What do you think caused guys and girls to believe in hook ups but not relationships?

[pizzalovershouse]

[CA4444]

Interesting question… many reasons, it’s a trend, but one of them I think is that women can become proud to do & achieve like men (we all live in a patriarchal society) and be like yeah see I do hook ups too, don’t get attached and don’t care and live my best life - but it’s a bit of a lie women just get more attached and want relationships quite naturally… biologically I think we’re much less inclined to hookups and promiscuity, although it can be hot and nice too. we have much more freedom and independence now so we don’t want to end up with a guy we don’t actually like and there’s come the most playful and superficial side of ‘relationships’

[pizzalovershouse]

Yah I see your point

[Qdbrown]

The lie is that we don't live in patriatial society. Just because men are leaders in industry is not the whole of it. Any man or woman are able to be industry leaders if they are really ready and able to do what is necessary to be successful in their careers, and although rare, there are successful women in industry. However they do sacifrice a lot to get there, as their male counterparts.

Most women want it all. They want a great high paying job, but they also want to be free to roam around, hang out at the best spots, see guys and be in relationships. They love the idea of seeing what is out there and many women will be in guy's rotations just to be that special girl, and most get passed around and used. She gets a little bitter and complains about the hookup culture. Almost all believe that good guys don't exist.

They were told and believe that if you sleep with enough guys, one of them will eventually put a ring on it, and oddly, there are creepy guys out there that will do just that.

Rather than being pursued by quality guys and knowing what she wants. To be very selective, she becomes the town Schwinn, and wonders why at some point she becomes a pet mom...

[CA4444]

@Qdbrown I disagree, the values and what is considered as success in society are mainly manly values, basically being in a powerful position. being an amazing mother of wife or being creative or arty for example, aren't that valued in society; unless its just my impression... I know some men will value these qualities. But it also varies with where you are in the world, some countries are more matriarcale like India and Russia in my opinion, which may sound controversial given the amount of violence against women etc

[Qdbrown]

@ca4444 It's not what people value. It's what people want to do. Most people don't have what it's takes, or even have all the necessaries to be at the top.

Sure they want to, everyone wants that, but only the ones who want it the most have the best shot, and there are still losers, men and women, who went all out.

Most women are not driven like that. Some are, most not. That doesn't make. it patriarchial.

[JDavid25]

Most men are raised by women, so really in essence and logically, it would be women's values brought about by men in power if we go the "Patriarchy" route.. As women are always seen as more moral and better than men.. Also Motherhood is highly valued, and being creative is definitely valued in society but also that's not necessarily a feminine trait.. Being artsy as in a musician doesn't really bring much to the table in terms of making a more functional society.. So I can see that one..

[CA4444]

@JDavid25 yeah I agree, these things are still valued, thank god, but still the society and laws, basically the world around us, have been built by men, even if your mother raises you and transmit values you are still a man. Of course women had a role in this and maybe they had as much influence on the world as men. But like when a guy decided to build a company or sign a law or whatever he didn’t consult his mother, he acted as a man. I’m not saying a patriarchal society is bad, Its just the way it is in many places and the way history went and probably has to do with human nature. I’m not coming from a feminist point of view, I actually think women can be grateful too instead of looking for equal ‘power’. It’s all about balance within the society and basically working together… And from an individual perspective the society should allow freedom to reach your goals and dreams without prejudice or too much burden ie if a women has great managing skills she can reach the top and if a man feels like being a painter instead of pursuing a corporate career he can do it too and it’s fine. It’s already pretty much like that anyway, I guess…

[JDavid25]

Okay... Very well put.. I still don't necessarily think the West is Patriarchal anymore, but I agree with you.

[CA4444]

@JDavid25 Ah thanks 🥺

[JDavid25]

Of course.. 😊

[Jamie05rhs]

@ca4444 Russia is extremely patriarchal.

