved to the away from traffic Sidewalk because he’s lived OR “Let’s have fun and we will see where it goes”

[ChiTown33]

Somebody who brings out the best in you ( makes you a better person, makes you believe in yourself). Life is hard but less a journey and more of an adventure with the right person. Just make sure you're compatible. That you share similar world views, that you have the same morals and values. And since longterm relationships and financial woes go hand in hand it's best that you pick someone who shares similar financial goals. That way you'll be working towards the same goals. Finally choose a person of character. I don't care if a person has 1 dollar or 1 million dollar to their name. If they're a person of character they'll always be successful.

[caiwen]

yes totally agree

[Anonymous]

Someone who doesn’t mind a successful businesswoman. Most men don’t want that. Because if you’re too focused on that you don’t have much time for him as well as just things at home. Honestly most men don’t care about a girls degrees, her business, etc. I’m not sure honestly cause if you found a man who is successful as yourself you’ll never really see each other. What’s the point? Then if you found a man who just worked a regular job who didn’t mind you always being too busy for him he may jump ship after a while.

[Berethor]

Look for a man who is ready to have children, you don't have much time. :)

https://tvtropes.org/pmwiki/pmwiki.php/Main/MyBiologicalClockIsTicking

[ohshee]

One that. just by the way he looks In To your eyes. His smile his touch. The way he kisses slow and soft. And the way he treats you every day no matter what is going on in his world.
You know he loves you each and every day

[caiwen]

thanks

[SpaceGalaxy]

WOW!!! Now i know why you have a 41% MHO vs. people like me with only 4% !!! LOL

[caiwen]

@SpaceGalaxy why

[ohshee]

@caiwen your very welcome
@ space galaxy I don't know if mho have anything to do with anything except for the asker connecting with what the person said

[jasco]

well um honestly either find someone younger or older than you. I suggest finding someone close to your lvl unless you want to build someone up. Uh yea honestly their are a lot of women who don't find mates at your age so who knows. I wish you the best of luck tho because you are really pretty.

[Pyrofox]

I'd say if you are successful and stable chase a dreamer who can make your free time that you can get off exciting. in my opinion.

[caiwen]

But two people need a common topic. What if he is very decadent?

[Pyrofox]

Well you could always explain to him that there are lots of places you have always wanted to visit and I'm sure he would be happy to take you there. >.> Nothing wrong with a relationship around travel on the vacation days. And common topics those come from just exploring. Not everything about a relationship has to come full circle back to what normal life is like.

[caiwen]

yes go with the flow

[jshm2]

You shouldn't.

Instead you need to get your ass out of the United States and into a more civilised and settled place to live and work. Not to mention, raise a family eventually.

[Avicenna]

Depends what is important to you. Do you want to have a family? Do you want to marry a rich man? Does he need to understand your culture? And so on.

[caiwen]

I have my own business and I don't need anyone to give me anything

[Avicenna]

Well, then meet someone with a similar outlook on life

[Avicenna]

I’ve spent some time in Singapore, by the way

[caiwen]

what do you think of singapore

[caiwen]

yes i agree with you

[Avicenna]

I liked Singapore. Very cosmopolitan. I liked the rain forest in particular.

[caiwen]

I think we can be friends

[PrettyPriya]

I'd say just someone you enjoy spending time with, get along personality with and can match your career and ambitions.

[skytatoe]

Someone you have a strong connection with who shares your values, so that nothing can break your bond. That's the idea anyways when people get married, rich or poor, good times or rough water, in good health and illness alike until death do us apart.

[Mofunfour20]

YOU WANT STRANGERS TO TELL YOU WHAT YOUR PREFERENCE IN MEN SHOULD BE. You're bound to fail then, you dont know what you want. No direction

[MCheetah]

Another rich Chinese person, I assume. I also assume you hate the US too and are working for the CCP.

[John_Doesnt]

Define successful. And why does it matter if you're financially successful or Singaporean Chinese? I'm guessing you want someone who cares about the same things.

[TheSpaceGnome]

You should find someone that shares your views, hobbies, and interests, that you also find sexually attractive.

[Iron_Man]

If you live in China find yourself a Christian man that’s Chinese if you live in the USA anything is open You can even date a white man

[caiwen]

I do not understand

[Cowboy6666]

common interests, goals , common things, same thinking etc ;)

[TheMajesticKing777]

Whoever attracts you in that way, follow the heart... and gut as well, that's important too

[Adam_West]

Let's hangout. Feed me and let me be your husband or dog or cat, whatever you want. I'll fuck you whenever you want. Also let me eat your money like a sick fuck. Be my sugar mommy.

[Dargil]

Perhaps a Cantonese emigrant from Hong Kong or Malaysia. But that's just a guess.

[zagor]

What do you want for the rest of your life? Children? Long luxurious vacations? Wild crazy times? A big house?

