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Does playing hard to get ACTUALLY work?
Playing hard to get, creating a mystery about yourself, not being too easy or available, are things that are lost in modern dating in my opinion. When you're too "there", people get bored easily.
I often think of how people would date when there wasn't the instant availability of texting and video chatting. They'd have to wait, they would have to do without having constant or direct or immediate aspect to the person. But when you have a phone practically growing from your hands there are technically no or very few excuses to not he around. At least that's how many perceive it. I do believe in the old adage that "absence makes the heart grow fonder", when with the right person.
It's a fine line to dance with so as not to jump too quickly or give in to quickly and being manipulative. And when you're surrounded by people who want an answer yesterday, or who don't get taking things slow or who don't get why you might want to have some boundaries that delay gratification, it can be seen as well, manipulative.
It won't be well received by many. But I don't care. Personally, I'm going back to playing hard to get. Going back wooing, and mystery and the fun of the beginning stages of romance.
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"Playing" is the word. Playing is a game. In most games there is a winner... and a loser! Which do you want to be?
You can play hard to get, and so many people just give up and find someone else. Risky business. Your choice.
Like most things in life, nothing is absolute, it works, and it doesn't work depending on the situation and the persons involved. In economic terms playing hard to get is creating an artificial shortage and thereby increasing the exclusivity and thus price of the goods. Now whether to pursue and purchase the goods depends on the consumer. If the consumer has enough money, and choices (competition) then they may just go for something with a more realistic perceived price.
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Usually showing interest, but not neediness, works the best.
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No men absolutely hate it. "Men love the chase" is a female-created myth.
It's really only about 20% of men globally, if that. As you can see here, probably less. -
key word there.."playing"...Why play any games... Relationships should be the "real deal" real communication, real feelings, real emotions, real trust, real respect... People be playing games and then wonder why their relationships fail...gee wonder why🤦(yeah that's sarcasm lol)
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I've never once seen it work. I don't understand why it would. So, no.
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I never play hard to get before and because Im not thinking about that since Im not done in my school and Im not thinking about any crushes any crush I stop having crush at grade 6 I guess but all I know is playing hard to get does in fact increase a potential mate's perceived desirability, and simce other people do that sometimes nd the reason they want to play hard to get is so that the person that they like and the person who pike them dont think that they can be easily to get or they want them to think that they can't be easily getting hurt to because if they dont play hard to get then it means they are easily to get and easily to break the heart Sometimes people think that way 😅
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Play stupid games , win stupid prizes. The majority of men with the more logical male mind will interpret " hard to get " as " Don't bother , she is NOT interested ! " . Women that do this also forget that men typically experience far more rejection than women do , hence why most men will take it as another " no ". Plus mind games do not say anything positive about those that play them.
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In the short run, i think it does work. The thrill of the guy finally getting the girl (who may or may not be truly worth it). By working very hard for something, men tend to feel that they have earned it and it must be a good prize.
In the Long run tho, it is still the same issues. Compatibility, values etc.
It may work to help you get the person but to keep the person it’s more than that -
Why play games if you’re confident you can get them just being yourself? If I want someone, then he just won the prize. I know my value and so does he. No reason for games.
Know your worth and it will be evident to everyone. Don’t know it? It’ll also be evident. -
I think it massively depends on who you're trying it with- i know playing hard to get works a treat for boys who play games, f*ck boys basically. When a boy is genuinely interested they won't play games in my opinion.
When i met my boyfriend i was so used to playing the game with boys and he sat me down and said stop game playing it ain't gonna work LMAOOO. -
No, it doesn't, as a guy who's seen this a million times I can tell you I find nothing about it attractive. Even my friends don't really like to do this sort of thing in the slightest. I'm not into games, I don't have time for them, if I get even a whiff or see a sign that a girl that I'm talking to starts this I just leave and move on. I'm twenty-five and I'm not interested in spending what could be weeks or months doing these trivial tasks for a girl I've barely spoken to or just met.
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My ex used to play hard to get to gain control. And it worked for a long time because I really didn't want anyone else.
But it gets tiresome and incredibly boring.
Especially when you're supposed to have them.
So my answer is no. there's a limit. If you like someone let them know but have a life. - 1.2K opinions shared on Flirting topic.
In general I don't do the whole playing hard to get, if your playing hard to get then most of the time I'm just gonna move on to someone else.
I'm interested in someone who's interested in me and is direct about it, I'm not in the mood to play games and do the whole back and forth, chasing you game.
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That's one of those questions that really depends on an individual. Some won't waste their time, some see it as a challenge, some may get a sense of rejection so in my opinion it may or may not. The only way to find out is do it, it could work one time but may not the other.
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not if you're a man xD and i'd argue that playing hard to get as a woman increases your chances of ending up with a player. cause as the name says: they love to "play" that game. cause what's the fun in fucking a girl that will just spread her legs for them :D
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Generally, no. In small amounts, it can give you an air of mystery, and of something that needs to be worked for, but anything beyond that will just send the message that you're not interested.
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No, and not only would it not work, I would consider you a lower form of human being for it. I would dismiss you. I would not trust you, I look down on you, feel bad for you.
I would advise all men to stay away from these kind of women - 357 opinions shared on Flirting topic.
There's a fine line between playing hard to get and being cautious while getting to really know someone. There are ways to keep someone interested without "giving it up" too soon OR being cold. If a guy gives up "too easily", that should tell you something right there, but you have be able to decide if you're going to trust in a reasonable amount of time.
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Depends if the girls extremely hot as she knows what to look for yes but if the girl plays extreme amount of games then the guy completely lose interest I live in south Asia all the time I’ve noticed girls respond one word and it take weeks to respond eventually I lose interest.
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I don't know if that action specifically does any good? I know personally the first sign of disinterest (and it can be a small one), I'm done 100%. But some guys don't care and will continue trying regardless. Some guys know that some women will "give in" also and take advantage of that. I personally couldn't do that, but some guys do.
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No, because if a male makes more than one low-key approach that constitutes evidence of sexual harassment and possibly stalking.
If a woman plays hard to get, she is going to die an old maid.
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For me that makes me want to run if you're going to play games to try to get somebody then it's not real and anything that's not real is fake so why go there just be yourself if it's meant to be it will be
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