[Anonymous]

The VAST AMOUNTS of humans that there are. Our mortality, and knowing we are mortal. Being inexperienced, wanting to experience. Trying to live it up. Our short term attention span. Or short-lived romance. Our unamused type of personality. The fact that we might be polyamorous beings and are tricked into being monogamous. The pain and investment that comes with relationships and marriages. The financial problems from marriage. Women and men being able to use protection and worry little over pregnancy. Getting bored of a partner easily.

I personally worked at a mall, well 3 different malls in the span of 3 years. One was outdoors and the next indoors. Everyone in the mall was f*king and everyone got bored of their little flame easily and went onto the next.

[iSlipKnot]

Polyamory doesn't make sense for women. Birthing a child is a direct consequence of having sex with men. If pregnant, you want that child's father to stay to help care for what he created.

[Opinion Owner]

@iSlipKnot
If it doesn’t make sense for JUST women, then it doesn’t make sense for men either, because then every man would have to father and protect his offspring. Otherwise his child would die!
Women are capable of having 20 kids throughout their life time.. they should be having children of all genes..

[EtherealGuy]

This is certainly the wrong way of looking at it @emyywolf. Classical society was built around family units. It provided security and certainty. There's plenty of examples in living memory of women skipping between husbands when they died or disappeared. It's not conducive to a family unit or the stability if society. All that happens nowadays is that women sleep around however much they want, which causes most men to view them in a less favourable light when it comes to long term settling down. This causes fewer marriages, fewer kids and more loney 35+ people, especially when they lose their good looks and are left with just their pets rather than kids.

[Ghostluck]

@emyywolf Tricked? I don't think so. Some people, in fact the majority from my perspective, don't like to share their partners. Let's not pretend that most people are poly, that isn't even close to being the majority, that is and always will be a minority because it completely goes against the human nature of wanting to keep what is yours. When the heart gets involved, the idea of sharing is painful. Some people don't feel that pain when they share. i call that a defect where a wire isn't connected quite right. I know we live in a society now where anything goes, but it's still the minority who feel this way, it's just the minority are almost always the loudest.

[ZackBan]

Where do I begin?

Insane divorce rates.

Toxic relationships.

Single parent households.

How I met your mother, sex and the city, FRIENDS, and any othet sitcome that normalized the idea.

Extreme liberal hipsters who wanna see society crumble into degenracy in order to "stick it to the man".

Full legality of sex outside a marriage.

A culture where kids move out at 18 and so they have no one judging their actions.

I can go on and on and on.

But my take is hookup culture is natrual given the social climate of the world and it's pointless to look at it as a good or bad thing, it is simply the result of other things which may be good or bad

[EtherealGuy]

Just means there's far more lonely people in the world and we'll see dire repercussions when the 'hookup generation' reach their late 30s and 40s. People will realise they slept around rather than settling down and having kids, and everyone will be clutching their cats and dogs not knowing why they can't find a real relationship.

[ZackBan]

But you do realize that if an entire generation is gonna do that then they might as well settle for one an other later in life acknowledging that they all have had their fair share of partners so it's on even footing.

[Chris7094]

A lot of younger people never got to experience a good, Loving relationship yet, and they don't miss or crave what they never really had.

Many people are hooking up (It's reallly convenient now) so they just follow trend, and they think that casual sex is all there is to life. They don't understand that sex is just one part of a relationship, and there's a lot more intimacy to enjoy in a monogamous relationship once you bond with your partner, live together, and become truly attached. I'm not saying it lasts forever, or that it won't hurt when it ends, but when a relationship is good and you're truly in love, it's amazing!

[EtherealGuy]

Far too many people, girls especially, don't realise that the chances of having kids and being in a long term relationship drop drastically after 35. It's a shame, in a few years we'll see lots of people clinging onto their cats and dogs wondering why they can't get hitched or if they missed their chance to have kids.

[Chris7094]

@EtherealGuy
That's true. Time goes by, and the concept of sleeping around in your 20's and early 30's rather than pairing up can have consequences.

