Whenever there is a side girl situation, why does everyone attack the girl more than the guy who is cheating?

[nocturnalbaby]

I understand that can happen if the girl knows about the guys girlfriend and still continues to see him, but what if she doesn't know? sometimes guys are very good at hiding it & it's not always clear whether they have an actual girlfriend or whether they're single but just don't have feelings for you.

shouldn't the guy be blamed more because he's the one who chose to go out & look for girls to cheat with? why does everyone start attacking the side girl & assuming that she does actually know about the girlfriend? most girls probably wouldn't sleep with a guy knowing for sure they have a girlfriend.

[Novacane]

Because it's easier to direct your anger at the person that caused it. Now in this situation of course the person that caused it is both the boyfriend and her, but she is new in the picture, it's kind of like they came into the equation and destroyed things. If someone breaks your window, are you madder at the window for not being strong enough or will you blame the person who broke it, even if it was an accident?

[Sandeeppingping]

Both should be blamed and the dude should be blamed much more because he's the cheater in an actual relationship, and I think everyone agrees, ironically it's the girl in the relationship with the dude who usually blames the other girl more than her so called boyfriend because "he's not like that, I love him and he would never do this to me" you know the bs they try to convince themselves with...

[Little_Bumblebee]

The one in the relationship should be the one to get the most blame and hate.

But it seems like when this happens, it shows just how little faith we have in men for being faithful.

[AsaKyo]

I've also always wondered this as it is mainly the guy's fault for going out and lying to this other girl about his relationship status and all that jazz

[20yearsolder]

You are absolutely correct. If I'm married or a serious relationship and I decide to go out and cheat. Whether The woman that I'm cheating with knows that I'm attached to another female is irrelevant. I'm the one that had to commitment, not her. I'm the one that should be held responsible for cheating. The woman that I'm cheating with had no obligation to anyone.

[Andres77]

It’s always the individual.

not the gender.

mass shooters, serial killers, black widows, women who abandon their kids or sell their daughters for drugs…it all comes down to people who choose to do evil stuff for personal gain.

its the individual.

[MrPickles13]

Your right actually it's the guys fault more than anything most of the time. And it's only the woman's fault if she knows he is in a relationship. Otherwise both women are actually the victims and quite honestly both of them shouldn't be balmed at all.

It sucks and it's stupid that the one who is the side girl gets blamed first.

It's like how if a driver accidentally hits a cyclist by accident no matter what the circumstances everyone balmed the driver. If that makes sense.

[Chazmatazz269]

My experience and observations do not match yours. Men always get the lion’s share of the blame for cheating.

[FilmGuy93]

Because people who haven't been in that situation don't realize that most of the time, cheaters are being just as dishonest with the side piece as the main attraction.

[Adronicus]

Women are the guardians of sex, men are the guardians of commitment. So if sex hapoens it's because the woman wanted it to.

[AmeerX]

Because if she didn't let herself in then she was just forced. And polyamory is more suitable in such situations

[MikeInHawaii]

Yep. And some of these guys are running out to McDonald’s with steak on the grill.

[ArtemisSilver]

The whole stupid mess is why I'd rather people just be openly polyamorous instead of sneaking around

[Plumber123]

I think the guy very much should be blamed. He is the one cheating. The girl has a little blame but not near as much as the guy. I don't get why guys cheat tho.

[WhiteBoyChill]

I agree. Its not really fair why people do that

[Tommy789]

Hard to say, Guys are wroñg if they cheat as well.