How do you feel about women that make the first move? Do men find this attractive?

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ohshee · Accepted Answer

I like it it makes it easier for me sometimes because I might not be paying attention to what is going on if I'm busy doing something else. When they do I find it very cute because sometime they struggle alittle bit and if you really like them you can make it a little harder for them with a smile

So I say go for it if you like someone tell them

HighValue · Accepted Answer

What I like about it is that means she is more likely to initiate intimacy and affection sometimes in the relationship instead of always expecting the guy to initiate everything.

lilyanony1 · Answer

On bumble it expects you as a woman to make the first move. In all honesty I've had better luck there in talking to guys then any other Web site. Whether I'll find love I don't know.
It's still hard because some guys just aren't interested and mostly swipe right if you're not ugly.
So it's hard to really know if of all the matches you get they're genuine until you talk. And I've had guys unmatch after hello.
😢

I will say though I'm not sure if all guys are expecting the woman to keep making a move after they match because one guy in particular hints that he likes me but still hasn't asked me out or even attempted to ask for my phone number.
Another well although we've met several times and I thought we were good he's showing signs of blowing cold...

I don't really know what guys want...
I don't have a massive social life and I don't really like a lot of people when I like you I find it hard to contain.

I'd really like to know... Is wearing my heart on my sleeve a bad thing?

tommyvegas7618 · Answer

Girls know what they want better than guys in the dating scene and tend to be more pragmatic in dating, so I say reach out and grab what you want and/or yes, just ask him out ladies. We'll meet ya in the middle for sure, but I say if you like someone lets all quit with the games and just put it on the table. It's the 21st century and it surely would/could get us closer to equality by everyone just breaking any boundaries that suit one to break. I can say it wouldn't make me feel less attracted to a women if she said hi and let me know she is interested. Personally, I'm a bit tired of us guys having to guess or hope she's into me and most likely we are clueless that a lot of women are interested. Basiclly, because I'm/men are suppossed to read all the signs just right. I bet most of us humans are missing out on finding that person because of these outdated rules of engagement. And really, the truth is most of us guys are really dumb on reading the signs. We can be pretty oblivious to them and I think we all are missing out because of this old standard.

Screenwriter · Answer

No telling what percentage of men like it this way. It's likely 50-50. What's great about it for men is they KNOW the woman is attracted to them and they can proceed from there if they're also attracted.

When a man launches on a conquest, he's flying blind. Does she like me? Find me interesting? A woman's first move solves several emotional binds for a man and sets him at ease. It means he can relax, take his time and explore instead of being nervous and feeling foolish.

Lionman95 · Answer

I think it would actually be helpful if women start with some kind of showing an interest because especially younger guys like me we often have a hard time figuring out if a woman likes us or would be open or interested for something deeper.
I know it's hard but we can't go back in time and guys are at least calculating the risks that comes with asking the wrong woman at the wrong time.
So the traditional guy, that pays and risks everything for a woman could become a rarity in the future.

Novacane · Answer

I think most men would find that attractive simply because most men are always sitting wondering "what if?" and most of the time those approached dont really go so well unless you have experience, and women typically are not straightforward they will usually drop hints over and over until you get it before they would say something, and let's be honest, guys are not the best at picking up those hints. So women approaching would help a lot. Also, note that women approaching are more likely to have a higher success rate if a man did. BUT there also be some negatives to that.

Adronicus · Answer

This is a hard one & I can definitely understand a females frustration with this one, it's all in the approach & you're ability to read a person & adapt. Depends what you're looking for; some men will like it, others will question what number am I? # 7? Or #77? Not saying it's right but thats the truth:/

Lookingforthetruth · Answer

A woman who approaches is a breath of fresh air. Too many women are attention whores and waste guy's time. A woman who approaches and makes it known that she likes a guy will do far better in dating than one who sits in a corner and expect the guy to figure out that she likes him.

Adam1978 · Answer

Like everything there is acceptable way of doing it and bad ways of doing it. And in my experience women so far really suck at it. If men had been as rough as women they would never had a chance.