[Pinay_ako]

Coz it’s convenient and no strings attached.

[IesusHominumSalvator]

Like the apes

[HaveNoName]

@IesusHominumSalvator Absolutely BRILLIANT. Could not agree more.

[Whatever2929292]

This is why you cry for a need of abortion... You don't want a relationship. You want to be a low life and spread your legs all the time... Gross.

[Whatever2929292]

@IesusHominumSalvator these people are very ape like.

[IesusHominumSalvator]

@Whatever2929292 Incredible... we have a very hard work to do... teaching apes how to behave.

[ethanallen]

The feminist movement which led women in a strange direction where instead of developing confidence, success and equal rights, women instead developed hatred, disrespect and disdain for men. There is no benefit for a man to have a relationship with a woman. None. Hollywood tries to sell us the idea that relationships are awesome ("Sleepless in Seattle", "When Harry Met Sally", "You've Got Mail"). Try a relationship with a woman and you'll be "Sleeping in your car " and "She'll be sleeping with Sally" and "You'll get herpes" . Fuck relationships. Guys, enjoy you own money. Go on cool vacations where you don't have to pay for your girlfriend's pussy to come along. Have great diversions like a second home, a boat, an airplane. All of this stuff will never be possible with some nasty bitch sucking money out of your wallet and trying to control every aspect of your relationship. Look carefully at guys who lose their shit and end up killing people like the Craigslist Killer. His girlfriend wouldn't let him choose the shoes he wears. That is fucked up. Or the guy in Colorado who killed his wife and kids. Watch those videos and see how his wife treated him like shit. I don't think anyone should be violent but women treat men like shit in relationships. It ain't worth it when you can easily get laid and still hang on to your own money. Tell the bitches to keep their hands off your wallet and get on their knees and suck your cock.

[RandomGuy1030]

any dude making less than $1M a year... can't afford a girlfriend. Poor guys with gfs have to live above their means..

[ethanallen]

@RandomGuy1030 Exactly! When I was 25, I was in technical sales. I was the top sale guy in the nation (for a small company of only 20 sales people). Still, I was single and making bank. One the district managers (not my direct boss) was doing poorly in making his sales numbers. He was married with a wife at home and three kids all in private schools , a mortgage and he drove a Volvo. That mother fucker came into my office and asked me for money to cover his kids tuition because he wasn't going to be able to cover his bills. I told him to fuck off. That was when I realized that marriage was shit.

[razelove]

Convenience, the illusion of infinite choice, and the invincibility of youth.

Relationships take effort, hook-ups and NSA do not. On that note, there's the worry of "settling" that's where infinite choice comes in, it's a focus on the future rooted in the present "I can get someone better". So you tear through people, men or women, never "settling" until your choices are narrowed significantly as people in your age range now have kids or are married.

Then because you have no experience with relationships, and don't want to settle, you keep on the same pattern, with the only change being desperation.

[BlackBeauty90]

What are you talking about? The only switch was among people who contribute little to nothing in relationships or another person's life anyway.

The lazy, incompetent, low morals, etc. ones. They took themselves out of the proper dating pool & flounder among like-minded people that few to no decent or respectable men or women want anyway.

It's a win win.

The bottom rungs of the dating pool keep with their hookups and wonder why they predominantly only date douchebags & sluts/whores.

And the actually desirable ones in the dating pool keep with their relationships, find someone who contributes to their life & get ahead.

[Jamie05rhs]

That isn't completely true. There are many "desirable" people who hook up.

[PJH359]

Definitely the internet and dating sites. Men and women alike have thrown away the inhibitions and anxieties of meeting someone and courting them. The web has allowed us to hide behind a computer screen and say whatever we want to without consequence. It’s good in some ways but it can also be extremely hurtful. The ease of simply swiping past those we find unappealing and clicking on those we’re attracted to has taken the social element out of dating leaving just the physical attraction aspect alone. Hooking up has become more acceptable for that reason as what we are most attracted to visually is the flesh. Mmmm!!

