So, I post nudes on Reddit, taking good care that I stay as anonymous as possible, and trough that I've gotten in contact with some great people.
I've been talking to this one guy specifically on a daily basis and we really hit it off. He'll be on holiday in my country with some friends soon and wants to meet up irl.
I really, really like him, but I can't get over the fact that we got in touch trough my nudes. He says he thinks I'm beautiful without having seen my face and I just don't know how to feel about this all. We see eye to eye on many things and have similar interests as well.
Should I get over myself and meet up?
No, keep things online
Yes, meet up irl
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This has been up for some time, so I don't even know if an update will do anything. However, I just wanted to add that I'm not sure if I'm ready to do anything sexual with him. I also told him that already.
We started chatting trough my nudes, should I meet up with him?
I'm going to speak from experience on this one. A similar situation with my now wife. We met not through reddit, but online. We massively hit it off because we were sexually attracted to one another. We would sext a lot. We were from different countries, we got down and dirty a lot. Now, I think it's important to say you have 100% enticed him with your nudes. What you chatted about thereafter, no one knows but you. I would recommend that you facetime, zoom - whatever - and you guys see one another 'in-person', online. I mean, properly see one another. Talk more and don't rush it. There's a lot of stigma attached to hooking up with people online. But to be honest, people hook up with one another in a bar after an hour of 'knowing' one another. So fuck stigma. Doing your own due diligence is key. Good luck!
Hard to say if he is a good dude, or not. If you have similar interests and you seem to be getting along well, then i guess you can meet with him. As usual, be careful! :) Maybe bring a friend as well. And if you find anything weird you don't like, just go home or don't even meet with him in the first place.
Just because he saw your nude pictures, you don't have to fuck him on your first few meet ups, or ever if you don't want to.
You should send him a selfie or something tho. I mean if i were him i would probably ask to see your face before the meet up.
If the basis of your relationship has been nude photos, this guy wants to meet up for sex, don't you think? Why did you do this? Vanity? Self-esteem boost?
You've been playing a dangerous game. Stop it and keep it an online acquaintance.
Nude photos mean you're advertising for one thing. Unless sex is your sole goal, keep your distance.
No, there are more steps first. Talk to him on the phone first and then on face time or the equivilent Then meet him at a public place like a coffee shop or restaurant, etc Then if all checks out go for it
Eeeeeeh, I'm not sure about it from a place like Reddit. The only time I've swapped nudes was from sites where that why we are there is for sexy time... classifieds type stuff. Did you get his nudes even? like, think about it... there's been a few girls from onlyfans that's been murdered for meeting up with a fanboy.
I'd like to point out, if you're being an exhibitionist online, like just to get attention, and the whole point isn't for local sex, you're going to just attract ALL TYPES of people... not just the nice ones.
Why are you posting nudes on Reddit in the first place?
I say meet him in a public place for the first meet up. Don’t let him know where you are staying either until you get to know him. He obviously wants sex which should come as no surprise given what you posted.
Anyway do not flake out on your earlier word (too many women do that bs) but do not promise him anything either. You can be smart while not being a virtual attention whore.
If you haven’t given him your real name then give him a fake one.
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I'm posting to help improve my self esteem. Both taking the pictures and the feedback I get mostly help.
Thank you for your comment, if we were to meet I was planning to do so in a cafe or something and I already told him I most likely will not be comfortable to do anything sexual. He doesn't know where I live or my real name.
Let’s be honest you are posting this for attention.
You can do what you want. He might be a decent guy. But with all due respect your not exactly a 19 year old so don’t be naive like one. Sure you like hearing “your beautiful” (who doesn’t) but do you really believe all men who say this are just asexual nude art connoisseurs?
Anyway I hope it goes well. But don’t act surprised or taken aback if he wants something. You get back what you put out there.
Why don't you roleplay what he could have done if he saw you one day at a bar? Then if you and him develop a more boyfriend and girlfriend relationship over the wire, then you can give him a shot in real life.
Rather that agreeing to meet him illicitly at a hotel room you can invite him to be at the same bar or club at the same time as you, and challenge him to pick you up and seduce you just as if you two met in real life and not the internet.
As other people have pointed out, "real" people hook up with random strangers at bars and clubs all the time, but for some reason that's totally normal. But your thing? Oh that's stigmatized.
I think this is better way to transition from an online relationship to a real life one, better than meeting in a coffee shop, "Oh this is what you look like in person?"
Hmmm.. am sure I may have some day liked one of your posts because I am a redditor on some nude forums, myself :) . My honest opinion - I know myself when I am in that mode and can say for sure, the other guys won't be any different. I also post my nudes. But I keep it strictly virtual myself - as a tool to vent out my desires and tendencies.
Don't expect any guy from these kind of forums to be interested in anything other than having a fling affair. Even if that's what you want, you are better off having it with someone you know rather than a stranger who may be a blackmailer.
Looking at the replies you added to the comments you received, I think you've already decided what to do. There's no point in asking it here. Isn't it? You just wanted to say it in public, just like you do post your nudes in public.
PS: I don't think it's a bad thing. There are many out there just like you. Taking pleasure in making sexual things public. Good luck with this guy.
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I think you have the wrong image of me. Because of the replies I've gotten on here I'm much less likely to go trough with it. I just don't like when people make assumptions of me.
Great people? In which way? Because they like naked women and only want to get in your pants so they sweet talk you?
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I don't just post nudes. Some people on there saw a post or comment they liked and started a conversation. Do I get a lot of empty compliments in my DMs? Sure, but there are also people on there that want to talk and discuss certain things.
I think you should break it off. All you have going is sex. Nothing meaningful and he is just using you for nudes and it is possible you're doing the same to him. I say just no more
You won't get the opportunity with him again probably. Take the chance and see where it goes. Be careful of course but don't let the possibilities pass you by.
Well, if he hasn't seen your face, yet he still wants to meet up, I think it's a safe guess that he's attracted to your body. Which means he probably wants to have sex.
Getting on with someone online doesn't always translate to getting on in real life but its probably fine, the main problem is that you dont ever get to complain about dick pictures again.
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Have u seen what he looks like? Why won't you show him your face? Especially if you have seen his lol
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He sent me some selfies. I didn't sent any yet myself since I'm a bit paranoid of somebody I know connecting it to my nudes
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