NathanDavis · Answer

well... that would have been three girlfriends out of the four relationships I have been in, they approached to me first, so yes... I obviously am on board with it

Sun_Kim-Ai · Answer

With my wife she had to make the first move, because I ignored her at first and I never make steps in those things. If we are married now, it's thanks to her.

he-takes-a-part · Answer

she was highly attractive and everything she had was perfect and ideal. when that kinda girl amongst toppest in the crowd made a move on me, i can't describe in words but yes i was moved which way what nature I don't know. but that also gave me a sense of warning about her if we get in relationship. later she tried a few more moves but i didn't paid that much attention coz i went busy and ignorant when'd she finally realised this she stopped it. i guess all she wanted was sex. such girls are firstly considered as one with these motives apart from that she must be in trouble coz mostly girls approach out of nowhere only her her own relationship sucks. and won't tell this to her boyfriend. she can also feel distress and approach you. dont go on her face otherwise you are fooled to have a girl.

ColHathi · Answer

Very. Hell, if I thought that she'd be the type to expect the guy to exclusively be the one to do it, I don't imagine I'd want to get romantically involved with her. Not that I'm opposed to men making the first move at all, including myself.

Rockstarrrrr · Answer

This is usually the case for me it's nice but I think i would love it way more if I made the first move... I'm just not used to approach people.. even my friends kinda like adopted me... I'm quite the loner lol

TommyMountainFigure · Answer

The most important thing is two people who are good together, get together. It doesn't matter to me either way who asks who.

wa1t1ngFuture · Answer

a girl said to (my friend )"indeed if girl approaches boy first it's cool, but she doesn't have the courage..."

MCheetah · Answer

YES!! We like that! More women need to do this! We WANT women to do this! I don't know what women told other women that men don't actually want this.

UniquelyBasic · Answer

I encourage people to be an active participant in their happiness. Dont just wait around expecting and hoping someone will ask you out. I dont really find it attractive or unattractive if a woman makes the first move but I do appreciate it of course as I know it can be an extremely hard thing to do.

Ms_Facesitter · Answer

You have a no, you can get a yes. I've gotten more yesses by making the first move than if I would wait for him to make the first move.

20yearsolder · Answer

I don't know about all men but this man loves it. I encourage any woman to go after what she wants.

Kaamraj · Answer

It's exceeding rare, the only case I can think of when this happens is if the man is extremely high value either in looks he's genetically gifted or he has very high socio-economic status. In both cases he's probably used to women approaching him so not such a big deal for him.

globetrotter22 · Answer

You can make it obvious you like him. Just say hello to him and smile. That’s the best way. If he likes you he will respond. If he doesn’t he won’t.

Juxtapose · Answer

It's literally the only way I can get dates because I'm too autistic for my initiations to work. I have a 0% success rate on my initiations so far so you women asking me out is my only hope 😅

Anonymous · Answer

I tell people on this site that BOTH parties need to go out on the limb and meet in the middle.

How do you feel about women that make the first move? Do men find this attractive?

How many times have you read this on this site:

"I keep smiling at him, so why doesn't he ask me out?"

If you ask her why she doesn't ask HIM out, she'll say: "because he might reject me."

Bingo! Duh!

Anonymous · Answer

Very! (even though it has NEVER happened to me personally). It show CONFIDENCE! Not "desperation" like women think. You know how you like guys with confidence? Diddo.

CountryWanderer · Answer

My now-wife asked me out first so it can work out 😊

exitseven · Answer

I was really shy with girls when I was a teenager. Sometimes it was nice to get a little nudge.

saintsRow3 · Answer

I mean It depends on how it is done.
I went to a dance back in the day and some Girl grabbed me and Started twerking on me. Definitely wasn’t expecting it and I was already dizzy from all the Lights.
I could of Took her to one of the bathrooms and Fucked her. But being Dizzy and I was already Pissed off that I dropped my wallet and couldn’t find it. So I wasn’t in the mood any fun just wanted to find my wallet.

