Play hard to get if you are immature and want an immature partner that will continually mess with you and lead to lots of stress and not actually caring about each other.
If you want a mature relationship with honesty and trust, don't play immature games like that.
Sometimes but a lot of guys get frustrated and lose interest. The only guys who lose interest when you show interest are jaded player types who already have too many girls under their belt. Regular guys don’t usually do that.
No. Hard to get = hard pass. Pursuing a women who has said no once could end up with the guy having to spend two hours explaining to the police why he had the audacity to ask her out a second time.
@WonderBell99 Guys are direct. What we say is what we mean. Women are the ones who complicate everything. So no, showing interest in a guy doesn't turn him off; it turns him ON!
This is a question for all 3 of you.. what does it mean if a guy acts hot and cold? Like one day he seems interested and the next day he isn’t.. why do some guys do that? and what do I do then? Do I just move on?
There is no hot and cold. Are you attempting to engage him at all? Also, remember you aren't the center or his universe. He isn't going to give you all of his attention all the time (and he shouldn't)
in my opinion this is bs and complicates everything, if you want to know if he's really interested in having something what you need is to learn to read the person, see how he is with others, how he is with you, what he's looking for, etc. And it's better to be direct rather than playing games.
You bargaining on a guy going "Why doesn't she like me" and using that to chase you. In the real world that doesn't work, the guy will see you're not interested and move onto someone else. Unless he is simping
Back when I was younger and had more “free” time and enjoyed the drama, then yes. It would have been fun. Now, if a woman plays games and or tried to be hard to get, I bounce I don’t pursue. I don’t have time to play games like that. I chase one thing. Money and that’s it. I have a career and everything else. I’ll put a woman as a priority as long as we clear and express what we want. But as far as all that hard to get bullshit. Nah. I’m out. I don’t care how hot you are.
I like things this way if a girl or woman is interested in me, I like her to be friends with me for a while this way I know that the longer we are friends, this lets me know she is interested in me
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In my opinion a woman playing hard to get usually backfires, at least that's the case for me. If I show interest in a woman and she doesn't show interest in return, I will move one because it obviously means one of two things: 1) she's really not interested, or 2) she's playing childish games. Either way, I won't waste my time on her.
Personally I need to know there is a reason to bother. I will ask to find if there is something. There is a difference between hard to get and hard to get into your pants. The latter is what needs to work.
Your guy friends don't have enough experience to know any better yet. Speaking for myself and almost every guy I've ever known, playing hard to get DOES NOT WORK. Usually it just makes the guy lose interest.
It may work on the younger crowd that has time for such things. When I was younger I would fall for such " hard to get " women but even then there were limits. After a while I would get frustrated and move on.
Yes playing hard to get does work to a certain extent. Play hard to get but not too hard to get you can always take it one step too far and become the oh God I can't live without her to the b**** ain't worth it in just one move.
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The guys worth dating will appreciate the honesty, not everything has to have drama.
Starting a new relationship is confusing as is, the last thing I’d want is them not to be honest with me but to each and their own.
I’m sure some guys like playing games like that but for sure not the majority.
Play hard to get if you are immature and want an immature partner that will continually mess with you and lead to lots of stress and not actually caring about each other.
If you want a mature relationship with honesty and trust, don't play immature games like that.
I lose interest in women who play mind games, especially that one.
I don't want to chase, or be chased.
That was my policy as well.. but two of my guy friends told me that they are usually interested in women who play hard to get.
Sometimes but a lot of guys get frustrated and lose interest. The only guys who lose interest when you show interest are jaded player types who already have too many girls under their belt. Regular guys don’t usually do that.
No. Hard to get = hard pass. Pursuing a women who has said no once could end up with the guy having to spend two hours explaining to the police why he had the audacity to ask her out a second time.
Okay, so showing interest doesn’t turn off a guy?
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Guys are direct. What we say is what we mean. Women are the ones who complicate everything. So no, showing interest in a guy doesn't turn him off; it turns him ON!
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Absolutely not!
This is a question for all 3 of you.. what does it mean if a guy acts hot and cold? Like one day he seems interested and the next day he isn’t.. why do some guys do that? and what do I do then? Do I just move on?
There is no hot and cold. Are you attempting to engage him at all? Also, remember you aren't the center or his universe. He isn't going to give you all of his attention all the time (and he shouldn't)
@spartan55 of course not, but I’m talking about guys who ghost for a couple of days and come back again
And yes, I do engage in convo
in my opinion this is bs and complicates everything, if you want to know if he's really interested in having something what you need is to learn to read the person, see how he is with others, how he is with you, what he's looking for, etc. And it's better to be direct rather than playing games.
Playing hard to get does not help anyone
You bargaining on a guy going "Why doesn't she like me" and using that to chase you. In the real world that doesn't work, the guy will see you're not interested and move onto someone else. Unless he is simping
Back when I was younger and had more “free” time and enjoyed the drama, then yes. It would have been fun. Now, if a woman plays games and or tried to be hard to get, I bounce I don’t pursue. I don’t have time to play games like that. I chase one thing. Money and that’s it. I have a career and everything else. I’ll put a woman as a priority as long as we clear and express what we want. But as far as all that hard to get bullshit. Nah. I’m out. I don’t care how hot you are.
I like things this way if a girl or woman is interested in me, I like her to be friends with me for a while this way I know that the longer we are friends, this lets me know she is interested in me
In my opinion a woman playing hard to get usually backfires, at least that's the case for me. If I show interest in a woman and she doesn't show interest in return, I will move one because it obviously means one of two things: 1) she's really not interested, or 2) she's playing childish games. Either way, I won't waste my time on her.
Personally I need to know there is a reason to bother. I will ask to find if there is something. There is a difference between hard to get and hard to get into your pants. The latter is what needs to work.
Your guy friends don't have enough experience to know any better yet. Speaking for myself and almost every guy I've ever known, playing hard to get DOES NOT WORK. Usually it just makes the guy lose interest.
You have to do just enough to keep him interested without letting him know you're into him.
For real?
I mean it depends on the guy but I think most guys like to do the chasing.
Those guy "friends" are not your friends, kiddo.
Not suggesting you put out at the drop of a hat, but they should be looking out for you better.
Those who play games without actually making it a relationship I find just to be manipulative and boring.
It may work on the younger crowd that has time for such things. When I was younger I would fall for such " hard to get " women but even then there were limits. After a while I would get frustrated and move on.
When I was dumb teenager it did. When they try doing that to me as an adult I just give up the automatically and then they start to chase me lol.
Not with me. If a woman is sending signals that she's not interested, well, no means no, so I move on.
Yes it always works. It's pretty much always women's fault for getting in bad relationships, they could have been with a great handsome guy like me.
humble much?
Yes playing hard to get does work to a certain extent. Play hard to get but not too hard to get you can always take it one step too far and become the oh God I can't live without her to the b**** ain't worth it in just one move.