27F, I worry I’ll feel regret for being single as long as I have? Should I be worried?

[Anonymous]

I haven’t really dated anyone, I was exclusive with someone for a few months back when I was 23 and had sex but I wasn’t completely into him. I just haven’t been lucky with dating apps at all, you hear they’re terrible but some get lucky from them. I don’t have a social life or in person friends so that’s my only avenue, I really don’t think I’m bad looking I’ve been told I’m cute/attractive but I don’t get attention from guys. I get matches and msgs on the apps but it’s always the ones I want don’t want me back or the ones that want me I don’t want back. Or sometimes it just doesn’t work out, I’m exhausted and have just lost interest and motivation. I check the apps but am at the point where I have to remind myself to reply to guys because I just can’t be bothered. I’ve tried almost all the free apps and tried match too. I’m the same weight I was when I was 23 but I’m a little thicker because I guess I lost some muscle mass but worry I’m going to get saggier as time goes by and when I’m even older, I’ll look at young photos of myself and just feel regret for not living it up at that point in my life. I don’t want kids and don’t have much of a sex drive, maybe that might have something to do with it?

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[DaveJord]

So I usually give people in regards to this type question the same answer. As you get closer to 30 and over 35 without ever having a serious relationship with a guy or girl, its a Red Flag.

As you get older so is the available dating pool, and most these people have relationship experience. They know or have some idea how to be in one, and what they are looking for in their next one. What worked and what does not work for them, and to improve on and get better at. So when they come across someone who doesn't have a clue or been through that process at all... well its concerning. Makes them think why? What's wrong with this women?

I am one of those people that had lots of sucess on line. It wasn't easy, it took a lot of effort. It was frustrating, but I went on lots of dates. 16 in four months with 12 different women until I found my current totally amazing girlfriend of the last 8 months and going strong.

I took dates with lots of maybes that turned out not being very good. But every opportunity was a chance to get better, learn from experience and improve my skills. Some things I thought I really wanted, ended up not being very important to me. We want all these things, or we think we want them... but eventually we find what we needed along. But you got to be persistent, and committed to the process knowing that you will meet with failure and rejection... but ever failure and rejection is still an opportunity to learn, get better and improve.

So for women it can seriously be overwhelming. The guy to girl ratio is 3 to 1, and let's be honest most those guys are losers. So find your top three and message them after texting for 2 to 3 days go out on a first date. Just get out there and start gaining experience and building confidence. After first date your not into it, then don't waste your time on him. Find another guy and give him a try... start figuring what to look for what works and what doesn't... you start learning how to filter through them pretty quick.

You chat one or two guys for more than two days and he's not asking you out... move on. Don't waste too much time on any one guy... its a numbers game.

Don't have sex until after the 3rd date, but if there's a 5th date and you're not wanting sex, then he's not the one move on... numbers game. Mr. Right is out there but you got to stay committed and start putting the work in to find him.

Disappointed, rejection and failure is just part of the process... its unavoidable so don't get down on yourself stay committed to the process. You will start giving guys you never considered before a chance and that is when you know your getting closer because someday someone will really surprise you, but you never would of found him if you did suffer through all the loser along the way. And after all that when he does come along you just know it almost immediately.

Just always be honest with all of them, stay true to yourself, set boundaries. If they don't like that then they aren't the one. The rest you will have to figure out for yourself.

[Gent207]

I'm curious what do you actually look like abd what are your interests, hobbies and what do you like to do for fun?

Oh and random question

What is your favorite animal and dinosaur?🤣

[Hrumf]

Just build up your social life. Look online for activities where you can find like minded people who enjoy the same activity you are attending. Just go with the flow. You will get attention from the right guy at the right time.


Dating apps suck. I have never gotten a second date out of those. Unless you count a Zoom date as a date 🤷🏼‍♀️ #PandemicProblems

[Avicenna]

You have underlying issues that are preventing you from relating to guys and would prevent you from having a successful relationship. Maybe a therapist can help.

[Guy13]

Have you tried meetup groups and sort on likes and hobbies yet?

[zagor]

So you don't care about sex or kids, so why are you even concerned about being single? Those are about the only things you need a partner for that you can't get from a friend.

[NeffexSelfMade]

yeah you girls are all chasing the top 20% of men

so you either stay single

or get in line for your turn just to get fucked and used then thrown away

or you can lower your standards ( hahahahaha like women ever do that )

[007kingifrit]

yes if you are single too long it will get harder. happiness comes from finding a partner in life. not anything else

[joeldalton]

FFS, stop going on apps. Get some hobbies, make some friends and meet guys in the real world.