Would you ever date someone who dislikes physical touch?

[DanaeAdam5]

Yes

No

Other (please comment)

[EmbraceThePain]

So, I’m trying to imagine how this would be.


Can I ask, are you this way?


I’d like to show a woman I care and love her by kissing her, hugging her, etc.


I know there are other ways, which I do alongside of physical touch, but remove physical touch altogether?


It’s such an innately human thing, I can’t imagine a woman not liking such a thing.


Unless of course she has a past of traumatic experiences so she’s told herself in her mind that she will not accept physical intimacy with someone. In this case, wouldn’t it be better to help her through her troubles? So she can learn to love again? I’d rather do this then doom to eternally not wanting to be touched by anyone ever again.

[DanaeAdam5]

No actually. I love having physical contact with my partner, and a relationship with little to no physical contact would be harder to maintain for me.

[Miristheiss]

No, I wouldn't have.
I'm assuming you mean their dislike of touch applies to their mate, they wouldn't like being held, cuddled, caressed, hugged and kissed by their mate.

As long as they wanted to be touched by their mate it wouldn't be an issue if they didn't like being touched by friends and acquaintances.

If my girl dislike me touching her too then that wouldn't have worked.

[Aerissa_Jade]

Depends why, as I could not be touched at one point in life due to Haphephobia and now I'm super touchy to make up for it. So sure I would if it was something they wanted, but couldn't do for whatever reason. If they simply did not want it, and was not interested then probably wouldn't date, but would still offer to be friends.

[Ez-Bri-Z]

That would be really hard to do as I adore cuddles. I'd be fine without sex, but we can't even snuggle while watching a movie? Iunno..

Not saying it's impossible but that would be tough for sure.

[Kaneki05]

It is impossible!

[Desconhecida]

I don't think so. It would be like a long distance relationship in person.

[Slartybartfast]

After Years of being single I can't stand being touched anymore. I threw a surprise birthday party for my best friends wife three years ago, she hugged me and it was like I wanted to jump out of my skin.

It's funny, I used to be a really sensitive, happy , loving guy, now I'm a total mess.

My ex wife told me 'i destroy men" even her self described "man hating lesbian" mother told her on our wedding day "don't break this one"

I now hang out with the guy she dated before me in highschool, he never dated again and he once told me ", she ruined me as a human being and I'm only alive because I don't want to hurt my mom".

[t_time]

Yes my boyfriend now he doesn't really like physical touch so that much. Only on his own time no. It's hard to get used to. But I love him enough to make it work

[DizzyDesii]

I mean im not a hugger but i still like being touched in other places. If they dont like being touched at all, we wouldn't work

[rocksongwriter]

What do you mean by "dislikes physical touch"?

Does that mean they just prefer not to be touched?

Or does that mean I'm not allowed to intentionally physically touch them ever? No hugs or hand-holding -- ever.

[DanaeAdam5]

They prefer not to be touched

[ChrisMaster69]

Yeah I would and sort of have before.

also a good person to provide an opinion would be @Aerissa_Jade on Haphephobia

[Kaneki05]

Now that's impossible you can take away sex but not cuddles. I need them.

[tponderingundead]

no. i completely get why someone wouldn't want to be touched but my point is if you don't want to be touched, then why would you want to be in a relationship? physical affection is a form of love.

[jshm2]

A "zoo person" you mean.

You can only look at them, not touch or pet.

I'm a firm believer you should not date or breed such people, or people with conditions.

[TyLeeAndPink]

Depends. They still have to be affectionate in some other way.

[Nagatoro]

See, I require hugs, kisses, hand holding, etc or I get antsy and pissed so uhh, that's a deal breaker for me.

[clampfan101]

I don’t want to simply say “no”, but that would be very awkward. Especially with me being a hugger. lol

[JustinTheGreat]

My love language is physical touch so I couldn’t. When I’m with someone I love to be all over them, kissing , cuddling, laying on them.

[TheMVPofGaG]

As a person whose love language is touch, this sounds like torture.

[Sour-rose]

Cool. That means we won't be sleeping together... or kissing... or f**king... sweeeet

[TexasRed95]

I was heavily abused by my father and due to that I have a hard time with physical touch. So yes I would date someone like me.

[crmoore]

I could. Physical touch isn't a necessity, at least in the early stages of a relationship. But I do expect her aversion would change with time. If not, perhaps her and I aren't meant for each other.

[Anonymous]

If she doesn't want physical touch then why would she even want to date?
Sounds to me like she needs to see a therapist. Not date.

[exitseven]

No, I really cannot see that kind of a relationship.

[finding_yourself]

hell to the nooo... my strongest love language is physical touch, big turn off. I love giving and receiving massages.