I don't feel worthy enough to date my own race of men?

[cth2188]

Black men seemingly hates black women and I feel extremely uncomfortable even dealing with them as a black woman. I see how they treat black women. I didn't realize a group of men could hate their own race of women while putting them on a pedestal. I received a lot of hate and abuse from them?

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+1 y

While putting other races women on a pedestal.. it's strange. I have 0.01 experiences with them and try too see them differently, but can't.

[CAPTAIN-OBVIOUS]

I came across this video once and this girl was describing exactly what you are talking about how black men mistreat black women but fetishize and treat other women as beauty queens! Watch the video to relate to other girls. I am on a similar boat as you except my races of females do sort of date us still but they prefer white men.

https://youtu.be/PoVGoFy6_xk

[cth2188]

I like For Harriet and yes black men hate black women, but fetishize other races of women.

[cth2188]

It's hateful and discriminative

[CAPTAIN-OBVIOUS]

It has to do with their grandparents and mine too. My dad used to tell me how hot white women were from a young age. I’ve heard black grandpas and black dads tell their sons the same thing.

[pizzalovershouse]

Sorry to hear that an just date who you think treats you good even if you have to date out of your race

[DermalPunch]

You just met jerks. I find black men to be sweethearts. I am not interested in black men, even though I am a black woman, because I just like someone I can always learn about. I get bored so easily so being with someone from the same culture and race as me is boring. Now black people come from many different cultures but even West Africans have a lotnof similarities with Caribbeans. That being said I don't like white European men for partners either hahaha. I guess being from a white country they are a race and culture I am highly familiar with so again... not much interest.

[cth2188]

BM aren't sweethearts mkdt treat BW like shyt

[cth2188]

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[Avicenna]

Date whomever you want, but never feel you aren't worthy. Date people with whom there is mutual respect.

[cth2188]

Sadly, I don't want to come off as discriminative, but I don't know if they hate me?

[Avicenna]

It's your life, it's your relationships, you need to do what you feel is right for you. Don't date someone you aren't comfortable about dating. There will always be some haters and people who judge you no matter what you do.

[king34]

For me (im black) I'd rather not date black women because f the attitude most of them have, if your a good woman they will have no problem dating you, I'd love to date a black woman if I could find one that's wife material, it's not the race it's the attitude. That's the reason men with options typically marry other women, overall though most black men date/marry within their race, were talking about an extreme minority here

[cth2188]

You don't have to worry about me dealing with black men. I have dated outside my race most of ny life. Hard pass no. What I'm noticing most generalize all us the same loud, ghetto, attitude, etc. My solution don't date BM

[Xayemillz]

Your probably just dating the wrong kinda guys. All black men DO NOT put down black ladies. Hell I love my sisters. So don't put all of us in the same category. You wouldn't like if I said black women don't know how to treat is black men!!

[cth2188]

Currently that's been said... how do I know? I have to witness this on YouTube. Hey I'm not putting anyone down.. I lost interest in black men after witnessing this gender war on YouTube

[cth2188]

Zero experiences with BM.. I made that clear. Furthermore, I think it's best blsck eomrn expand their options [ Me personally]

[TonightYouu]

Don’t have to be a whiny little btch about it “Oh No my relationships haven’t been perfect boohoo” either keep trying, be single or try a white guy but complaining gets you nowhere

[swettannie]

there is unfortanely a part of truth in what you're saying...

[cth2188]

Thank you...

[swettannie]

i'm really nsorry it happened to you. and as a white, i'm partially to blame

[cth2188]

Well black men are responsible for themselves they choose to be this way. They should be with other races of women as they hate their own race of women badly.

[Zolly99999]

Would you dare other races?

[cth2188]

I gave and was married, but I get backlash from black men because I won't date them.

[cth2188]

Have *

[Zolly99999]

Why? It's a free world what do they care..

[cth2188]

They are smearing BWs image why I care

[Zolly99999]

That's awful. I'm sorry but I don't have a answer as I don't judge anybody

[cth2188]

It's reality no judgment.. Noone should be discriminated or abused by race. That's like me saying I hate white people simply because of race.. no legitimate reason

[Zolly99999]

I wish you the best of luck..

[cth2188]

Thanks

[cth2188]

I hate noone because of race I think not dealing with black men us for the best due to safety reasons

[Zolly99999]

Then that's what you do

[chicosuave]

There's probably some that will date you

[cth2188]

I wouldn't doubt it

[chicosuave]

why do you say that?

[cth2188]

I am not interested in dating my own race of men

[chicosuave]

Oh then don't complain

[cth2188]

I have every reason to complete when they are tearing down. y image and other BW / don't tell me how to feel

[cth2188]

My * unless you are a BW who deals with these issues then stop telling me how I'm suppose to feel