Is Tinder a scam?

Question

I ain't paying 20 plus dollars to swipe through a bunch of potentially fake profiles.

Kaamraj · Accepted Answer

That is exactly the attitude that you should have. All dating apps are borderline frauds because of their business model. All their revenue comes from subscriptions from men. You have to also understand that men outnumber women on dating apps by 4:1, and on top of that women are notoriously picky. Several studies have shown that women swipe left on most of the men's profiles there, meaning the average man is unattractive and invisible to the average woman. Now this means that who is benefiting from dating apps? - Nearly all women and a very few elite men who are genetically gifted or can show off their financial assets on their photos. Now to combat this invisibility the app offers subscription based services where you can stand out from the crowd and gain visibility, but is it worth it and might be it can increase visibility but does it increase attractiveness?

On top of this there are instances that the first time you join, your profile will get a unnatural boost and shown to most women, resulting in you getting a few likes, and thereafter that will stop and you will be asked to subscribe. Or what I call downright fraud is that you will be matched with a bot but you can only see her profile if you subscribe. What happens is that either the match does not reply or unmatches after a few days or if she's talking then you will be making 99 % of the effort there.

Is all that worth it? I really dont think so. I'd rather invest that money in an education and learning a hobby and trade, you have a much better chance finding a relationship there.

MrOracle · Accepted Answer

Yes, they are a scam. They are intentionally designed to give you some hope at the start (if you are a guy), and then you will be matched with some bots to exploit that hope, but you'll need to pay to talk to them. If you pay, the bot will string you along for a bit and then ghost you - but more bots await if you pay more.

Sure, if you are very handsome and/or project a high lifestyle, you will get real matches without paying - it's just like with carnival games: if you see an occasional winner, it gives you hope that can be exploited.

Girls mostly have no idea that this is going on - girls are the bait that the app uses to generate subscriptions.

Go OUTSIDE and meet LOCAL women in the real world. You will need to do more work but you will also have much better results.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Yes, 100%
Specially as an overweight woman.
You only get the worst options, because you’re a 2. And then a couple perverts that only want to bang you. And some want to use you and make porn with you and BBW videos. I only hooked up with 14 guys on there in 2020 and gave up. Both average and gorgeous. The hot ones usually had tiny BANANAS and the average ones had large or medium BANANAS. I gave it up because it was heartbreaking. Those are actual real connections like how I’d have in my face to face life. I was always worried about text messages and about those narcissists that would ignore me. That would never happen with someone I met at my actual job who I hooked up with or had a friends with benefits relationship with. Those who I met in person I keep in touch with. Those online I completely removed and blocked form my life.

So then I chose to use it for my YouTube channel and UP my subscribers.
And then I got banned permanently XD
Then I used mom and dad phone number to make 2 more accounts and got banned again. But I made it to 1k subs.

hellomellow7 · Accepted Answer

It’s not a scam, though like every 5th profile is one to report bc it’s not a picture of the actual person and they’re name is usually something weird. But it did work for me for free. I got over 200 matches, and over 200 likes that I never sorted through bc I didn’t want to pay for premium. I honestly left tho bc so many people on there were young and wanting just hookups and I was looking for more.

Jabberjaw · Answer

It's just honest feedback of where you stand at the most superficial level with respect to what you put out there.

If you just have a good quality profile photo of you smiling. A photo of you with friends having fun. A photo of you doing some kind of hobby. A photo that shows your physique, ideally not a mirror selfie.

Throw up a basic bio. Could be a joke or something genuine. Right swipe and you'll get matches. Don't pay for that shit unless you're already getting results for free and really want to see a lot more girls.

Music choice is bonus but not important overall. And only link your IG if it's a high quality IG. a lot of this is about presentation. Don't have to be rich or the best looking dude, but you do have to put together a good presentation of yourself if you want matches

HawkPerception · Answer

All dating apps are trash. They are more beneficial to women. Guys could put in a ton of effort into their profile, have nice pictures a great description, and message girls mentioning something about their profile that they like and still get no response after 100 messages. It gets draining to the point where we start doing what all guys do and say "Hey" even though every girl on the internet says they hate that. And yet they don't know what men go through.

Girls on the other hand could put zero effort into their profile and have no pictures or a picture of their cat and get tons of guys in their inboxes. They could have a date by the end of the day if they wanted at any point in time. All they have to do is pick a guy that caught their eye in their inbox. The main thing is... they have options. Men don't (for the most part).

And the kind of guys women are generally attracted to usually just want to use them for sex. It's a repeated cycle.

McKellar · Answer

I don't think Tinder is a scam itself, but there are anywhere between a shit-ton to like a hard-core, fuck-ton of scammers on these dating sites and apps. Excuse my profanity, but at the same time it's true. Those type of scammers perform a great deal amount of catfishing for people who are lonely and desperate for love, and those scammers catfish/prey on those people to try and snuggle/warm up to them to try and establish trust and severely guilt trip those people into sending them money all the time without ever meeting them in person.