[Fireguy17]

It's less work.
Relationships take a lot of time and effort, but worth it, but these days it seems that many people are seeking instant gratification in just about everything in their lives.
So just hooking up with someone fills that part of their lives without putting in the time or effort of having to meet someone, get to know them etc.
Now it seems to take about as much effort to get laid as it does to order a pizza.
Which is sad in a way, you never have a chance to get to know a person.

[Marie-Meh]

I agree to someone who said coz it's a trend, and human nature is to go along with a certain trend. Other than that, it's about not being committed and just getting what they want and easily getting away with it without drama.

It's practical somehow, but sad to be honest. I tried, but realized it's not my thing if I want meaningful conversations and relationships with people.

[Jamesshinobi]

feminisim.
"The modern women can no longer cook, they no longer want children and they are no longer warm, tidy and loving creatures who think spending time with their family is a good thing. They are probably too "independent" and "strong" to even have a family of their own. The only thing modern women have to offer men today is sex. So instead of being loving housewives who cook and raise children, they are reduced to being sexual objects only - and they are so messed up emotionally and intellectually that they often spend most of the money they make on their jobs on plastic surgery, cosmetics and tons of clothes they think will make them look good, in a desperate attempt to stay or become more attractive. Well, they have no other qualities attractive to men, so what else can we expect? This is the fruit of feminism. The fruit of "women's liberation"

[CharlesDike]

This is the best response by far.

[Jamesshinobi]

one whore frowny faced already. roast beef pussy ha ha ha

[TransAm85]

Invention of social media, society, and lack of parental guidance. I member I was like 20 when MySpace came out.. we still went on dates/movies/parties. A few years passed and FB became popular, then it was just an easy hook up. I'm sure kids today do it just like that. No verbal communication, just texting, IG, then they meet, and probably have sex. That's sad.

[DizzyDesii]

People got tired of being used and started using others in return. But i rather take the risk of trusting someone because im not about to intentionally waste someones time

[HawkPerception]

Ya beautiful soul

[DizzyDesii]

@HawkPerception 🥺🙏

[Lionman95]

Because it´s way easier to handle. You can have sex without responsibility if you can to point where you don´t like the other person anymore you switch your partner.

It´s the idea that you can pleasure without consequence, you don´t need to work it out. It´s a sign how individualistic and egocentric people have become.

[CubsterShura]

Because women are realizing that once they are self-sufficient men really don't have much to bring to the table as they no more are financially dependent on them. So naturally they only get into a relationship when they want it and not necessarily because they feel like they need it. Which in turn would naturally lead to more hook-ups cuz, if you're single you can.

[EtherealGuy]

Haven't you thought about what will happen once you hit the age of 35, or 40, or 50? Suddenly, you won't be able to get into relationships and will be alone. That's a pretty big reason to find a life partner.

[CubsterShura]

@EtherealGuy Most women, when they get older, feel LESS need to get into a relationship because they are more self-sufficient. THis is why most men remarry almost as soon as their wives die but women don't feel the same urgency. Men feel the need for a caretaker but women don't feel the need for a provider when they can provide for themselves.

[Adronicus]

I believe warfare has changed, more about subversion & promoting things in an enemies culture that leads to their demise. None of this is good for society. They have a word for people that serve themselves, it's called evil. Consequences will set thing right.

[MikeInHawaii]

Some of the ways the Chinese are at war with us now include selling unsafe products, flooding us with fentanyl and buying used catalytic converters.

[Adronicus]

@MikeInHawaii Yeah, I don't like it, people think I'm crazy for bringing it up. I'm not crazy but speak truth, where I fail is not speaking it in the guise of a fool:/ I care about the future & would sacrifice life & limb but I'm only one man in a sea of madness.

