Interesting question… many reasons, it’s a trend, but one of them I think is that women can become proud to do & achieve like men (we all live in a patriarchal society) and be like yeah see I do hook ups too, don’t get attached and don’t care and live my best life - but it’s a bit of a lie women just get more attached and want relationships quite naturally… biologically I think we’re much less inclined to hookups and promiscuity, although it can be hot and nice too. we have much more freedom and independence now so we don’t want to end up with a guy we don’t actually like and there’s come the most playful and superficial side of ‘relationships’
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The VAST AMOUNTS of humans that there are. Our mortality, and knowing we are mortal. Being inexperienced, wanting to experience. Trying to live it up. Our short term attention span. Or short-lived romance. Our unamused type of personality. The fact that we might be polyamorous beings and are tricked into being monogamous. The pain and investment that comes with relationships and marriages. The financial problems from marriage. Women and men being able to use protection and worry little over pregnancy. Getting bored of a partner easily.
I personally worked at a mall, well 3 different malls in the span of 3 years. One was outdoors and the next indoors. Everyone in the mall was f*king and everyone got bored of their little flame easily and went onto the next.
Where do I begin?
Insane divorce rates.
Toxic relationships.
Single parent households.
How I met your mother, sex and the city, FRIENDS, and any othet sitcome that normalized the idea.
Extreme liberal hipsters who wanna see society crumble into degenracy in order to "stick it to the man".
Full legality of sex outside a marriage.
A culture where kids move out at 18 and so they have no one judging their actions.
I can go on and on and on.
But my take is hookup culture is natrual given the social climate of the world and it's pointless to look at it as a good or bad thing, it is simply the result of other things which may be good or bad
A lot of younger people never got to experience a good, Loving relationship yet, and they don't miss or crave what they never really had.
Many people are hooking up (It's reallly convenient now) so they just follow trend, and they think that casual sex is all there is to life. They don't understand that sex is just one part of a relationship, and there's a lot more intimacy to enjoy in a monogamous relationship once you bond with your partner, live together, and become truly attached. I'm not saying it lasts forever, or that it won't hurt when it ends, but when a relationship is good and you're truly in love, it's amazing!
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Coz it’s convenient and no strings attached.
The feminist movement which led women in a strange direction where instead of developing confidence, success and equal rights, women instead developed hatred, disrespect and disdain for men. There is no benefit for a man to have a relationship with a woman. None. Hollywood tries to sell us the idea that relationships are awesome ("Sleepless in Seattle", "When Harry Met Sally", "You've Got Mail"). Try a relationship with a woman and you'll be "Sleeping in your car " and "She'll be sleeping with Sally" and "You'll get herpes" . Fuck relationships. Guys, enjoy you own money. Go on cool vacations where you don't have to pay for your girlfriend's pussy to come along. Have great diversions like a second home, a boat, an airplane. All of this stuff will never be possible with some nasty bitch sucking money out of your wallet and trying to control every aspect of your relationship. Look carefully at guys who lose their shit and end up killing people like the Craigslist Killer. His girlfriend wouldn't let him choose the shoes he wears. That is fucked up. Or the guy in Colorado who killed his wife and kids. Watch those videos and see how his wife treated him like shit. I don't think anyone should be violent but women treat men like shit in relationships. It ain't worth it when you can easily get laid and still hang on to your own money. Tell the bitches to keep their hands off your wallet and get on their knees and suck your cock.
Convenience, the illusion of infinite choice, and the invincibility of youth.
Relationships take effort, hook-ups and NSA do not. On that note, there's the worry of "settling" that's where infinite choice comes in, it's a focus on the future rooted in the present "I can get someone better". So you tear through people, men or women, never "settling" until your choices are narrowed significantly as people in your age range now have kids or are married.
Then because you have no experience with relationships, and don't want to settle, you keep on the same pattern, with the only change being desperation.What are you talking about? The only switch was among people who contribute little to nothing in relationships or another person's life anyway.
The lazy, incompetent, low morals, etc. ones. They took themselves out of the proper dating pool & flounder among like-minded people that few to no decent or respectable men or women want anyway.
It's a win win.
The bottom rungs of the dating pool keep with their hookups and wonder why they predominantly only date douchebags & sluts/whores.
And the actually desirable ones in the dating pool keep with their relationships, find someone who contributes to their life & get ahead.
