Girls who approach / make the first move... is it actually successful?

[Rockstarrrrr]

You hear many guys saying that girls should approach more but it seems to me when they do they actually get rejected often... Many guys think they're desperate or there must be something wrong with them that's why they do it...

[PrettyPriya]

Absolutely it is successful, or at least it can be. Let me share my story of meeting my now fiancé. I copy/pasted this from a question yesterday.

Hi! Well, mine is a bit of an interesting one. Okay, so some background. I work at a medical practice as an office admin in a large city in India. That means I get my hands dirty in a lot of different functions in the office, all the way down to discharging patients.

So! In walks this guy one day. He immediately stood out because he is Australian. He was in to get his foot checked from a sports injury. He was very handsome and at discharge for that appointment, I noticed there was a return checkup required.

So, I got to talk to him briefly. He was very polite and just had an overall way about him that I found attractive. The days that followed, I kept thinking about him. I decided that I would make a move if I thought he was into me on his final discharge.

So, after his checkup appointment, I casually flirted and struck up a conversation. Things just seemed like they clicked, so I asked him if he wanted to have lunch sometime. He said (with that dreamy Aussie accent) "It would be my pleasure, darling".

I about fell off my chair. We went to lunch and the rest is history. We are now engaged and marry at the end of the year.

So, as you can see, it does work when I made the first move and asked him out.

[Rockstarrrrr]

Wow, what a nice story.. How often can two complete strangers click up easily like that.. Not so often lol.. It definitely takes two cool people to happen... Congratulations on getting married 😄

[PrettyPriya]

First, thank you for the congrats! Yes, I think you are right that it is exceedingly rare for strangers to meet like we did and end up engaged.

Though, everyone is a stranger to their partner at some point! Whether it takes some time to realize you want to be with a person or if it is real quick like my situation will vary.

I do agree though that my relationship and how it came together is going to be a rare thing opposed to knowing someone as friends or an acquaintance and then realizing you have a thing for them.

[Rockstarrrrr]

I agree 👍👍

[AmandaYVR]

Only nasty people would say/think things like "they're desperate or there must be something wrong with them." Those are extremely immature things to say.

I've only asked guys out a few times, but my batting average is very high.

No can be devastating, but yeses are well worth it.

[Dinosaursandanime65]

Jsut be a Chad like the Carnotaurus from Prehistoric Planet and try anyways

[Rockstarrrrr]

Dinosaurs are awesome

[Dinosaursandanime65]

Super awesome.

[msc545]

I think it works, at least with me historically it has.

[Anonymous]

Why do I get the feeling this will never become more common

[Rockstarrrrr]

It's definitely more common... More women do the approach now

[Opinion Owner]

Still doesn't seem that way

[Rockstarrrrr]

Well obviously it's not going to be as much as guys do it...

[Zolly99999]

Same as guys.. some do and some don't.. but probably more successful then men.