Trying to get folks to understand I'm not seeking a relationship?

[cth2188]

Right now, I have housing business to take care of before investing in a relationship.. most of the guys of today aren't patience when it comes to dating there ready to jump into a relationship without being friends. ( I dpnt understand that) I don't rush into dating and there are standards when it comes to dating anyways of the type of guy I want.

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I am self employed so this is beyond my career.. I'm creating a better life and what expect a man to take care of me and were not married? Please don't get me started on the lack of traditional men and God fearing men.. moat of these men are modern and follow MODERN roles. I don't follow society rules.

[Cynicaldreamer]

First off, good for you for putting yourself first!

As a disclaimer, I guarantee most of the guys on here are going to mock you because of your age and the fact that you're still single, or putting a career over a relationship-

Ignore them. Do what's best for YOU.

With that being said, most people aren't going to understand that yes, it is okay for a woman to put a career over a family and relationship. Why? Because society has been brainwashed to believe that women should be married/in a relationship by a certain age. And her worth and attraction decreases the older she is... again, nonsense.

I find it ironic that for men, if they're single into their late 20s, early 30s, people just think they're trying to "find themselves," or consider them bachelors as if it's a good thing.

I wouldn't care or try to explain your relationship status to people. I'm 37 and still single- I no longer waste my breath explaining to nosy coworkers or friends why I'm single. I simply tell them, "It's easier and I'm happier this way." If men aren't patient enough to understand that you have a career and other responsibilities that come first? They're not worth your time.

Same applies to those that don't understand that maybe you want to get to know them before jumping into a relationship (because apparently taking your time to get to know a person is wrong nowadays or shows you're not interested...). If a guy is impatient, he's not worth your time and effort. The right person will understand your wants and needs and work with you, not against you.

[Sixgunsound]

The society we live in has been fundamentally transformed from one of courtship to a hook up culture where there is no relationship required to get sex and consequences for poor life choices are only a pill or murder and then life goes on and more poor choices can be made. In this hookup culture, if one person has standards and says no the asker just moves on as getting with someone who wants effort and commitment seems too much like work and delays immediate impulse gratification. Goodness knows we can’t have any kind of delay to any kind of impulse.

[cth2188]

Yes it's hard and disencouraging.. I'm rocking solo because I don't have guidance from a man prefably husband material the issue.. waiting and waiting on traditional men. Sometimes it's better to be alone then settle and choose the wrong guy.

[cth2188]

I am better off single in shorter terms and stay married to God. I already gave up on western society..

[Sixgunsound]

Thanks for MHO

[cth2188]

Your welcome

[Zolly99999]

It's today's society..