Does playing hard to get really work?

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Anonymous · Accepted Answer

If a guy plays hard to get , usually to me it means he is annoyed with me and doesn't want me.
I prefer the guy do the chasing , it's biologically wired that way , men chase women and women choose from than men that chase her. And there also has to be mutual attraction of course but you get my point. It may work for the woman to play hard to get ( not too much though until it seems like she isn't interested) but if a guy is playing hard to get to me it just means I'm being clingy if I don't forget about it and let him go.

MelaninDoll · Accepted Answer

I asked my brother and he said "if a girl wanna play hard to get then she ain't worth my time I ain't on that shit, if you like me and I like you then what's the point of playing hard to get we could just be together, playing hard to get ain't cute". I agree with him.

JulieXO · Accepted Answer

I don’t play hard to get, I don’t see the point. If i want someone/something, I show it so that the other person knows where they stand. If they’re not into me they’ll let me
Know and neither of us will waste any time.

AudreyB88 · Accepted Answer

Nope. If someone acts like they're not interested in me. I would assume that they aren't and move on.

MortalityDoesStuff · Accepted Answer

Guys are either really dumb or really smart when it comes to knowing who is and isn't attracted to us. Playing hard to get doesn't work, it just makes the dumb ones go away because they think you hate them, and it doesn't impress the smart ones because they can see right through it. If you like someone just be honest about it

PoliceLivesMatter · Accepted Answer

In the real world? Usually not, especially when it comes to adults. We have busy lives and it’s just better for all to be honest and transparent but not to divulging.

Idontknow092 · Answer

It does work to some extent and can create more passion/attraction but its still toxic behaviour.
I think that playing hard to get is the reason why so many people feel lonely and sad.
It's also not something nice to do, especially if you are a grown man/woman. If there is a person who shows genuine interest and wants to be serious with you then dont play games with that person.

Tae-ken · Answer

If you're playing hard to get for a short amount of time it's fine. If you're doing it constantly, it gets annoying. Think of it this way, when your boss yells at you for something stupid, you can tolerate it a bit. When it happens for the 100th time, you're probably extremely pissed.

Anonymous · Answer

No, it doesn't. Statistically, the majority of the time it makes you seem unfriendly and in that way undesirable for knowing beyond one night. The only aspect in which it has more success than just being friendly is when you want to have a one night stand and never see the guy again, that's the only situation it's better for. It creates a kind of "spite fuck" vibe. So if that's what you're looking for then go for it, otherwise just be a normal person.

IntroExtroTri · Answer

Never. I've went through this many times and never worked as the girl would show interest, then not show interest by staring at another guy, then show interest in me again and the cycle repeats.

Bliss-taylor · Answer

I've never played hard to get but if I wasn't interested in someone, they seemed to get more interested when I turn them down. I'm thinking yes.

azzntittiz · Answer

I lose interest and respect. I am also the type of person that wants what I want now, once I wait too long I develop a taste of something else.

markscott · Answer

Playing hard to get only works if the guy is really into you, and not willing to quit. Otherwise, is can lose you a good relationship.

Jayme012092 · Answer

I don’t like it. I also don’t like it when a girl throws herself at me. Make me do the asking out and catering and being a gentleman. Just don’t play games with me. I hate that, have no patience for it. Deuces.

soccerchick4eva · Answer

Sometimes but it's only if that person is really into you.. other than that it just gets annoying and losing interest suddenly appears

Koki11 · Answer

I think it generally works with a guy used to yes n not no but rarely if ever. mstly dsnt work but if you're faking it i think guys can sense that

JimRSmith · Answer

Not with me, no. Absolutely don't have time for silly games.

Introvert94 · Answer

It pushes me away. I don't have time to play these games. LOL I have other women in line.

xZoeyx · Answer

Not usually. Especially when it's a guy playing hard to get

Anonymous · Answer

Not for me. I find it annoying. I am 27 years old. If you are still playing those kind of games, I will find someone who is mature enough to talk and handle a situation like an adult.

Anonymous · Answer

Well I don't know if I would call it playing hard to get, but ignoring women seems to be the most effective approach to getting their attention, and keeping their interest.

monkeynutts · Answer

It's all a game. You have to get your skills up and play well.

Anonymous · Answer

He played hard to get, and it worked. Eventually, I was exhausted.

Anonymous · Answer

if a girl plays hard to get i immediately lose interest because i hate girls that think they are so great that you have to do everything in your power to get them. bitch you ain't special lol

Anonymous · Answer

It depends on the guy really. Some men LOVE the thrill of getting a girl who claims she doesn't want him. Some men like me can usually see right through it and can tell when a girls into you or not.

bellybuttonlint · Answer

It works on people who are more confident, alpha-ish from my observation but doesn't work at all on more timid-shy-introverted people.

YHL6965 · Answer

No, it just makes the girl look like a total bitch to me.

Goodonestaken · Answer

I don't think so it's frustrating more than anything.

TayTay21 · Answer

Everything works when you're hot.

Anonymous · Answer

WIth women crave challenge, whether they admit or not. You better learn that now. Playing hard to get works well in the early stages.

Anonymous · Answer

no because while the bitch wants me tho chase her, im quit and going onto smashing like 10 next 1s

aaaae2e · Answer

yes it does.. trust me she will love you more :/

meeya · Answer

Yes it does to an extent

JoyGirl · Answer

Sometimes. It is 50/50.

lilmissumshine · Answer

I think it's stupid lol

FluffyBee · Answer

Yes, but you know short time relationships.

Dxk007 · Answer

Yeah, to some extent.

LegateLanius · Answer

Nope. It makes me move on

AgentDearestZ · Answer

I know it wastes my time. From personal experience

allnamesweretaken · Answer

ima go with a maybe lol

BronzedAdonis · Answer

in my personal experience, yes

Anonymous · Answer

Wish it was easy to learn.

NewYear-NewMe · Answer

Terrible idea. Be real.

beebella · Answer

Not with me.

omgjassy · Answer

I don’t know

Halucinator · Answer

Never ever dude don't be that guy

CrazyyChick · Answer

it depends

1derfulguy · Answer

Not for guys.

britpop · Answer

I don't know

Nandor · Answer

No just stop

PrincessV · Answer

sometimes

ronaldo02222 · Answer

Yes it does

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