What are some things said/did that would make you end the date immediately? Do you have any stories where you ended the date immediately?My answer: I would end the first date immediately if they: 1. Were overly touchy without consent or warning. 2. Were disrespectful or degrading to me or others. 3. Mentions getting married/having children together immediately OR mentions not wanting anything serious (only waning hookup/friends with benefits). 4. Said they were into some creepy bizarre fetish (like, being into poop or whatever…)
These are things that would make me uncomfortable or make us incompatible, and they are things that would make me want to end the date immediately. These are things that are a big “NO” for me, and I wouldn't feel comfortable talking again or going on another date.
Finish the sentence: I would end the first date immediately if they did/said ______?
I would end the first date immediately if they were or said.
1. If they were an out opened racist and treat everyone super disrespectful couldn't dated a girl who treats me badly.
2. Extremely abusive, controlling, and manipulative, I hate the really mean girls they might look hot but I prefer really nice girls just the real nice girls who are friendly and not the phony nice hirlieho only want to get in my pants.
3. If she doesn't want to work for her own money, I don't like leeching off of others and I hope my future girl is the same.
4. If she behave extremely entitled and doesn't want me to do things that doesn't always involve her, I understand about doing couple activities and spending qualities time with each other but let still try to be individual, I wouldn't want her to think she needs me around all the time and I wouldn't want her to always be around me all the time.
5. If she is already discussing about marriage children I can this is important for others but I just want to enjoy my life to the fullest and that doesn't involves picking up diapers no thanks you.
6. I also just hate fakeness and others so I wouldn't want her to put an act to try and impressed me, let be real between each other.
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@libsaretards It wasn’t a date per say, but sort of seeing if there could be a friendship… a new friend of a friend of mine; she gets into a tirade about how evil ALL ——- are… and talking WAY too loud. I tried calling her on it a bit, but she basically just shouted me down… I gave an excuse because she was getting a bit creepy… but pretty much stopped hanging out with her after that. I was polite when she came around with the mutual friend later on, but yeah… our friendship never materialized, obviously. Luckily, she didn’t stay in his life for long, so I didn’t have to keep seeing her.
I think with anything, I will probably end it if someone is a jerk. I think being a little awkward or less than refined or having a bad day will probably cause an early end for the date, she @maybe not immediately… and it might not be a complete dealbreaker… but being a jerk will end that date pretty quickly.
Showing a scary side… a lot of rage or bitterness… whether a political/religious tirade (especially a loud one)… or a rant about an ex…
Being racist… telling racist jokes, etc.
Insulting my work. Not just “some people are so terrible at it, but I admire your work” - be careful that itself wouldn’t be an automatic end - but I mean insulting all people in my profession, especially if I take pride in it.
Being unwilling to get to know me - wouldn’t be an automatic end to the date, but they probably would not get a second one.
Always being on the phone. Oggling other guys. Had a girl do this. Girl had issues with oggling just abounds t every guy but me, and pretty much talked about herself… if I was talking, she was distracted and trying to flirt with other guys (like I wouldn’t notice). That was an early date.
hmm.. well, in highschool (on my very first date with anyone at prom... yes i know late bloomer..) the convo happened like this Him: "I really like you, i wasn't really sure about asking you out because i didn't know you that well and im only comfortable when i know someone pretty well"
and thats not bad to say at all, so i said "Are you comfortable?" he said "yeah, but tbh, your outfit kinda threw me off at first" i confusingly asked why and he said "i thought youd try harder and dress prettier"
i was standing there in the cheap dress that was the only one i could afford, full make up that took SOO LONG to put on because i kept messing up and panicing, expensive high heels, completely shaved legs, hair that was professionally done i was so confused, untill he said
" i think you should've been more adventurous with your dress, youd be so hot if it was shorter"
it made me bummed because he was genuinely cute and i did have a crush on him but he totally ignored my efforts
i suppose if that happened again i would be to bummed to continue the date
That sucks. Sorry your experience wasn't great. It's hard for some people to recognize effort I suppose. Next time just wear some converse and jeans. That more than enough effort! You already agreed to go. They should appreciate that.
