Do you ever feel like women have very high standards?

[Anonymous]

Here's the thing, everyone is entitled to have the standards they want and nor am i complaining about it. But do you ever feel like you can't meet the standards even with women you feel are in your caliber?

[Man-O-Metal]

I like to think of standards as windows. The more narrow the window, the less people fit in them. And yes a lot of women hold tight windows around men. I’m 23 and I’ve discovered over the past few years that my windows are actually wider than what I originally thought they were. I don’t need a super skinny girl, I don’t need her to make a boat load of money, she doesn’t have to have a certain color of hair. As we age, I feel like we understand what really makes us attracted to the opposite sex. Loyalty, honesty, communication, friendship, and quite literally… someone that just wants to be in our company. Yes, looks play a role, but we truly fall in love with the person we enjoy spending time with. And I believe standards should be built around that.

[MCheetah]

All the time. Cause they do.
And at least, you know, when women actually used to want kids, that crap made sense! But nowadays?
I'm sorry, but how TF am I supposed to grow another six inches for you, Princess? Or get rid of the melanin in my skin? Or be born with "better" genetics for you?

[_deeznuts]

Personally, my standards are not high, but I do think that some of our standards aren't really standards but "these would be nice". Like, 6 feet would be nice, but I honestly don't care unless they're taller than me.

[Anonymous]

A lot of women have very specific standards, I don’t think it’s necessarily considered as “high standards”, it’s just that a lot of us know what we want and we only go after that very specific thing.

[Asker]

Most men can't meet those standards so wouldn't it be high. there's a reason high value men are a thing

[Opinion Owner]

I think it depends on what those standards are. Some women only want to date guys that are 6 ft and above, this is considered a high standard in my opinion. But if they’re only looking for a guy that takes care of himself (no drug/alcohol problems), someone that’ll treat them right with respect and loyalty - these are all very reasonable expectations but sadly that not a lot of guys and girls can meet.

[Asker]

Most women have the same set of standards though and that's fine. Most men are invisible to women. Only the top 20% of men are getting the women and that's fine too. Most men just don't meet women's standards and that's just the way things are

[Opinion Owner]

Hmm I don’t necessarily agree with that. A lot of women tend to settle, just as long as she’s getting treated right. I don't know what you mean by only the top 20% of men are getting women bc I’ve seen a lot of “low life” guys getting women left and right lol

[Asker]

Again here we go with "I've seen so and so with this person". I've seen a homeless man become a millionaire. I've seen a jaguar take down a lion. I've seen blah blah blah. You need something stronger than I've seen. Most men today are invisible to women. 80/20 rule. The top 20% of men get all the women. The bottom 80% are invisible. That's the way it works

[Opinion Owner]

No, how do you know that only 20% of men get the women? What you consider as a high value men might differ from what women or other guys consider as high value. I don't know where you’re getting your numbers from, a lot of guys get girls no matter how they look like or how much they earn bc not every woman looks for the same things in a partner. Are you saying that 80% of the world male population gets unnoticed by girls? That doesn’t make sense…

[Asker]

Again use something more than I've seen so and so with this person. It's very poor argument/rebuttal. And they showed that women rate about 80% of men unattractive. There's a graph showing this. Women only find about 20% of men attractive. Most men are unnoticeable

[Asker]

And it's more objevtibe than subjective

[Opinion Owner]

Not sure how legit that one graph you’re referring to is, did it use a proper sample pool? But let’s just agree to disagree. Best of luck with everything!

[SlothySlob]

Women with high standards are usually women of high value. In some causes their standards are fair in some cases they punch above their weight.
In the same sense, I'd say that there are men who believe they are of high value when they are not. They then complain that there are women with impossible standards.

[serious]

I am not sure if this is 100% true. Even some men have high standards which many women cannot meet.

[HighValue]

No. I think many have very low standards when it comes to someone's morals, values, and past.

[LordOfThePines]

No. It isn't hard to meet the standards of most women, guys just don't put in much effort. Do the bare minimum and expect it to be more than enough, and it is not.

[ChrisMike1919]

There a lot of womens with high standards. But it's their choice.

[Anonymous]

No.
Actually everything is much easier with women than men, in my experience.

[Anonymous]

Maybe. But I don't worry about it. My life's happiness doesn't revolve around a woman. If they want to be part of my life, fine. If they don't fine.

[Eugene_JKR]

It's not the high standards, that stop the men. It is a lack of authenticity, which stops the men.

[Blackcosmo]

Yes a lot of women have very high standards.

[Waldoe]

I have never had that problem...

[Asker]

Congratulations

[Jltakk]

Yep, absolutely