Why am I only attracting average men nowadays when I used to attract a lot of hot guys in my 20s but now that I am older I only attract average?

[Anonymous]

This is taking a toll on my confidence b cause I used to attract the wealthiest and hottest guys that were a great catch they were going somewhere in life and met lawyers to bankers even. Now I am in my 30s and I am struggling and i got offended whenever an average looking guy thinks I would even sleep with him. Yes they are very nice but I don’t want to sleep with them nor even give them a chance. I am not ugly. I didn’t gain weight since my 20s. I still go to do Pilates and yoga and have same routines.

[Sixgunsound]

Google the term ‘sexual market value’. Then Google the term hypergamy. Ask yourself what the brutally honest reason why you haven’t settled down by 30 is when you had chances with all these guys when you were younger healthier had more energy and were more likely to have healthier children and be better able to take better care of them? You get from the table what you bring to it, and men who bring a lot expect a lot, and have decades longer to be more selective who the perfect mother for their children is. None of these statements are sexist, unless Mother Nature is the sexist here.

Have you ever been a feminist, or listened to the lies that you can have all the fun you want in your 20’s because you’ll still be able to catch a great guy with resources and options while maintaining a great career just before the buzzer sounds at the end of the 4th quarter of your reproductive window? Betting your youth and eggs on a man who is going places but hasn’t arrived yet makes him work significantly harder to achieve because he has external motivation to do so. Taking a decade off to get back blasted at a frat house of a Friday night from guys who are going places without you because when your value was high and their value was low you rejected them is not going to be attractive now that those same men have arrived at the place you would have been attracted to when your value then equaled their value now.

I’m soooooo sorry your parents never sat you down and explained that this is how feminism works to you. It’s heartbreaking having to watch this happen to hundreds of thousands of women every year. If you had picked poindexter when you were both 22, he’d likely be an IT manager by now about to break six figures at 30, but he’s probably looking at a 23-4 year old to stay home and raise his kids who won’t have to work a job ever again.

[Avicenna]

The simple answer is that most men consider women in their 30s to be less beautiful than women in their 20s, so if they're dating for looks above all else (and that class of guys you dated usually are), they will prefer women in their 20s. In addition, most of the men you once dated have partnered or married, leaving a smaller pool of available men your age or a little older (the group most likely to date a woman in her 30s).

[fonduegirl]

Don't date at all. Men think women in thirties are worth less efforts when in reality they're the ones who aren't worth anything.

[MCheetah]

You're old/ugly. That's the answer. There you go.
(And yes, I know you're a catfish/troll.)

[Berethor]

You are not in your prime anymore.

https://tvtropes.org/pmwiki/pmwiki.php/Main/MenGetOldWomenGetReplaced

[Anonymous]

You answered your own question. The good news your value is still the same. The reality is your "Percieved value" has dropped considerably. Now you have 2 choices. 1. Just accept it. Or, 2. Go on the offense. If they don't come to you you have to go to them.

[Anonymous]

You answered your own question. It's your age.

To be brutally honest, your value in the dating and sexual marketplace have dropped significantly with your age. You may still see yourself as the same attractive 20-something girl you were, but that's not how everyone else sees you. If you can't attract the same quality of men you used to it's because you are not as high value as you used to be.

[Anonymous]

You hit the infamous wall.
As your looks fade more and more you will realize you got by in your youth on your looks and nothing more.
You will become more desperate and discover that your value was diminished with every random cock, every bar hook up, every one night stand.
Men want young and tight, not over used and expired.

[Luggit]

A think more men get attracted to women in their 20's, more so than her 30's and so on. Although some men like older women, but this is my guess.

[Dragonstarterplus]

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This is definitely not a guy using a girl account. Nope nope nope

[SlothySlob]

Have you made any connections with these lawyers and bankers?

[Yourfriend2021]

Girls play games when they are young and play the field. Now that you're older you regret the choices you made, and that's a normal scenario.

[Chthou95]

Because your beauty fades and your value goes down a bit and now those high value men don't want you anymore. That's life sweetie. Don't complain about it

[zagor]

Because the hot guys are going for girls in their prime.

[KrakenAttackin]

This has to be a male posting. A female would have posted "where have all the good men gone"?

[Waldoe]

because now you are only average... beauty fades and you are left with only your personality...

[spartan55]

You must be quite the lady
... 😂 😂

[In_Trance]

The Law of Attraction says like attracts like

[Asker]

I’m not average at all

[In_Trance]

... if you say so

[notwoke]

at least your not shallow

[TheMajesticKing777]

People age lol

[supcurA]

aging problems lol