1) Start showing common red flags (being aggressive in speech, disrespecting anyone, attacking people, acting entitled, complaining about ex etc) 2) Started talking about religion or politics 3) They loved me or were thinking about getting married and having kids 4) Asked really personal questions upfront (mental health history, income, sexual history) 5) Started talking over me and not allowing me to speak at all 6) Anything that made me uncomfortable
I don’t really go on dates though so this might not happen to me. I’m more of the type who ends up liking a friend and then we go on dates after we’ve started dating. We can see this in my boyfriend who was my first; we went on our first date some weeks after we began dating. We started out as friends and grew super close; we’re each others’ best friends.
I can't think of anything that would make me immediately shut it down. Generally I have women walk out more because I'm blunt, refuse to pay for anything on a first date (too many women with no interest just looking for a free meal). Dating is a filter, first dates are when people are the most fake, so I have an opposite approach to show my worst.
I want to be rejected by as many women that wouldn't be interested in me in the first place. There's plenty of time for them to drop their veneer and figure out if I can work with that later.
---- racist remarks... ---- homophobic remarks... this two, because I can't really be with people that hate themselves this much
then, there is other that would make me sure there won't be further dates, because I would call them out on it immediately ---- being just rude to other people during the date, especially at a restaurant... because I do not like the Karen types at all ---- those who would right away, in the first date... talk about what they don't like on people, or criticize other women or men for something they do... because they tend to spend more time criticizing or complaining about others, instead of focusing on us and trying to get to know each other
1. I would end the first date immediately if they said I had to pay for their dinner. (I wouldn't pay for it, either.)
2. I would end the first date immediately if they said they were a third/fourth wave feminist. (Specifically "third or fourth wave," as a lot of women like to claim they're "feminists" but don't actually hate men; which is y'know, an oxymoron.)
3. I would end the first date immediately if they said they were bisexual (a lesbian). I'd also be quite pissed off too that they wasted my time and tried to exploit/scam me. I HATE when gay women pull this crap!
4. I would end the first date immediately if they told me they were already married or with someone, or were into polyamory/"open relationships."
5. I would end the first date immediately if they did something like mocking me or making fun of me to her friends on her phone.
I had one date ended immediately because while she was talking on the phone with her colleage, I was spending some time online and suddenly she pulled my phone from my hands and said "who are you talking to?" while trying to view my things. Apparently she mistook me for her property. She didn't know that my phone autolocks itself, if you don't touch the screen for longer than 10 seconds, so she failed in viewing anything. But that kind of behavior "the man is my property to control him and his life" is unacceptable in principle, let alone on a first date... Some guys may find this attractive but I'm not one of them.
Real situation on a 1st date: I had a son from my divorce and was fresh back to dating. This guy told me my next kid would have red hair. He was implying that we would have a kid together due to him having red hair. Ironically my next child did but it wasn’t with him.
There are a few things yes. Saying things like, baby daddy, well jel, totes, or any other trash abbreviation, really boils my blood. Not having any manners and being rude. Indicating they are racist, homophobic, or hate towards any group of people. There is probably a load of other things as well just these are the things that come to mind immediately.
I've had a lot of weird things said and done on a first date. Girls refusing to let me pay for them, even just to buy a drink for them. It's insulting to me. One girl said, "I'm picturing you in a tuxedo at our wedding". Girls eating off my plate without asking but the absolute worst, was a girl asking me how much I make. On our first date! I did stick it out, then immediately lost her number after I dropped her off.
My answers are: If she said she was born a man. If she did witchcraft and demonic things. If she said, she committed murder or planning to do murder or robbery or physical assault. Disrespecting me for no reason especially in public due to hot temper, immaturity, irresponsible, or negative energy. Doesn't know how to act or have respect for other people. Health problems that needs medical attention.