[Fffmmm00]

I think dating apps play a huge role in this.
by having so many people and options as easy as a swipe on tinder. It makes everybody think that the grass maybe be greener on the other side. So it’s easy for us to be satisfied.
for example me, I would go on dates and as soon as I get the ick I go on a different date and on and on and on. I didn’t give myself the opportunity to know someone because he gave me the ick and I know I could go on the app and have another date

[pizzalovershouse]

Ok why dint you put d in the ick

[pizzalovershouse]

I wouldn't block you for it

[pizzalovershouse]

Both replies are for ffffm 00

[Fffmmm00]

I meant ick as in ick. Which means: Something someone does that is an instant turn-off for you, making you instantly hate the idea of being with them romantically.
For example I don't know I go on a date and he chews with his mouth open really loud. The would give me the “ick” and wouldn’t go out with him again

[pizzalovershouse]

Oh I apologize for the mistake

[pizzalovershouse]

Now I know what you mean

[EtherealGuy]

You need to think about what happens once you reach 35+ and suddenly the matches start quickly drying up. And that's not me being callous, that's just what the statistics show in terms of attractiveness over time on a macro, statistically true level. Don't want to be alone in an empty house with nothing but cats and Mr Plastic.

[Fffmmm00]

@EtherealGuy yeah but I’m replying as in now. My current situation and many others my age. This is my opinion on why the hookup culture. Of course this should change in the future. Since people should know more what they are looking for and are more mature and ready so settle down

[Jamie05rhs]

@Fffmmm00 If they give you the "ick" reaction then you don't have to have sex with them at all.

[MikeInHawaii]

For men, the saying I heard when I was younger was “Why buy a cow when they’re giving milk away.”

In my younger days, I said the women of the ‘80’s were the men of the ‘50’s. They wanted to use drugs, binge drink, screw around, screw around, screw around and screw around, then marry someone respectable.

I didn’t want to give a woman a diamond ring for something every other guy in town had already had for a six pack.

[AviatorTom]

Hookups are easier... and more fun... and don't require a commitment, perfect kind of thing when you are young and sowing your oats. As someone ages, those hookups typically become less desirable, and one looks for a committed relationship.

[likelyOK]

I think. The ones that believe in this either got really hurt at some point or got brain washed at some point by toxic aspects of culture.

[pizzalovershouse]

Great point can be very possible

[CA4444]

Yes I agree

[Sarahplus2]

Quick sex basically. Not everyone wants a relationship and some people are too busy to put effort into a relationship.

[TwiNshichamp1]

I honestly think people want to have fun without commitments. Iam not a fan of hookups either, but people still want to enjoy life and have fun with many people as possible before they settle down. Just body desires. Which I think it's just as having sex with someone you know, either boyfriend or friends with benefits.

People differs and sex is too, but that should not be a ticket of wanting sex with other people as possible, but everyone is different thou

[Spiritofn]

It often happens in Lands that don’t place God and or Families as a priority.


Wish I lived in a place that did. I really appreciate what my parents have done for me always have. Would love to pay it forward to a new generation and give them the experience of imagination.

[Texaskid1]

Feminism said that a woman can be a man and thus have cheap sex with no emotional attachment. Feminism also taught women that a career comes first before anything else and that family and relationships are old fashioned and oppressive.

Of course what we see today are tons of miserable women who are alone and desperate and angry and resentful , none of them realizing that the same ideology that was supposed to liberate them from the evil patriarchy is making them miserable.

[LilyoftheLake]

I think it may have started with a basic fact: Relationships are difficult to maintain, where hookups aren't.

[pizzalovershouse]

Well said interesting idw

[pizzalovershouse]

Meant view

[bamesjond0069]

Girls believe its ok since they aren't religious and whats the harm of trying feminism empowerment life? You can always try something different later.

Men on the other hand, now just say hi to girls and they are ready to have sex. So why not? Then these same women want to get married when they realize hookups aren't that great except no man wants to marry that especially when girls are just giving it around like its candy.