Joshyjay95 · Answer

No and yes. Tinder is all about looks. They try to make you believe you can get girls by swiping or buying their memberships. The honest truth, is if you are not a 6ft hot looking model dude you barely stand a chance. Tinder knows this because of their data. So when they see you don't get much matches they will always try to sell you their memberships. It's all looks and sadly it over inflates a girl ego.

Levin · Answer

Tinder is a scam. It's so heavily weighted against men. Unless you're in the 99 percentile of attractiveness and socio-economic status it's a waste of time.

Women get 100s of likes and matches, even average looking ones. Their egos are out of control.

To be fair, I used to get a lot of matches when they had superlikes.

Now, it's like a ghost town. Your profile is irrelevant against the other 10000 other losers.

crypto_bear · Answer

If someone likes you on tinder, tinder will put that person's profile as the last one in your swipe list. So you gotta swipe around 50 other profiles to reach that person. So you're tempted to pay just to see who likes you.

Girls on the other hand get around 8/10 likes. So they don't have to swipe so much to find a match.

Then there's the other part where paid members get shown first to girls. So unless you're in a city with very less population getting a good match with free account is very difficult.

Anonymous · Answer

Unless you are looking for a one night stand with a girls who’s sloppy seconds or want to be catfished or ghosted, dating apps are the way to go. The girls or women who are legit seem to have unrealistic expectations of the guy or man she wants to be with. I think girls and women are hypocrites because many females support the LGBTQ movement and will even compliment guys acting like sissy fags. I know that’s a very harsh comment to make. I don’t have a problem with gay guys and what you do behind closed doors is your business. But girls/women shouldn’t bash men today as being overly sensitive, lacking confidence and etc or being told to be a man. It’s not like a girl will tell a guy who’s super gay to “be a man”. We lived in a fucked up culture. That’s why many people are stuck and bitter with past experiences and we follow dumb shit aimlessly. That is essentially a chain reaction.

SimpleGuy95 · Answer

Yes because from a guy´s point chances are low that you get anything from it. The odds are oftentime against because a normal profile pic and chances are high that you don´t come with a bio text that other guys aren´t already using or that is overly-creative.
So if you have luck and time tinder might be an idea.

Anonymous · Answer

Depends what you are looking for. If you go on there looking for a relationship, understand that spending money is just going to be a waste of your time.

If you are looking to hookup with people, it might be a wise investment, but also understand that there’s a lot of fakes out there.

genericname85 · Answer

no, it isn't a "scam". you just gotta understand what that app is. it is designed to keep you on the platform, not to find you a girl so you can be happy and delete the app.

if you think this app is designed to most efficiently find you a decent partner, you're just mistaken, not scammed.

MountAverage · Answer

What are you talking about? You can use Tinder for free. You only pay for extra features.
I've been using Tinder (on and off, along with some other dating apps) for many years now and it's always worked for me. Been on countless dates and even my last two committed relationships were thanks to Tinder (and another app). And I know countless people (men and women) who have been or currently are successfully using it.
So please enlighten me - how is it a scam?

ArtemisSilver · Answer

It's a poor value moreso than a scam. I've had a bit of fun with women there, but most of them aren't serious about getting together and are just looking for chat and an ego boost. Seems a bit silly but whatever.

I'm presently seeing if I can get anywhere on several dating apps without paying. So far no luck.

SlightlyEccentric · Answer

Tinder is like fishing: just because you haven't caught anything doesn't mean other people aren't. I've seen people find their "happily ever after" on Tinder plenty of times and many others of people getting rude messages from matches they had hopes for.

serious_miss419 · Answer

The guys will say that dating apps are full of business-bots and the women will say that dating apps are full of male-sluts. The only person benefitting is the one that made the app originally. I am entertained by some of society when they are stumped as to why a dating app isn’t working to their benefit.

RationalMale · Answer

Tinder is hugely popular for camgirls and fake hookers looking to scam people. You can meet real girls on it too, but unless you're an absolute top notch guy... you're gonna have to pay for it if you want results.

I also suggest you find a hot female friend or coworker to help you pick photos.

TuxTheAstronaut · Answer

i say they are not worth it cuz they dating apps have an insensitive for u to not find someone sense that makes them more money and becuse in dating apps all u can do is really post some pictures and add a few lines of text it makes everyone mostly judge people on purely looks. so ye id say dating apps are not worth your time and money

Paul09 · Answer

Seems so. I've had 1 successful hook up. And after that , seemed impossible to find anyone, no matter how many I liked. I hate dating apps. Definitely try to make money off of single men. Yet women don't pay and get bombarded by men. Or women are extremely picky on those sites. FB dating app, seemed to have got a couple of messages. But nothing came from it. Very boring conversation.

sheikalana · Answer

But you don't have to pay for it. You can use it for free. I guess it depends on your expectations. I met my husband on tinder I wasn't looking for a husband but I was looking for a serious relationship.

