Why, besides ego, is it that women never "date down" regarding male partners?

[Anonymous]

Why, besides entitlement, don't women ever date or sleep with men who are shorter, poorer, fatter, or otherwise socially "less valuable" than them? Why do women only ever date men who are "better" than them in all walks of life (besides maybe looks)? Without it being attached to ego, arrogance, or entitlement, can someone explain why this is?

[Jimrat86]

Because of the poisen that is western hypergamy (if you are referring to the US).

I can't get a date myself, despite having my sh*t together and being good looking. It may not yet be the end of dating for most men quite yet, but it's beginning to look rather bleak. Just work out is all I can tell you.

[RealMarek]

Because women are hard-wired by evolution to seek the strongest, healthiest partner they can obtain. This makes sense. Women are vulnerable during childbearing and during most of human history being with a weak or stupid man was an invitation to be enslaved or killed.

[Asker]

A man doesn't have to be a 10 out of 10 in order to protect their children, nor does he have to be leagues above her, especially if she's already really successful. But I understand and am aware of your reasoning. I just think it makes women stupid if true.

[RealMarek]

We look at things from the standpoint of civilization. If we were in a tribal setting, most men would never have children and the mortality rate would appalling. A top quartile man would give his family a much higher chance of survival than other men. The fact that people are adapted to what was their environment for most of history does not make them stupid. It’s just not avoidable.

Of course, there have been more recent adaptations like monogamy that have enabled the formation of more stable cultures. Monogamy gives a larger number of men the chance to have children and creates a safer environment for women and children by having fewer single, frustrated men. The abandonment of monogamy we are seeing now is common when civilizations go into decline. It will pass.

[Asker]

True.

[MikeInHawaii]

Women seem to look down their noses at men with the same socio-economic background. With that said, I’m actually amazed at some of the gorgeous, otherwise intelligent women I know who do date down. I knew a guy in college who was a chronically unemployed, couch surfing, multi-drug addicted, severely alcoholic drop out. Over a two year period, four different women who wouldn’t go out to dinner with me fucked him.

[Asker]

Was he tall and good looking, or also short and ugly in addition to being a bum?

[MikeInHawaii]

He wasn’t tall and I don’t think he was good looking. He used to sunbathe naked at the fraternity house, so I know another possible explanation is shot.

[HighValue]

The majority of men date down because most of the time the man brings much more to a relationship than the woman does.

[Asker]

So it's the man's fault then?

[LazerBean]

Why would anyone want someone beneath them? I have standards that I meet, so why would I want to date someone who doesn't meet my own standards for myself? I don't expect anyone to do that, including men. And in truth, men who are thinking straight and aren't feeling desperate don't do that anyway.

[Anonymous]

It's not true at all. look at Chloe Green she got prego buy good looking criminal.

Look at nicki. minjai she got prego by broke criminal


Look at Adele the singer she dated a broke dude. Now she want BBC

Look at Britney Spears she married a bunch of broke dudes

[Libertycityguy]

There are women who like short fat men. I remember a girl from high school who was popular and a cheerleader. She dated short fan men. Most times its attraction. its a whole package there looks, personality and connection to each other. Most men will fuck anything that comes along even take head from other men. Women are not like that. There has to be an attraction and maybe you are meeting the wrong type of women too,.

[Asker]

"Most men will fuck anything that comes along even take head from other men."

What men are YOU talking to? Most men are not gay!

[Libertycityguy]

Has nothing to do with being gay?

[Asker]

Getting oral sex from men ain't gay?

[jhl_x]

They're in a position in the dating market where they can afford to be picky. No one dates out of charity.

[Anonymous]

I think most women would complain the same thing about men. I've seen plenty of gorgeous women dating ugly duds , never seen a hot guy date a average looking woman

[Asker]

What about Dwayne Johnson/The Rock?

[Anonymous]

Are their people who are dating other people they aren't attracted to in the slightest? This happens? Dating down means you are settling for someone you aren't attracted to, correct? Are there men out there who admit to dating women they aren't even attracted too? Why are you dating someone you aren't even attracted to?

[Asker]

Because personality matters? You just admitted you're shallow without saying you're shallow. I also never said you couldn't date a man who was EQUAL to you. Besides a vagina, what do you offer a man that he couldn't get somewhere else? Why should he date you and not a much hotter, nicer girl? ... You don't have to answer that; women like you never can.

[MrHopper]

Men are just easier to please? *shrug*

[In_Trance]

because they don't have to

[Anonymous]

Personal preference.

[msc545]

Money.