Should a girl compliment a guy first?

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DaveJord · Accepted Answer

Why not? I think most people enjoy a good compliment. Seriously, if you compliment a guy and he does not compliment you back... well that tells you so much about the type of person he is. Its better to just say what you feel and see if he feeds off your good vibe.

Too often we hold ourselves back in the dating process because we fear opening our hearts and minds. We get so caught up in if we should say this or that, and who should do what first... why?

Just be true to you and share what you think, and if you do not get what you want out of it then feel blessed that you took that leap sooner than later, after you wasted days, weeks or month playing all these minds games with in your own head... share the vibe and see if he returns it.

If he doesn't then best to know sooner than later... move to the next and probably better guy.

Lionman95 · Accepted Answer

Probably it could reduce tension and would help a guy to figure out if his feelings are mutually.
Especially if he's inexperienced in dating he will try to avoid creating issues the most he can so her doing something to break the ice it would ease the situation.

Leshen · Accepted Answer

Thinking you should compliment someone is too much overthinking. Just do it if you genuinely want to. Better to be yourself and be honest so you won't stress yourself thinking about what you should do socially. The people who like you for you will come flowing in as a result.

jennifer_bloom · Accepted Answer

In general I don’t compliment a guy unless it’s done as an act of consolation after an insulting or embarrassing situation, putting a guy on a pedestal by honouring him without context makes everybody uncomfortable.

Desconhecida · Answer

I don't think there's a rule for that.

AmysQs5 · Answer

Nobody "should" compliment anyone - it's whatever you want. But I can tell you that a complement seems to have a big effect on guys. I hear complements a lot more often, but I think it catches guys off guard in a good way. So if that's your aim, then yes

The_Shadow_Dweller · Answer

She compliments me any time she feels like.
I compliment any time I feel like.

We both feel good after the compliments. Her compliments make me smile, and my compliments make her feel cherished, respected, and of course make her smile as well.

Lookingforthetruth · Answer

Girls should do all they can to show actual appreciation and love for men. So many girls would rather tell their girlfriend they are queens while leaving men on read and treating them like NPC in a video game that are only ever relevant when they need something.

5carpileup · Answer

I don’t know about first… if you want to compliment a guy, please do. These days guys are being bombarded with these notions that masculinity is toxic, and men are scum, and men are the only ones who sexually assault women, and all men do that… but in reality, true masculinity is not toxic, and men could use some uplifting compliments. The order in which compliments happen isn’t important. If you see something that you want to compliment about a guy… just do it.

TodsShadow · Answer

It's not a first or second type of thing when I think of it. If I like a firls new hairstyle I'll just say it. Compliments are ment to give people a sensation of being noticed. For men that might be the best thing a women has ever done for him till that point. (Besides being birthed)

DaySpring · Answer

Yeah, it would save girls years if they did. Just compliment the guys you desire and even ask them out. I truly believe it would be a game changer for women if they did. @babygirl_s

Moose304 · Answer

Without coming off as some egotistical jerk I can read a girl's body language and take that as a compliment. Honestly, the best compliments are in fact silent!

serious · Answer

Should? No, there is no compulsion or obligation but if a woman wants to compliment a man first then there is nothing wrong in that also.

Mikejones2813308004 · Answer

Only if the guy is shy. If you compliment a player your going to get played.

Snsl153 · Answer

It's entirely up to the individual, whether male or female. No one "should" have to do anything.

Apulu_Imback · Answer

If she wants then she can. It should be 'Can' instead of 'should' though. Same goes to guys.

Anonymous · Answer

My experience is that most of the guys don't know how to deal with compliments. At best they get all shy and insecure, at worst they get all suspicious about your intentions.

NathanDavis · Answer

if you mean it, yes... nothing wrong at all about that

sassyredhead · Answer

If he is attractive or I am interested sure why not. I would be careful doing this if you don't see them in a romantic light.

sheikalana · Answer

If she feels like. Why not? There's no right or wrong answer to this question.

Ms_Facesitter · Answer

There should be no order. If you want to do it, do it.

Anonymous · Answer

no not a chance anymore. i used to compliment my guy friends but they end up calling me a cheap slut behind my back. they thought i was trying to hit on them when im actually not, and it hurt me till this day

ImNoOne111 · Answer

Why not? I more believe in "get what you want, dont expect it to be given to you". So that applies to girls too

Carina0 · Answer

I think both side should act like whatever they feel. It doesn't matter who compliment first. If you want to you should just say

KostasKouvalis · Answer

Yes please. That would be nice. Then I know if I can hit on you or not

ColHathi · Answer

Neither should "have" to compliment the other first. That's nonsense, in my opinion.

kinggeorge007 · Answer

There's no rule for that. Whoever sees something that needs a compliment may go first.

Subarugirl · Answer

If you are going to give someone a compliment it SHOULD be sincere... if it's not don't give it.

Loveisgirthy · Answer

Equally as much as men do yeah I'd prefer it that way

motownplayer2000 · Answer

Whoever feels the spirit has the green light. No rules for that here

red324 · Answer

Sure but only do it if you like the guy because that will be his cue to make a move.

EssenceOfLight · Answer

It doesn't really matter, you don't win someone's heart and mind with compliments alone.

Pudsmucker · Answer

Compliments are nice no matter male or female. Doesn't matter who's first.

Better_off_here · Answer

as a guy who is unsure of himself and not sure what to say to her, i would love it if a woman did compliment me first too.

dolemite89 · Answer

ya u can, if i know a girl is into me if she starts giving me compliments it’s just more reassurance that i should make a move.

Shy_Steve · Answer

I think they Should, Definitely if they like him otherwise nothing's gonna happen.

Echosoul · Answer

It would be nice. Men generally don't get compliments... Like hardly ever

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

Sure is she want it doesn't matter who compliments who first

Jltakk · Answer

Guy, girl doesn't matter. If you are impressed, share a compliment. Make someone's day.

IndyZee · Answer

Should? No, not should Could? Absolutely... I see no problem with that

Anonymous · Answer

yes women want equal rights 50/50 then let them grow a vagina and a set of ovaries and start acting like it

RickHM · Answer

Sure, we love compliments. But only do if you feel comfortable to do it.

Anonymous · Answer

Reminds me of an article that discussed the late Elliot Rodger

Anonymous · Answer

A girl looked at me and she went ooooooooo you look handsome. Why the oooo?

Anonymous · Answer

Why not? Guys have feelings too and would feel nice if a girl compliments him

dustybiker · Answer

It should just come naturally. Be genuine.

wa1t1ngFuture · Answer

"not only men we can too"  (a woman)

ChrisMaster69 · Answer

Yeah no reason why not.

treesareold4 · Answer

It doesn't really matter

Straight2thepoint · Answer

Yup. It breaks the silence.

pass_the_celery98 · Answer

do you think a girl should compliment a guy first?

SunnyCaliGirl · Answer

It can easily be done yes

moonpie89 · Answer

Damn boy , you so fine 🙂

anylolone · Answer

If you feel he's hot, say he's hot.

msc545 · Answer

Yes, you definitely should but you probably won't

TallAnon · Answer

I don't think the order matters

guywholovesVSthongs · Answer

I, think either or is fine

AFretiredTXn · Answer

Sure if you feel the urge.

Passing_by · Answer

If she feels like doing it, sure.

BLP11520 · Answer

I usually say ( said ) something nice first.

Leibstanrdarte · Answer

no they are way to far uptight of themselves

Tstrbrainer · Answer

Yeah, it is completely normal

fireforeffect · Answer

You can. there is no rule that says you shouldn't

Anonymous · Answer

Given this dating climate, I prefer that.

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