Adam1978 · Answer

All dating apps are scams. They are built for failure and basically divided up so you can't match.

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

Probably, but either way its a hookup app, hookups are for losers. If you want a real girlfriend don't bother using it.

Anonymous · Answer

50 states only 13 dating agencies companies

Aerissa_Jade · Answer

Not a scam but odds are not in your favor. Think of it like gambling, pay 20 and roll the dice... put up a good profile though to increase your odds.

Anonymous · Answer

Why do people use dating apps anyways? I use a dating agencies. I am not wasting my time to talking to a creepy guy pretending to be a girl. I find real women.

Bob92220 · Answer

When I watch videos from the "man sphere," such as BetterBachelor and Alexander Grace, they all claim it's a scam.

Slartybartfast · Answer

It's a scam to empty men's wallets , men are the gender of hat pays so the last thing tinder wants is men to find someone.

front2back · Answer

If you actually want to find a decent woman for a relationship, Christianmingle, a paid service like E-Harmony, or go meet women IRL.  There's no other way.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes tinder is a scam and here’s why. For guys it’s used for sex or potential relationships. Most girls use it for validation. If you swipe right too much you get your profile pushed down to the bottom for being too needy. You can get banned for life with no evidence if anything and the company will not lift a finger to see if the repot to ban you is justified

Anonymous · Answer

I think it is personally a waste of time I don't know about a scam though as the great Ashely Reynolds would say (if you don't know who that is look her up)

bamesjond0069 · Answer

Its not fake. I get matches and dates pretty regular. If you're ugly i wouldn't bother, if your at least high average and can write a decent profile you should get results.

Jltakk · Answer

Yep, online dating is a scam. When you look at the statistics and how lopsided things are, it makes for grim reading, and much like social media in general, it isn't exactly doing great for society.

Deserter · Answer

Depends how attractive you are and how good your pics are. I've been on dates and had sex from girls off of Tinder

DarkWinterNights · Answer

You have to PAY FOR TINDER? It’s even worse than I thought it was.

Slim57 · Answer

If you let it be, it's a scam of time and investment for any average man though I will say that, you're better off trying for local girls, you never know who lives in your own hometown with similar interests

Subarugirl · Answer

Not if you wanna just fuck around. If you don't wanna pay then don't pay lmao

sp33d · Answer

Let's just say it's not in their interest that you find your soulmate and settle down. Goes for any dating platform.

Freyke · Answer

No it's been working fine for me. But I use it for free.

Uptowngirl88 · Answer

No it's not a scam. Either get out into the world of off tinder

TwoToTooTutu2 · Answer

No not a scam per se. Just takes 5 years to find someone

Shy_Steve · Answer

I don't think so, It's just a Company trying to make Money. If it was a scam it wouldn't be that popular.

Anonymous · Answer

Most online dating has been corrupted by hookup culture. Which favors lust and short term pleasure. Over love and long term pleasure.

Anonymous · Answer

The average man has to swipe on over 130 profiles before getting a match. Tinder only works for women.

harrison102 · Answer

Tinder is free, I’ve met over 100 girls on there and now in a relationship.

007kingifrit · Answer

yea it's pointless don't use it but... it's free anyways

WhiteBoyChill · Answer

Its a free app I thought. Either way I tried it before and I didn’t really want to settle for low quality women

Xoirwinkan · Answer

I think 99% of it isn't a scam, but certainly stacked against men.

RuthlessAggression · Answer

Most of the profiles on it, are business. They're just on it to draw up business

maximumpower · Answer

are you getting $20 worth of value out of the subscription? if no, then move onto another app.

Mister_No_Name · Answer

Tinder is mainly just for hookups. I tried bumble but deleted since it really wasn't worth it

Anonymous · Answer

I've never used it. Is it a pay site? I always assumed it was free.

Anonymous · Answer

Not the app, but the vast majority of the women on there are.

SweetLovely · Answer

Yes, none of those young men are looking for real love.

RobEurope · Answer

I think the algorithm is optimised to show you advertisements.

Amur8711 · Answer

Vast majority of the girls that you match with are scams.

Anonymous · Answer

i am using it for this month to see without pay anything

FreyaRed · Answer

It's not, if you just wanna fuck around

XXblack88 · Answer

I think all dating sites are.

annabananna · Answer

Do you get the service that they offer?

John_Doesnt · Answer

Yes, it's a total scam to get your money.

SAMI_DABBAB · Answer

Definitely in my opinion

monkeynutts · Answer

Naaah I got a few fucks off it.

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