DermalPunch · Answer

It depends. Ypu have to make the forst move in a way that is still feminine. In a way that says I am ok with your pursuing me.

one1wild00 · Answer

Sure, why not? I don't always pick up hints without being hit with the proverbial 2x4.

bamesjond0069 · Answer

Usually women who make the first move are low quality. Its also just a turn off in general. What I do like is being friendly and welcoming for the man to make the first move. Nothing wrong with smiling at a man or a little wave but he really needs to be the one to approach.

Kiss_Me · Answer

I find it attractive as long as the woman is not being horribly presumptuous. Since most men don't have mental powers that allow us to know if someone is interested, it's nice when the women let us know they would like to meet us.

dragoblack · Answer

I honestly prefer it. Im always unsure if anyone finds me attractive or romantically interesting.

Intothevoid666 · Answer

I’m not a fan honestly but if I’ve already made a move feel free to make a follow up move

Vikkrram · Answer

For me that women would gain a respect irrespective what my answer would be

Anonymous · Answer

I could almost fall in love if this happened to me.

Avicenna · Answer

I think it's great, also if she is a bit clumsy about it. If you know you're interested in someone, why wait around for them to figure it out themselves? Take the initiative.

ImNoOne111 · Answer

Not only about dating. But I enjoy seeing people coming forward to ask for what they want, if what they want is me... then... cool

Anonymous · Answer

I like it when women make the first move. It doesn't affect my manhood either.

crmoore · Answer

I prefer to make the first move. Depending on how she does it I mat even find it unattractive.

Chill_Meta · Answer

It's surprising to say the least but always unexpected when it happens. Also depends on the situation when it happens

TodsShadow · Answer

As long as she's not too aggressive or talks disrespectful then I'm cool with it. Breaks the ice better than throwing a thousands convo starters at the wall. I might even feel like an attractive person afterwards also

Valso · Answer

It is attractive, yes. I don't know about other places but in my country that's a gold digger's typical move and she won't have a guy for a romantic relationship bc the first thought that crosses all our minds is that we have found a new fucktoy.

HopefulGuy94 · Answer

Nope , I am already really shy against the opposite gender so I would not like that happens to me , as well.

Fromdusktilldawn · Answer

Yea but when they approach. Thry approach only 9s or 10s

Anonymous · Answer

My girlfriend made the first move... If she hadn't we may have never gone out... I'm glad she did.

serious · Answer

Of course that is very attractive. I am sure most men would find it attractive also.

Th3ft · Answer

I do definitely find it attractive when girl knows what she wants and is willing to go for it.!

Pohjolan · Answer

I'm not entirely sure as it hasn't happened yet. I would appreciate its rarity though like witnessing a hawk save one of its offspring from a crow in midair.

bowenw · Answer

Yes. It takes the guess work out of it.

Yiannithelegend005 · Answer

Yeah It's hot and all but I prefer to make the first move.

moviedude714 · Answer

Why do I get the feeling that women like that will forever be rare or be in the extreme minority for all eternity

Philyouup · Answer

I applaud the initiative and appreciate them been able to ask me. I think all women should take the initiative as well as men.

CaptainLegal · Answer

When I was a teen I was really shy and it was easier for me if the girl made the first move. It doesn't really matter who makes the first move

deandre09 · Answer

Depends on the woman if she wants to just get fucked or does she want to build with someone

Jltakk · Answer

Yes, I find this very attractive. It shows that she is honest enough to communicate her intentions, instead of sitting there and waiting for the guy to ask her out.

Anonymous · Answer

It shows that she's confident and knows what she wants. It's like a plus point

Anonymous · Answer

Yes, definitely attractive.

Кураж · Answer

I do not find it attractive. But if a woman does make the first move I will shoot her down nicely, so that she doesn't feel discouraged in her pursuit of schizoid losers who can't talk to women.

Stevefiveo · Answer

I love it. I grew up in new York so I am used to aggressive women like that.

Paul09 · Answer

Yes! Very attractive. Rare and special.

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