[Staximus]

One that doesn't just care about your looks and money

[caiwen]

I hope it's more of a joint effort

[Staximus]

A joint effort as far as what?

[caiwen]

Learn together and grow together

[Staximus]

You sound like a good catch but I think you are out of my tax bracket

[DiegoO]

Nice joke. "For the rest of my life". That's nearly inexistant with romantic relationships.

[DiegoO]

Healthy romantic relations***

[caiwen]

It's hard for a man your age to understand a lot of things

[caiwen]

In Western countries, a man basically accomplishes nothing before the age of 40.

[DiegoO]

Lol, if you say so.

[caiwen]

laugh slowly

[DiegoO]

I rather life like a maniac. Hahahahahhhahhahaha!

[DiegoO]

laugh*

[caiwen]

this is your freedom

[DiegoO]

Hahahahahahaha, indeed

[RebeccaBI2000]

Someone who has the same goals you do. That will be hard though

[Aquariusmystery]

Someone who’s not going to hold you back from your goals

[SpaceGalaxy]

Since "most" Chinese women here in the US have a "white-man fetish", the chances are you'll be another one of them

[Zlantur2]

Aww cute. The one you like and would like to live the rest of your life with. It doesn't matter what you do for living or where you are coming from.

[Zygum]

You are pretty woman, nobody knows your choice, only you know, how can others suggest you?

[Anonymous]

Oh God if you are asking this, at 35, you must be very insecure

[abc3643]

ME... If I was only 30 years younger! *sigh*

[caiwen]

you are not old at all

[abc3643]

Oh, honey, I am definitely old and, after my MRI, I may not be around much longer... :)

[DaveJord]

A highly successful Businessman?

[caiwen]

I have financial freedom

[DaveJord]

Well then you tell me what you should look for I don't know.

[caiwen]

You perfectly left my problem to me, haha

[DaveJord]

Well if you do not know what you really want from a man then nobody can help you. You have to do some serious self reflection and figure that out for yourself. But if you are not caught up on wealth or looks, then the world is your oyster.

You probably should expand your horizons and explore the possibilities. I dated a lot of women thinking I knew what I wanted... but it took time and a lot of soul searching for me to really appreciated what I really needed in my life. From there I was able to narrow down my search, from all the mistakes I made in the past. At 45 I started considering women I never would of consider at 20 or 30... but I did not compromise I just came to really understand and appreciate what a good women was, and what that meant to me.

[caiwen]

I am a lady who understands life and a romantic person. I am looking for a smart person and we have a good time. My job makes me travel a lot, so I love that my partner in life is independent, but when we're together, it's all about ourselves

[caiwen]

what are you looking for

[DaveJord]

It's a matter of what I have found. I wanted a women that is emotionally and physically available to me. CONFIDENT, Independent, self-sufficient, responsive, willing to make time for me, and truly looking for companionship.

Yes, she has to be descent looking and sexy to me. That thing that took me time to figure out, I went after 8s and 10s on the physical looks scale, before I consider everything else. But what found out that looks and sexy to me are two different things. The one I have now is probably a 6 or 7, but she is much more sexy to me than any of the 8 and 10s I dated.

[caiwen]

You are researching how to get along with women, what do you think is the best way for two people to get along?

[DaveJord]

I guess after 30 or so, I starting looking at every dating opportunity as a chance to get better at what I was doing. Serious honest self refection on myself as possible... in order to determine what mistakes I made, what I could do better and what changes I could make about myself in order to become the best version of my self possible. So if you want to call that research then yes, I did do a lot of that, in order to start looking of the right type of women and how to treat the right ones better.

Honestly, the only way to get better at anything is to do it, and nothing is more true about dating than that fact. You have to get over the fear of rejection and failure... that is just part of the dating process. There is nothing wrong with failure as long as you learn something from it and apply it into the future. But you every time you met with failure you got to get right back out there and move on with the process.

[rabbitzzz]

Rich businessman. Avoid gold diggers.

[Anonymous]

Why do girls wear shorts like under their skirts and dresses 😭

[Apulu_3]

One who genuinely loves you and isn't using you.

[FunkyMonkee]

A poor, singer... like me!

[caiwen]

what's your problem

[FunkyMonkee]

Other than not having much money, at the moment, and no one to talk to, etc., i COULD tell you the whole story but only if you actually want to hear it.

