Would you ever date someone who dislikes physical touch?

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EmbraceThePain · Accepted Answer

So, I’m trying to imagine how this would be.

Can I ask, are you this way?

I’d like to show a woman I care and love her by kissing her, hugging her, etc.

I know there are other ways, which I do alongside of physical touch, but remove physical touch altogether?

It’s such an innately human thing, I can’t imagine a woman not liking such a thing.

Unless of course she has a past of traumatic experiences so she’s told herself in her mind that she will not accept physical intimacy with someone. In this case, wouldn’t it be better to help her through her troubles? So she can learn to love again? I’d rather do this then doom to eternally not wanting to be touched by anyone ever again.

Miristheiss · Accepted Answer

No, I wouldn't have.
I'm assuming you mean their dislike of touch applies to their mate, they wouldn't like being held, cuddled, caressed, hugged and kissed by their mate.

As long as they wanted to be touched by their mate it wouldn't be an issue if they didn't like being touched by friends and acquaintances.

If my girl dislike me touching her too then that wouldn't have worked.

Aerissa_Jade · Accepted Answer

Depends why, as I could not be touched at one point in life due to Haphephobia and now I'm super touchy to make up for it. So sure I would if it was something they wanted, but couldn't do for whatever reason. If they simply did not want it, and was not interested then probably wouldn't date, but would still offer to be friends.

Ez-Bri-Z · Accepted Answer

That would be really hard to do as I adore cuddles. I'd be fine without sex, but we can't even snuggle while watching a movie? Iunno.. Not saying it's impossible but that would be tough for sure.

Desconhecida · Answer

I don't think so. It would be like a long distance relationship in person.

Slartybartfast · Answer

After Years of being single I can't stand being touched anymore. I threw a surprise birthday party for my best friends wife three years ago, she hugged me and it was like I wanted to jump out of my skin.

It's funny, I used to be a really sensitive, happy , loving guy, now I'm a total mess.

My ex wife told me 'i destroy men" even her self described "man hating lesbian" mother told her on our wedding day "don't break this one"

I now hang out with the guy she dated before me in highschool, he never dated again and he once told me ", she ruined me as a human being and I'm only alive because I don't want to hurt my mom".

t_time · Answer

Yes my boyfriend now he doesn't really like physical touch so that much. Only on his own time no. It's hard to get used to. But I love him enough to make it work

DizzyDesii · Answer

I mean im not a hugger but i still like being touched in other places. If they dont like being touched at all, we wouldn't work

rocksongwriter · Answer

What do you mean by "dislikes physical touch"?

Does that mean they just prefer not to be touched?

Or does that mean I'm not allowed to intentionally physically touch them ever? No hugs or hand-holding -- ever.

ChrisMaster69 · Answer

Yeah I would and sort of have before. also a good person to provide an opinion would be @aerissa_jade on Haphephobia

Kaneki05 · Answer

Now that's impossible you can take away sex but not cuddles. I need them.

tponderingundead · Answer

no. i completely get why someone wouldn't want to be touched but my point is if you don't want to be touched, then why would you want to be in a relationship? physical affection is a form of love.

jshm2 · Answer

A "zoo person" you mean. You can only look at them, not touch or pet. I'm a firm believer you should not date or breed such people, or people with conditions.

TyLeeAndPink · Answer

Depends. They still have to be affectionate in some other way.

Nagatoro · Answer

See, I require hugs, kisses, hand holding, etc or I get antsy and pissed so uhh, that's a deal breaker for me.

clampfan101 · Answer

I don’t want to simply say “no”, but that would be very awkward. Especially with me being a hugger. lol

JustinTheGreat · Answer

My love language is physical touch so I couldn’t. When I’m with someone I love to be all over them, kissing , cuddling, laying on them.

TheMVPofGaG · Answer

As a person whose love language is touch, this sounds like torture.

Sour-rose · Answer

Cool. That means we won't be sleeping together... or kissing... or f**king... sweeeet

TexasRed95 · Answer

I was heavily abused by my father and due to that I have a hard time with physical touch. So yes I would date someone like me.

crmoore · Answer

I could. Physical touch isn't a necessity, at least in the early stages of a relationship. But I do expect her aversion would change with time. If not, perhaps her and I aren't meant for each other.

Anonymous · Answer

If she doesn't want physical touch then why would she even want to date? Sounds to me like she needs to see a therapist. Not date.

exitseven · Answer

No, I really cannot see that kind of a relationship.

finding_yourself · Answer

hell to the nooo... my strongest love language is physical touch, big turn off. I love giving and receiving massages.

OG956 · Answer

Probably not, cause my language of love is touch :) So I need 2 feel touches from people I care about.

Anonymous · Answer

One of the many reasons my marriage broke down. Didn't want to be touched hugged, caressed cuddled stroked. It was rough.

Zolly99999 · Answer

I would have to say no if it was a permanent thing.. I couldn't be with someone if I couldn't touch them in any way..

Nigjt · Answer

If u do not like being physically touched what do you want a relationship for just mental feelings that would be crazy. God Bless

Dinosaursandanime65 · Answer

That’s like having a kid, getting rid of them, and then adopting another one

roxystars19 · Answer

Yes, because I also don't like to be touched. Hugging is okay sometimes, but only when/if I feel like it.

Jouth · Answer

I would never someone who likes physical kill  ew don't touch me during sex

Agape93 · Answer

Yes, but it will be hard.

XXblack88 · Answer

I'm not sure how that would work. So no

Anonymous · Answer

If we really loved each other we would work on this issue. Nothing is in resolvable.

Anonymous · Answer

There could be some fun to be had there particularly if when she says no she likes calling me a pervert

Anonymous · Answer

Yes, I can masturbate by seeing her boobs. So fine with me.

PhenomenalQueen · Answer

No, I personally couldn’t because I looooove it..

boggboss · Answer

Nope would be my equivalent of a shit relationship

EnglishEuropean · Answer

No, what would be the point?

Drumlin2001 · Answer

Less likely too. I'm a tactile person

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

No, sorry can't do it

SurströmmingLover · Answer

Definitely not. Touch is everything!

skytatoe · Answer

Nooo that would be awful hahahaha

TacosRAwesome · Answer

Depends on how bad it is.

skyeee_ · Answer

like literally no physical touch at all? pass

elizamichale1 · Answer

Never

jahaims · Answer

No, we wouldn't be compatible

Juxtapose · Answer

I am quite touch hungry so no.

Iron_Man · Answer

No That’s like a penpal

IsoUser · Answer

I would not date a girl denying physical touch.

KingofCups · Answer

Waste of time

swettannie · Answer

lol no

Fuentes · Answer

Lol nope

pink-jilly · Answer

nope

msc545 · Answer

No!!!

CubaPirate · Answer

The hell nooooo

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