What I should do If my boyfriend cheated on me?

[Anonymous]

We have been together for 4 years , we were a perfect couple, we even got married, and after those 4 years I discovered that my boyfriend has a secret tumblr account posting nudes and erotic stuff and chatting with girls in a dirty way and met one of them in his own apartment. He apologized and promised to delete his blog. But I can’t forgive him , I feel Like I’ve been dating another guy all these years.
I was always complaining to him that he doesn’t send me anything intimate as I do. Yet , I knew the reason , he was Sharing only with those girls.
Can anyone explain his actions? And how to deal with such issue?

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First of all , know the motives behind his behavior

[Graci_e]

Something I hate seeing is grown women staying with men that don’t treat them right. I absolutely hate seeing it and the mindset they have: that they love them, that the guy will change, they’re getting too old to find someone else, they don’t want to be alone, etc.

He’s not the only guy in the world. He isn’t the be all and end all. Have respect and love yourself, value yourself higher than that. How do you expect to find a great person if you can’t respect yourself enough to end something that isn’t right? He isn’t treating you right.

Sure, it hurts at first and it sucks. But it’s temporary and most of the time, you end up happier without someone that treats you like that. You’ll start to look back and go ‘crap, he really was that shitty’.

Break up with him. Hang out with your friends, get a new hobby, play a sport, better yourself. Show yourself you deserve better and will get better.

There are so many great guys out there, so many. My brother in laws and my uncles are people I see that treat their partners so amazingly. So why settle for less that that? Why have someone who cheats on you and betrays you in a such a way, when you could be so loved, cherished and respected? Don’t settle.

[Anonymous]

2 wrongs don’t make a right, but if you want to hurt his ass , you will let some other guy inside you.


But if you don’t then just have to accept it if you aren’t going to dump him. Spice some shit up , do something outside the box, say some filthy shit he never heard you say or would ever expect - I got some some good lines for ya

[EaterPeter]

Therapy, try forgetting, setting boundary, issue ultimatum with consequences and be ready to follow up say it like you mean it and it time come you mjst act on it, find a way to forgive your self and him or let him go.

[EaterPeter]

If time comes you must *

[EaterPeter]

Thanks for MHO!

[Zweihander9005]

I personally wouldn’t if my girlfriend cheated on me, but since I’ve cheated in the past I feel like it’s deserved.

One thing I’d like to say though is my cheating happened because I fell in love with another girl. His seems to be more of a lustful addiction. He’ll probably try to quit, but if you don’t think you can support him in that then he will most likely do it again.

[TheFlak38]

I can imagine what a turn off you are. But it's the same story every fucking time. Once the woman has been married she got the man by the balls and doesn't contribute anything in the relationship.

[Asker]

You mean a woman doesn’t contribute anything in the relationship after marriage?

[Esperanto]

If you can't forgive, leave him. Why stay in a relationship with someone you recent, you are just loosing time.

[Anonymous]

You already feel hurt and it will keep happening. You have to leave, like it or not. If a girl did that to me, I would leave in a second.

[Anonymous]

why the hell would you do the fake legal marriage

hahahahha lol

both of you have no CHRIST

[Mey101]

I would suggest to leave him, if he did it once it will happen again or he will just hide it better

[SnakeBoop]

do you keep trash after you're done with it?

[Asker]

I don’t get it

[Gaurav2]

Darling you're too innocent if you're expecting loyalties from human. 😘

[Asker]

How sad :/

[Hellraiser1984]

Leave him.

[Asker]

I want a solution. I love him

[Hellraiser1984]

Tell him you love him then kick him in the balls to show him what will happen again if he cheats again.