My boyfriend got married for money should I leave him?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend (29) recently confess to me that he got married to some lady 3 months ago so she could get her green card. he said she's a older lady in her late 30's and she has a boyfriend he got married to her a month before we moved in together. he claims he has to spend the night at her house 3 times a week because someone comes to her house to make sure there really married and he goes to her kids events to take pictures. I feel betrayed and I'm disgusted with him we talked about having kids and getting married in the future. He also brung up proposing to me in December and i went through his phone often and I didn't find anything but he was still living a double life he told me he just want to be friends for 2 months (I guess that's when they'll get a divorce) and then get back into a relationship

[MAC1983]

First of all, I'm sorry about the situation you're in. It can't be easy and I'm sure you hurt and torn about it.

Marriages just for visas, nationality, etc. are more common than you'd think. There is a 1990 movie made with Gerard Depardieu and Andie MacDowell called "Green Card" that depicts that kind of situation.

I think it comes down to what kind of relationship you have with him and what relationship he has with the other woman.

Is your life and experiences with him great?

If you want to keep the relationship despite all that, and the other situation is coming to a definitive resolve with no attachment on either part, you should consider it, at least.

If not, you shouldn't feel bad - this was something he should have been honest before you moved in and start considering a marriage of your own.

That said, it's your choice. Good luck and I hope you come out stronger and better, regardless.

[driven159]

time to tell him to spend the rest of his life with the green card marriage and move on don't waste your time on a loser like that and not telling you for three lying peace of crap you don't have to ask us you know the answer

[Avicenna]

Yes, leave him immediately. This probably isn't the only unwelcome surprise he will have for you if you stay with him.

[Chaser3232]

Yup! This could be trouble in the future! Leave!

[Anonymous]

Yes, he is married.