What does everyone think about dating someone with a huge age gap?

[Anonymous]

Anyone have any experience or stories about a time they dated someone that had a big age gap?

[Anonymous]

I've been married to my husband (who is 15 years younger) for 3 years (and we've been together for about 4.5 ish years). At first I absolutely refused to consider him as a romantic partner because he was so much younger than me. However, over time I started to open my mind more. Once I became open to the possibility our relationship took off.
The negatives I was expecting from the age gap didn't actually happen. We have very similar/compatible maturity levels despite the age gap. We also were a bit different since even though he was a lot younger he actually made a lot more than me. In fact, he actually supported the family while I went back to school (very grateful for that!) I was worried he wouldn't be ready to be a stepfather, but he and my daughter clicked very well (and they still do) The biggest negative was that a little while after we started dating I got self conscious about having an older body as I was with a guy with a young/sexy/muscular body. However, he helped me get over it. He made it very clear he was super physically/sexually attracted to me.
In fact, I think the age gap probably was beneficial in some ways. I have a ton of energy and guys my age typically can't keep up. He's got an energy level much more compatible to mine. Also, him having a muscular body and lasting longer in bed is a huge plus as well. Moreover, I always wanted more kids. I think having sex with him made it easier for me to get pregnant (with twins) as opposed to if I was with a guy with older sperm.
But to be honest most of the time we don't notice the age gap. We just love each other deeply yet happen to have a decent age gap.

[Flower_Power]

I don't really have that much experience. I once dated a 30-year-old when I was 19. I suppose that constitutes a large age gap, no?

I felt like there was a huge power dynamics in our relationship as a result of the age gap. I was in my second year of university while this man already had 2 degrees and a job. He had more money than I did, and I often would kinda ask him for handouts for things like food. This sounds selfish and silly in my part, but growing up I always had to worry about money because while parents had plenty, my father would never help me out. He wouldn't let me get a job at like a corner store or anything, either. He would just prevent me from getting any money. So I would ask my boyfriend to help me out and give me some so I could eat that week. He of course said yes, but he always would ask for favours after.

The favours... they weren't really favours. He just sexually exploited me. He might ask me fore sex and I say no because i wasn't in the mood. His response would then be, "Well I gave you money you c*nt." He was a horrible man. Not even a man.

Either way, that doesn't mean your experience with an older guy will be the same. Mine was a male manipulator. Yours may be awesome and loving.

[Maxnanet]

great answer ! i believe this could happen at any age tho !! Men are stupid sometimes !!

[Ray1980]

Had some encounters with 20 somethings but never anything serious that lasted relationship wise but plenty that lasted friends with benefits wise; seemed mutual so was great. The older gals always seem to be in a rush to settle down so was very refreshing:)

[HighValue]

I'd do it. I don't have any kids so it wouldn't be weird.
If someone had kids around the other person's age then it would be weird to date them. I think that is the main thing that makes it work or not work out.

[sexy_julia]

I'm more into older men, strong and more mature. After my parents and I moved from Germany to America, I went to college. And then when I was 19, I dated and married my husband who was 54. He's a divorced father of three grownup kids, and I don't care if he is 11 years older than my father. He is so gentle and takes such good care of me. We are made for each other. We've married for 13 years now with six kids.

[sheikalana]

I never think about this type of things. But I assume they're very much in love with each other just like any other couple of any age.

[MrTaboo]

No problem lem with me.