[Wyldsparrow]

Being in a relationship takes work, commitment, loyalty, and dedication. Sacrifices are also made on both parties ends, so it's just simpler to have meaningless hook ups with people. Especially if the person has been dumped recently or is going through a break/divorce/split in their relationship... This is usually the time people are trying to find rebounds.

[Adam1978]

You don't need to believe in hookups to do them. It's simply a little effort move. So it's not like it replaced relationships. Because they aren't a replacement. People doesn't think long term when it comes to anything anymore. And you see what happens to the world because of it.

[HighValue]

Liberal/democrat influences on society caused many more people to have bad morals and become too lazy to maintain a good relationship. Then once someone has an unacceptable bad past, they will NEVER be good enough for a good partner the rest of their lives.

[Anonymous]

They say it's a change in women's behaviour that allows this to happen. Men used to have to work a lot harder and engage with women over a longer term.

They also say this is counter to women's natural behaviour and goals. If so, once they work this out, I would suggest hook up culture will end.

[D_Bone_Steak]

No problem... to each their own. Reasons is what I would argue with both for and against.

[Anonymous]

They realized that relationships are a huge pain in the ass, and relationships revolve around sex (no matter what people like to claim), so getting sex without dealing with the other bullshit is preferable. No need to compromise on anything. I do what I want, you do what you want, we occasionally have a romp. All around win.

[Anonymous]

It takes care of what needs to be taken care of so we can go on our way... Sometimes you just need to get some dick to get that stress relief and you don't need the stress attached to the man attached to it. ... I'm guessing men feel similarly.

[EtherealGuy]

However, not having kids or a long term partner, especially once you reach 35+, is linked with a far lower satisfaction in life. It's putting a band aid on a problem which requires some thought and consideration first.

[Opinion Owner]

@EtherealGuy Meh

[Blonde1975]

Social media and smart phones. people do not communicate face to face anymore and worse no one writes letters or even takes the time to shop for a greeting card. Technology helps but also dehumanizes us all

[pizzalovershouse]

So you feel the romance has gone out the door in today's times

[pizzalovershouse]

An that was for blonde 1975

[Sixgunsound]

Permissive social programming designed to override traditional social constraints on letting base instincts override human’s ability to recognize that choices have consequences.

[hyperben]

being horny at the same time in the same place is hard to fight but gambling half your belongings/friends etc takes a bit more effort/commitment

[Andro36]

Society changes constantly. I guess peopel do not believe anymore the fallacy of love. They live more freely nowdays

[pizzalovershouse]

But do you feel the same or do you think its possible to find a good relationship

[Andro36]

I think it is possible. But a relationship takes a lot of effort. It is not always happiness. People are less likely to stay when difficulties arrive and trust me, they will. We live in a society that promotes the immediacy of everything. Relatonships can overcome anything but it depends on how the couple's ability to manage difficult situations. I can not conceive the idea of sleeping with someone I barely know. But taht is just me, doesn't mean it is right or wrong

[pizzalovershouse]

Yes relationships take work

[wittymilf]

Independence, we used to need each other to survive. Now we can just use each other for fun.

[Anonymous]

Because people fear of intimacy. People are afraid of being abandoned. People are afraid of being hurt. If they do not open up themselves emotionally, they think that they can protect themselves.

[Orange85]

This is very true and those people should stick to just hooking up! It’s better than being in a relationship when your afraid of intamacy. Some people should stay to just hooking up if they have those issues! Not fair to people that actually want a real relationship

[EtherealGuy]

@Orange85 Yes! If you can enter a long term relationship, you should! Statistics show you're far more likely to have a high satisfaction in life if you have a long term partner and optionally kids.

[Reaper1985]

hookup culture promotes lust and self pleasure. relationships promote love and partner pleasure. however they also can cause drama for those involved in them.

