When a guy cheats on his girl, why does the girl place all the blame on the girl he cheated with and not on him?

[loveisbeautiful]

The title pretty much say's it all. The reason
I ask this is because I was watching a movie
tonight and this guy cheated on his girlfriend
and she probably wouldn't have known it.
Had they not been at the same party and had
she not seen him coming out of one of upstairs
bedrooms buttoning his shirt up. She saw the girl
he cheated with come out of the room as well.
But, instead of being mad at him. She was mad
at the girl.

I realize movies aren't "real life", but in some
cases, they are. And, woman do seem to get
more mad at the person the guy cheats with then
the guy. Why is that?

See, it wouldn't be a Tango without two people
(being of either the dancing or hortizontal variety).
It takes TWO to Tango, so why only get mad
at one? Obviously, the girl has every right to
be mad at the girl who slept with her man.
But, no one told he man to stick his "you
know what" in her "you know where". He did that
all on his own, so he's just as gulity as the girl
he cheated with (maybe, even more so).

Question is: Why does the girl get mad at
the chick and not at the dude?

[miramiraonthewall]

Oh I hate that shit. People are in denial sometimes. Instead of acknowledging the weakness in their relationship, their incorrect judgments about who the person is, correctly dealing with the frustration over the invested time and emotion in this cheater, and also possessing awareness of sexist messages about women in society in general... Instead of all that, its easier to find an outside party to blame. They don't want to believe he is that bad or that things between them suck and that they shouldn't trust him again. Blaming the other woman is misplaced anger.

Not to say I'd be best friends with the other person, but I'd be much more focused on the person who actually made the promise of commitment to me in the first place, the one who is the most accountable of anyone in the situation and owes me the most - thats the person I'd pissed off with. there's no real reason for me to be flaming at a stranger who doesn't know anything about me. She doesn't know me from Adam. Really, even if she knew, why should she care that much? If she does, thats nice. The only exception would be if she were a close friend. I've heard stories of so called "best friends" sleeping with their bff's boyfriends. Like ouch. That hurts. Tbh, that would hurt me worse than the boyfriend (or girlfriend).

[cankles]

I have been cheated on. I know it is 100% his fault. When he wasn't seeing hookers, he was hitting up women on dating sites, lying on his profile about his relationship status. So I know they were his victims, too. Had he been keeping a mistress, I might feel differently about it.

[existing_not_living]

I honestly don't know! It bothers me because then they can forgive the guy but not the girl. It's like HE cheated on YOU, not HER.

[Imtheone88]

In my case if a girls would cheat on me... I personally would blame the girl more than the guy... Because in some cases the other guy doesn't even know that the girl is taken... So basically she is the seducer... Makes sense? Sounds fare? Now If the guy knew she was taken and still did it, I'd say 70 30 girls fault again... Cause it's easier for her to just say no... the other guy is not cheating but she knows that she has a boyfriend...
That's what I think.

[front2back]

That's stupid, I'd be whoopin' that man's ass and texting all my girlfriends about how much of a shrimp d*ck he is instead of blaming the girl.

[Betwyn]

What I have noticed...

If she wants to stay with him, for whatever reason..

it's the other woman's fault.

But if she wants to break up...

He is in a world of shit.

I guess its harder to stay with a guy, that you blame for cheating..

[Anonymous]

Because historically it has been legal, and justified for men to cheat not for women. When I found out my ex was cheating to aced the blame on him. That is not to say the girl is innocent. But he was the one who made the choice

[zombiebabe]

she's an idiot... she should be pissed at the dude instead of the other bitch

[Anonymous]

who do you think should be blamed more? the one who cheats? or the third party? or 50 50?

[loveisbeautiful]

50/50. It takes two and if you both know what you're doing and both know the other
is with someone else but still choose to sleep together. Both are to blame.

[xBrokenEric]

The one who cheats. You dont know if they even told the person they were in a relationship. So its not fair if you get mad at the other person if they didn't even know

[Anonymous]

Movies are not reality it lies. If a guy cheats then he's responsible for it.