@scarletyes I would have gotten up and left immediately (Slick and quick) before she would have a chance to tell me anything else plus her number would have already been block at that moment because first impressions is everything. I am not a cruel person, I do believe in Second chances the same way people can change but she wouldn't be able to get a hold of me after that first impressions.
yes because if she was a trans woman then she's still a woman like if a guy i was dating was born a woman, and he was a trans man then i would still date him because in my opinion trans men are men and trans women are women
@NewbutCoolUser I respect your opinion but at the same time it does matter what they were before because a born natural male that becomes a woman through surgery cannot get pregnant like a born natural woman (Just Like a woman that becomes a male doing a woman) and even through pleasure (without having kids) his bones, strength, muscle, chromosome, and Siemen/sperm are still in his body which still makes him a Male (which is the same for a woman that becomes males, she still have a period and she doesn't have a sperm) and that would make me a Homosexual if I was involved with a Trans person and this is backed up with the LGBT community meaning when a straight person dates a Trans person. I know that they're people to as well as loving people but I want that natural beauty of a woman.
i respect yours too i was just stating mine i understand what your saying, the bones actually do change with hormones though, estrogen makes lose a bit of density and testosterone makes them gain density but yeah the biological processes like child birth and ejaculation can't really be changed though I've always viewed gender and sex seperately because there are people with both male and female genitals but usually they dont identify as both man and woman. Just my opinion tho! not meaning to insult! or anger!
I would end the first date immediately if they - say they are looking for something casual/open - say they smoke - are clearly on the rebound - say anything about us having kids (I do want kids but it's not a first date conversation) - expect me to put out - say they have cheated in the past (and on that note - say they have a significant other😂)
I didn't end the date, the woman I was with was lovely and we were getting on well. But she mentioned that she wasn't looking to have any more kids. That was the moment I knew it wasn't going to work between us. I wasn't giving up on that chance at that time. I met someone new, we now have 2 kids. I'm happy now. If I were single and met someone who didn't want kids now I would be happy with that. It's about timing sometimes
I would end a first date immediately only if something bizarre happens. Like she start to act crazy and shouting around or act like a dick and stuff. I wouldn't mind touching though. But if they try to act like we were together for sometime and try to show off that to the audience, that'll be a problem. Nothing else comes to my mind at the moment
I ended a first date when he made me wait and when he showed up, he sat down, looked at me and said "alright, ask" I left. The other time I ended it as we were chatting for about 10 minutes, when he said "give me a kiss", and when I said no, he replied "oh come on, it's just a kiss, it's not like we are planning on getting married" I left again.
-acts rude or insulting to me or the waiters -she starts ordering really expensive stuff like they were just there for a free meal -says she’s “had her fun but wants to settle down now” aka she’s been ran through by a bunch of guys that wouldn’t be in a relationship with her but wants a simp to put up with her now that her looks are starting to fade - she mentions politics or religion on the first date -gets way too drunk
when he insults my parents.. for example your mother is fat lol (and indeed fat).. or your father's feet are weird/abnormal lol (indeed my father's leg is not normal after the 2012 accident there was iron implanted in my father's leg)
Had a guy do this to me on our 3rd date. It was startling. My answer was no, but dispute this huge red flag I stupidly decided to go through 8 more months of emotional abuse until I had enough.
"... told me how horny she is." That actually happened to me once on a first date, and we never saw each other again. The date didn't end immediately because the pizza was actually pretty good, but I knew we weren't going anywhere.
1) saying they are a part of ANY movement whatsoever 2) were belligerent or rude 3) overly emotional off the gate (like crying without good cause) 4) were obnoxious or full of themselves
I only want sex I am a liberal I hate kids I guess i could settle for you Your pretty for a short-haired girl I have experienced all of these. I am 29 and know what will work and not work in a person for me.
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