[RavVid]

Well there is sex and excitement. And the manifest destiny of relationships to end in the deletion of your number from the others phone.

[Anonymous]

In my late 20s I stopped putting effort into getting into relationships. I just put it in the first chance I got to avoid being friendzoned. By 28 I already ate 3 or 4 agonizing friend zones I was done being a gentleman.

For a while it worked but it wasn’t what I really wanted. But it was the lesser of two evils.

[constantine15]

It keeps sex exciting because it’s someone new all the time. I get bored of the same girl all the time.

[WhitneySnow]

Changing values in society. But not everyone believes that.

[dustybiker]

They are horny and don’t want to carry around the baggage of another person.

[petitedollbabee]

Relationships take a lot of work and compromise. Nothing wrong with just wanting to have your sexual needs met by someone who wants to achieve the same thing, without turning it into a relationship.

[EtherealGuy]

However, for most men, the higher a girl's body count, the lower the chance of them making a long term relationshp with them, tying the knot or having kids. Especially once they reach the age of 35+. The statistics bear this out. So, you need to think about what you want in life pretty early before it gets too late.

[petitedollbabee]

That’s your opinion, and you’re entitled to that. But personally I disagree. Men get praised for their body count and women get shamed. It’s pathetic and a means of controlling women by men. A
body count does not deem someones worth, and if you believe it does, then you’re extremely shallow. Just my opinion and I’m not here to argue.

Sex is not something to be shamed. It’s natural and healthy, and people like you who base someones worth on how many people they’ve engaged with sexually, are the problem.

[Kaamraj]

Feminism + Social media / dating apps + birth control.

[front2back]

Lack of stable households growing up as well as nihilism.

[_Just_A_girl_]

-Rebellion over old school mentality of parents
-Economy, we can't sustain family
-Technology like tinder

[Lickmymeet]

Feminism and sexually liberated women 🙄 who pushed the narrative thats it’s better to be single and sleep around than in a committed relationship with a family (it’s not by the way single women are more depressed and have less satisfying sex than married women )

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Relationship require time and effort and some people just don't want to put in the effort at least not consistently.

[msc545]

Relationships are troublesome and emotionally painful. Hookups just feel good.

[DeltaCharlieEcho]

Women did. Women started cheating at way higher rates and started getting massively delusional about their value and how long that value will last.

Millennials may be lost at this point.

[DannieDoesntCare]

Trauma, self-doubt, the list goes on. Society itself. Many men are told to conquer the world whereas many women are told to save themselves. I've been threatened with punishment if I lose my virginity or get pregnant

[EtherealGuy]

Nowadays, all the propaganda would disagree. Be a 'boss babe', kick the CIS white people out of society, all men are the devils, et cetera. Trust me, being told that you're racist just because you have intrinsic 'whiteness', that you're a rapist even though you volunteer in the community etc is worse.

[empatheticpsychic33]

Well some of them just weren't ready for commitment and they figured that the sex was good after they had a one-night stand and made a mistake and said that they didn't want to be together so that's what made that

[Anonymous]

well, I tried it, and it works for me.. It is not like I don't believe in relationships. Hook-ups/casual relationships are just simpler for me.

[sheikalana]

It seems to be the new trend. People don't want to get attached.

[noohair]

Men used to have to make a commitment to women to get sex. Women wanted equality and freedom. This is what it looks like.

[KingofCups]

Social Media, Dating Apps, extremely high divorce rates.

Hook ups are easy, relationships are hard.

[Phoenix98]

They got hurt and or mistreated, cheated on etc. it shook their faith in relationships. To avoid getting hurt again they decided to avoid em.

its not exactly hard to figure out.

[zagor]

So many people seeing their parents fail in their relationship.

Mine are still married.

[Zolly99999]

We all lead busy lives these days and time is limited. Sex without attachment is fun some times.

[Avicenna]

The easy availability of hookups and the difficulty in finding someone suitable for a relationship.