Oh Hell NO ! I've done this once or twice , these people all return to their common denominator , and that is being a lazy , unmotivated , complain about everything , world owes me a living , welfare handout attitude , Ohh , but she has a " good " heart , and was void of opportunity ! hahahaha NOPE ! She was a lazy unmotivated bitch , and guess what they remain the same , both male and female.
You can't SAVE the unmotivated , welfare , lazy attitude , and again , they will ALWAYS return to same , motivated people are motivated no matter what their background or opportunity , that's a different thing.
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Having long term goals doesn't ensure that a relationship will work or the other way around. You dont have to have a pinpoint plan of your life but just be passionate about something and be willing to work towards that goal. Some people are content being where they are and thats fine, its their life and its not my place to tell them otherwise.
As someone who had no long term goals, the right person made me want to strive for long term goals. The person you love inspires you to do things you did not think you could do before. So if you're dating someone and they have no motivation to do anything beyond today, they don't see a future with you or for themselves. But if it's for themselves you can do the best you can to encourage them to dig deeper but it's ultimately their decision and when they're ready to make it, and you don't have to wait on them unless you see a potential. No one actually thought I was stupid they just knew that I was lost.
Hell no. Sorry, but if there’s no long term goals for their own personal life, then I don’t even know if I could be in a relationship with them. Like, they have no idea what they want? That also affects relationship goals too… So, no.
I’d rather date someone who at least has a general idea of what they want in the future…. A certain career, a house, marriage, kids, etc.
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Yes, for sure. I like spontaneous people who live in the moment. I don't give a fuck if they have long term goals or not.
I’m sure you can , even should.
Dating is to get to know a future possible that partner. You should be able to study that person and get to know them on a more personal level before making long-term decisions with him/her.
They could turn out to be:
aggressive
Impulsive
manipulative
narcissistic
bipolar
be a mommas-boy
be a daddy’s-girl
be lazy
be criminals
have history of cheating
have kids or hiding that hey have kids
have several Sexually-Transmited Illnesses
You just never know. I’ve seen it all.
Please study a future partner.
Please take your sweet-a$$ time with them, Please don’t become too invested.
Make your intentions clear to someone.
Dont make long-term decisions with someone without knowing them well.
Like having babies
Getting a car
Moving In
Moving away
Things can go left REAL FASTThat would be fine as I'm still learning what I want to do with my life as well. We would probably find out what the hell to do with our lives together and if not, well... we have time. It's not like we're dying tomorrow. I do not have any long term goals whatsoever. All I know is the present, which is being in the military, but as for when I get out, I have no fucking clue. Is that a deal breaker when dating? Probably for other people, but since I experience it myself..., I think it's fine to date someone with no long term goals.
The desire to want your partner to have specific long term goals is to believe they will be successful.
It can be an attribute of being lazy and unmotivated to work, but it is also an attribute of being flexible. The difference is whether or not the man IS working hard for money and is committed to you.
Flexibility is a survival trait for a large amount of people in fact it may be among the most valuable of them all in today fast changing world. Having a fixed goal your stubbornly focused upon may indicate will and hard work but it could also be an liability to a relationship.
How many relationships fall apart because a partner is too committed to a goal rather than family?
I for one would not date or marry a dedicated career woman with lofty goals because it leaves too little time or interest for the family I would be marrying her to make.Nope and I learned that the hard way. If one has no ambition and you're dating them. They will simply try and downplay and belittle yours so you can have no drive like them.
It's actually made me resistant sharing my ambitions with partners now and now extend the practice of the phrase " don't share your goals or aspirations that you have planned. As the act of sharing is equivalent to the act of doing." To ALL forms of my relationships. Platonic or intimate.That's alright I guess. To some extent though. My current boyfriend doesn't have any long term goals but he's very successful. He's one of those who live in the moment. I don't think there's anything wrong with having no long term goes but be tackling some daily goals to sustain yourself.
you better be careful about marrying a guy like that. Someone with no long term goals tend to be lazy, unmotivated, and will never ever succeed in life. Chances are he will be the type who would sit in front of the tv while you do all the housework. you need someone who wants to do things in life.
No because that would mean that the relationship isn´t going for long well. No goals means to me that a person has no deeper interests in achieving anything and I can´t stand that because these are often times the people that are blaming others for their problems.
At 45 I can, because I have achieved all I need to achieve for myself and am finically secure for life. I do not need anything from a partner other than them being self supporting and available to me emotionally and physically.
Now at 20 or 30 or if your even 40 or 50 and struggling finically or have not reach the panicle in your life, hell no stay way from losers.Yeah I could and have in the past,
it’s just been mutual to date knowing that in say 8 months they go home and I go home.
it sounds better than saying we just fucked each other exclusively for 8 months.
i am in a relationship at moment that possibly has no long term goal.For baby about 10 minutes LOL do we as people we're always growing and if nobody has any long-term then they're not going to grow and if they're not going to grow you going to grow up way past them and then you're not going to get along anymore a relationship takes two people and it takes hard work but you have to understand that and then you have to put the work into it and that's the beautiful part. About that is growing together
Probably not if she didn't have a decent job already and had no relationship goals or hopes and dreams for the future. Such a person would be rather hollow.
I only dated girls who were determined to make their own way and build lives for themselves.Yes because I don't plan on having kids and as long as they are financially responsible, who cares?
Meaning they know how to save and don't spend it all randomly.
Other than that what am I? Their damn long terms goal advisor?
No they can live life how they want as long as we are compatible in thought such as they too don't want kids. Otherwise I'd be letting them down.Goals are not a prerequisite requirement for my ideal partner. I have goals of my own and that's all I need. The only thing I want in a partner is chemistry (similar views, interests, sense of humor, and sense of understanding one another) that I fully trust.
Men don't care about long term goal or career of a woman. 1) are you beautiful 2) are you loyal 3) what is your body count 4) do you have family values? These are all the questions that matters
I think it’s important that you each have goals and perhaps if this is going to be a long-term relationship, your long-term goals and even short term goals, benefit not only yourself but the relationship as a whole. Clarity is key.
Of course. "Meaning" behind that 1) isn't necessarily true, and 2) judgmental. You'd have to get to know them better before (which requires dating) to know them better and how they are. Not necessarily "bad".
No, and this is something I learned from the last two women I dated. I will not date someone who doesn't know their purpose or isn't at least looking for it.
What if one's long term goal is to get a partner? And if it wasn't then why are they dating me then. And I would have to say no.
But everyone has a long term goal if they want a partner.No! I learned the hard way my wife (soon to be ex) pretty much I had to push her so many times and I got in many of arguments over her not really wanting to work while I’m footing all the bills.. been married for 4 years.. I’ve had enough!
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