Am I doing something wrong?

[brownna529]

I've only been asked out by lots of people that I don't know, but never someone I like or even know. I think I'm a good person but is there something I could be doing wrong? Or should I just wait and see what happens?

[AmandaYVR]

Bold guys approach. They often know little about the girls they are approaching. They're doing it based on a physical attraction they have to her. It's chemical; and their confident personality.

There may be some who know you better, and appreciate you for your personality, but the dating climate has changed, and they're scared of things like #metoo, so they've stepped back and don't want to take the risk.

Solution: Be social, be friendly, initiate conversations and getting to know guys. Ask them out, the ones you're interested in. But you probably won't. So you have to, at the very least, be much more direct in communication and expressing interest. Girls' cues are way too subtle. The guys don't know what you're thinking.

[BarryLiverstone]

It sounds like rn you have a crush on a guy who isn’t available so tbh that’s going to limit your options. Even if a quality guy initiates with you it may be tough if your heart is into your crush. Have you thought about why you like him?


Certainly can understand not wanting to go out with strangers. But when they ask you out have you taken the chance to talk to them and get to know them a bit before a date?

[bean2k21]

It could be that you're not taking any risks. If there's someone you know who you'd like to be more intimate with, don't be afraid to take a chance and just tell them. It's usually not that big of a deal if it's just a one-time question or comment.

[brownna529]

Okay thanks. I like one guy right now but he's dating someone so I don't know what to do.

[Guy13]

In what context please? We all do wrong thing.

[brownna529]

I've been randomly asked out by guys at school before that I don't know and been followed around by them and it's weird, but all the people I do know are either dating or don't seem to like me. I'm wondering if I'm maybe a little too confrontative (because I know I can be) or if there is something guys like that I just don't do or care about.

[brownna529]

I don't want to change my personality or anything, but if there's something negative about me I want to see if I can fix that.

[Guy13]

Oh, you mean that you are a little edgy... large personality?

[brownna529]

Yeah

[Guy__]

Maybe those whom you already know, expect you to ask them out or make a move at least.

[Smartman5]

Choose the right man for you. don't make wrong decisions.

[jahaims]

Start asking out people you know and like