[caiwen]

Of course

[FunkyMonkee]

The very abridged version:
I've had a rough time getting a job most of my life. Especially the kind I've always wanted so, I've hardly ever had money. I'm still on welfare!!
Mid `90's, my brother gets arrested for bogus child molesting charge (2 pre-schoolers in the trailer where he was staying, accidentally saw his naked ass while he was getting dressed one morning!)
Dad got cancer all over his body and died a few months later.
The band I was in for 25 years broke up shortly before we were probably about to hit it big.
My brother got arrested again for another bogus CM charge (his best friend's wife wanted him and he refused her advances because her hubby was his best friend so, she made up a story about him molesting their 9 year old daughter. He was in jail for about 8 years.
Shortly after he got out, mom had a stroke. She also had cancer but opted not to tell any of us until 8 or 9 years later when it was all over her body!
I finally got a good and long-lasting job (11 years).
My brother decided to jump off a bridge and kill himself! After this, I had to only work half days because I had to take care of mom by myself.
The new owner of the place where I was working decided to move the company about an hour's drive from where I live so, I could no longer work there. A year later, they went out of business! I got a similar job about a 7:00 walk from my house but was only there for about 2 years. Then they went out of business! My next job was a part time gig as a fucking janitor, 18 hours a week at minimum wage! I was forced to quit that when I lost my house.

[FunkyMonkee]

Mom died about 2 years later leaving a new Will that said I get a 50% share of the house and a life estate. My ex-sisters, who'd been robbing her blind for a good while, wanted to go by her old Will where we each get 1/3. They claimed that she was on drugs when she signed the new Will so, that made it invalid. She was NOT but the judges still ruled for the old Will! Those bitches also stole all of the money she had in the bank, which she intended ME to have, over $37,000.
My ex-sisters evicted me from my house and I ended up losing over half of my possessions!
My aunt took me in here at what used to be my grandmother's house. She HAD $9,000,000 which she spent her last 10 years throwing away to scammers that robbed her blind!! She even mortgaged the house and the car to give them more money that they asked for!! Then, she died a month later leaving ME with all the debts and no money to pay them!!
Thanks to that asshole fuckwit that stole the last election and is severely fucking up the entire country, and covid isn't helping, I can't GET a job!!
What little money I get has to go to pay the storage unit where most of the stuff I DID get out of my house is being kept because my aunt has this house LOADED with garbage so, I have no room here to keep any of my stuff!! It doesn't help that it's a WAY smaller house than what I had!!
THEN, I've got this asshole neighbor up here that's gotten me into a lot more bullshit because I had no way to get the grass cut until last summer and nobody would help me do it!! Because of her, the house is now even MORE loaded with shit because I had to clean out the ocean of shit in the garage to put the car in!! I FOUND the mower in there but, it needs work and, by that time, I'd already bought a new one.

[FunkyMonkee]

When MY house was sold, instead of me getting the full third, they took out expenses for shit to do with the house that were NOT up to me to have to deal with and then my poor excuse for a lawyer took half of what was left!! So, instead of me getting 1/3 of the house, I doubt I got more than 1/8!!
NOW, my ex-sisters are trying to get their fucking greedy hands on THIS house!! I have JUST enough to pay the mortgage but, as soon as I do, I'm flat broke, again!!

[Anonymous]

Me. I’ll make you happy.

[TheFlak38]

you're also a level 1 catfish

[stark04]

Right. They've shifted from facebook and Instagram to here on unknown platform. 😅

[TacosRAwesome]

Depends on what you want.

[GMANN56]

Me. I think I would work.

[caiwen]

You are still young and you need to work hard

[GMANN56]

So you are saying that how much money a guy has is what's most important to you.
I mean that's what it sounds like based on your replies.

[HotelWhiskey27]

Someone cooler then cool. Someone ice cold

[HeartFullOfGlue]

Well what do you like?

[Wise4myage]

Whatever appeals to you the most.

[Anonymous]

A guy who isn't focused on making money.

[Anonymous]

… what are you looking for?

[caiwen]

You are so young

[Opinion Owner]

I will do you the kindness of not escalating this, but know that you are on the cusp of becoming my enemy.

[caiwen]

Please start your performance

[Opinion Owner]

Haha, I like you. Nobody else realizes what theatrics are.

[SHREYASH007]

Some Indian guy, similar culture.

[stark04]

Why? Indian culture is way better and well mannered. Don't you think indian guy deserve better?

[Waldoe]

maybe a Man? that's up to you...

[Reijen]

The person who makes you happy and complete?

[Wade12345]

Me, please!

[caiwen]

？？？？？

[AvaOneLasTime]

You tell us!

[Appleby33]

Wow you look 19 years old! 😯

[Anonymous]

You are very cute, I would love to date you.

[Anonymous]

I adore Chinese women.

[Anonymous]

you are past your prime lol

good luck

[boggboss]

One that u want

[joeldalton]

How you doin'

[caiwen]

thanks, I'm fine

[nawtee_me]

I am availabile…

[caiwen]

are you retired

[nawtee_me]

Not yet no…

[caiwen]

What do you do

[nawtee_me]

Maintenance, follow me and we can talk if you like?

[888theGreat]

Me of course

[Kurdistan1991]

İdk. Find a Turkish