Definitely the internet and dating sites. Men and women alike have thrown away the inhibitions and anxieties of meeting someone and courting them. The web has allowed us to hide behind a computer screen and say whatever we want to without consequence. It’s good in some ways but it can also be extremely hurtful. The ease of simply swiping past those we find unappealing and clicking on those we’re attracted to has taken the social element out of dating leaving just the physical attraction aspect alone. Hooking up has become more acceptable for that reason as what we are most attracted to visually is the flesh. Mmmm!!
It's less work.
Relationships take a lot of time and effort, but worth it, but these days it seems that many people are seeking instant gratification in just about everything in their lives.
So just hooking up with someone fills that part of their lives without putting in the time or effort of having to meet someone, get to know them etc.
Now it seems to take about as much effort to get laid as it does to order a pizza.
Which is sad in a way, you never have a chance to get to know a person.I agree to someone who said coz it's a trend, and human nature is to go along with a certain trend. Other than that, it's about not being committed and just getting what they want and easily getting away with it without drama.
It's practical somehow, but sad to be honest. I tried, but realized it's not my thing if I want meaningful conversations and relationships with people.feminisim.
"The modern women can no longer cook, they no longer want children and they are no longer warm, tidy and loving creatures who think spending time with their family is a good thing. They are probably too "independent" and "strong" to even have a family of their own. The only thing modern women have to offer men today is sex. So instead of being loving housewives who cook and raise children, they are reduced to being sexual objects only - and they are so messed up emotionally and intellectually that they often spend most of the money they make on their jobs on plastic surgery, cosmetics and tons of clothes they think will make them look good, in a desperate attempt to stay or become more attractive. Well, they have no other qualities attractive to men, so what else can we expect? This is the fruit of feminism. The fruit of "women's liberation"Invention of social media, society, and lack of parental guidance. I member I was like 20 when MySpace came out.. we still went on dates/movies/parties. A few years passed and FB became popular, then it was just an easy hook up. I'm sure kids today do it just like that. No verbal communication, just texting, IG, then they meet, and probably have sex. That's sad.
Because it´s way easier to handle. You can have sex without responsibility if you can to point where you don´t like the other person anymore you switch your partner.
It´s the idea that you can pleasure without consequence, you don´t need to work it out. It´s a sign how individualistic and egocentric people have become.
People got tired of being used and started using others in return. But i rather take the risk of trusting someone because im not about to intentionally waste someones time
Because women are realizing that once they are self-sufficient men really don't have much to bring to the table as they no more are financially dependent on them. So naturally they only get into a relationship when they want it and not necessarily because they feel like they need it. Which in turn would naturally lead to more hook-ups cuz, if you're single you can.
I believe warfare has changed, more about subversion & promoting things in an enemies culture that leads to their demise. None of this is good for society. They have a word for people that serve themselves, it's called evil. Consequences will set thing right.
I think dating apps play a huge role in this.
by having so many people and options as easy as a swipe on tinder. It makes everybody think that the grass maybe be greener on the other side. So it’s easy for us to be satisfied.
for example me, I would go on dates and as soon as I get the ick I go on a different date and on and on and on. I didn’t give myself the opportunity to know someone because he gave me the ick and I know I could go on the app and have another dateFor men, the saying I heard when I was younger was “Why buy a cow when they’re giving milk away.”
In my younger days, I said the women of the ‘80’s were the men of the ‘50’s. They wanted to use drugs, binge drink, screw around, screw around, screw around and screw around, then marry someone respectable.
I didn’t want to give a woman a diamond ring for something every other guy in town had already had for a six pack.Hookups are easier... and more fun... and don't require a commitment, perfect kind of thing when you are young and sowing your oats. As someone ages, those hookups typically become less desirable, and one looks for a committed relationship.
I think. The ones that believe in this either got really hurt at some point or got brain washed at some point by toxic aspects of culture.
I honestly think people want to have fun without commitments. Iam not a fan of hookups either, but people still want to enjoy life and have fun with many people as possible before they settle down. Just body desires. Which I think it's just as having sex with someone you know, either boyfriend or friends with benefits.
People differs and sex is too, but that should not be a ticket of wanting sex with other people as possible, but everyone is different thou
It often happens in Lands that don’t place God and or Families as a priority.
Wish I lived in a place that did. I really appreciate what my parents have done for me always have. Would love to pay it forward to a new generation and give them the experience of imagination.Feminism said that a woman can be a man and thus have cheap sex with no emotional attachment. Feminism also taught women that a career comes first before anything else and that family and relationships are old fashioned and oppressive.
Of course what we see today are tons of miserable women who are alone and desperate and angry and resentful , none of them realizing that the same ideology that was supposed to liberate them from the evil patriarchy is making them miserable.
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