How concerning is a man being a virgin after 30 due to inability?

[Anonymous]

Turning 30 in a few years and I wonder how much worse my dating prospects will turn.

I've already been dumped in my late 20s when a lack of experience in dating was a bit apparent and want to know how much worse it gets.

There's no judgement for honest opinions. They actually help figure out what I can do to mitigate any damage.

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[WonderBell99]

I do not believe in measuring someone's worth based on their virginity status. Inability of what? You have not mentioned why. I would be curious as to why he is a virgin, but I will not break up with him over something as trivial as this. I would only be concerned if he has STDs or a very high body count.

That being said, I would not date someone who is religious, regardless of them being a virgin or sexually experienced, so if he is a virgin because of religious reasons, I'll pass. If it was because of some other reason, I would not mind. In fact, I would try to make his first time a special experience. A lot of my girl friends would do the same.

Some women may prefer men who are more experienced in bed, because there is a stigma surrounding virgin men (which of course, is just a stereotype), that they may be "too clingy" after sex, bad at sex, and some may not want to "teach" them new stuff, or might not be open to trying out new stuff etc. It's best not to ponder too much over this though. The right girl wouldn't mind or reject you because you are a virgin. Many people regret losing their virginity out of haste and peer pressure. I appreciate you for not giving into societal pressures and being firm on your decision to find the right girl and do the deed.

[Asker]

"I appreciate you for not giving into societal pressures and being firm on your decision to find the right girl and do the deed."

This is what I'm talking about. It has nothing to do with not giving into societal pressures or anything. It's purely due to my inability to attract any women. It was not by choice. Does that change your answer?