Why do boys treat me like shit and just want to fuck and once we do they don't seem as interested? they always want to see me again but not serious?

[Anonymous]

why am I still single? I'm 24 I live alone I'm confused I don't financially need a man but I'm bored and it seems everyone just wants to have sex with me.

[tzdc21]

This isn't me trying to hurt you or anything, but I am gonna be honest with you. And this is a problem more and more women are finding themselves in. The reason why guys ghost you after having sex with you is that you did not provide enough value to those guys' lives for them to consider keeping you around. You living alone and not financially needing a man is fine, but that is not something that is gonna make or break you when it comes to a man seeking out a woman for a serious relationship. It can be a perk, but it's not a requirement, so I wouldn't lean with that.

You wanna know a great way to keep a guy around? Add value. Learn about his life. See what he needs help with. See what he likes, and then act accordingly and spruce some things up in his life. And they don't have to be very complex things either, small things can go a very long way. Here are a couple of examples:

If he likes playing video games, then try to get more immersed into video games so he will have a habit to look forwards to doing with you.

If his place is usually a mess, clean it up a little bit without him asking.

It all depends on the guy and what he likes, or needs in his life. But notice how the things I listed to you aren't all that much, but they are very impactful. A guy will 9/10 times notice that because most women nowadays don't do that and then they wonder why guys frequently ghost them.

Add value to his life and it will convince more men to stick around.

[Shamalien]

Lol yeah you’d like a gamer girl maid eh 😂 so would most, but really all she has to do is keep her legs shut because that shows sexual self control and a woman who won’t cheat is the highest value

[tzdc21]

@Shamalien That was just an example. Wouldn't matter if I would like it or not. But that is true about keeping her legs closed

[PositiveNote]

It’s going to happen if you only wait for guys to contact you. What you can do is to flip the odds to be in your favor…

Find activities or clubs where your type of guys will be found. Try to find a setting where you have at least a dozen guys who would fit your idea of a great date. Then, introduce yourself to one at a time. A casual “Hi, I’m [name].” He responds with his name and now you can direct the conversation to how you want to go. Don’t allow one guy to dominate your time, however. Find a reason to leave the conversation and move to meet other guys and girls. Do this each meeting until you feel comfortable to to “dig deeper” with a guy you liked.

Work it, babe—you’ll be glad you did.

[AmandaYVR]

It's common in your age group.

Don't have sex with them, then see how long they stick around, interacting with you. That's how you test real interest.

[Ga-girl]

You answered you own question IN your question. Recommened getting tested

[JamesDiaz11]

Well, clearly all the guys you entertain treat you like shit... You didn't say that they (are nice then) have sex with you, THEN treat you like shit. Clearly, your taste in men is to blame.

Could be the places you meet men (the guys who don't treat women well will come up to you first in bars/ clubs, etc.). Could be what you go for (height over character), or could just be because you conflate arrogance with confidence, and think a man who treats you like shit is masculine.

This is a YOU problem- not all guys.

[Idontknowtoo]

Definitely something about her

[Topher87090]

Maybe it's the guys you're allowing into your life. in my opinion, you're a human being and you should have as much or as little sex as you'd like. If you want a relationship having sex with someone will not convince them to be in a relationship with you.

Maybe try talking to someone who you wouldn't normally talk to I don't know

At 26 I can't find a woman due to my looks. Since you are having all this sex it doesn't seem like your looks are lacking so at this point it's just a numbers game. Meet enough people and one that wants to stay around and worth keeping around will come by.

[MCheetah]

Because you're only going after the Chads and the decent men aren't on your radar. Women have all the power in dating, and yet also complain the most (when men complain less often and 95% of them have no power at all). Like, what do you want men to do; all devote five years of their life making themselves perfect enough for you?

[jshm2]

You're too easy, and put out too quick. You're probably the school hoe to boot.

So in effect you're "public property" to use and dump whenever they please.

If you're not happy, then you need to give up your "gangbang my ass" ways. Get an education or career on the go and leave relationships until later.

[FilmGuy93]

I'm going to ask you something that will sound like I'm taking a stab at you, but I promise that I'm not: why would a man fall in love with you, as a woman? That is, what do you do to entice men, or what do you do in your interactions with men that would make a man think "wow, that girl is really cool, I'd like to keep her around?"

[Anonymous]

Well that is really hard to say. It could be a lot of reasons. Maybe you’re hot, but you have an attitude. Maybe you get around so word spreads. Maybe this is the type of men you attract. Maybe you have a butter face. There could be a lot of reasons.

[Shamalien]

The day women stop being so fkn easy is the day men get their shit together.

stop complaining and just DO WHAT YOU NEED TO DO keep yer legs closed and be a lady and you’ll get a gentleman! You wanna fuck a guy you barely know? Well that may work out 4% of the time, so you can play that gamble or use a tried and true strategy.

[FunkyMonkee]

Maybe because you give it up too easily for the wrong reasons. Why take the cow if the milk is free?

Looks to me like there's a LOT of free sex and fuck buddying going on these days!! Sure wish I could find some!!

[Truthatanycost]

You're still single because...

'treat me like shit'

'just want to fuck'

'and once we do'

[Guy13]

is it because you are selecting immature boys⁉️ What’s your pattern⁉️ Career oriented or what?

[chicosuave]

Because you love dudes with options and dudes with option dont need you. You're attracted to that but you don't know it.

[darkoflights]

dont feel bad cuz you're not the only one who gets through this unfortunately

[Dinosaursandanime65]

Maybe because they’re boys. Men do it too though so ehh. Oh of course, how could I forget. They’re what I call Filthy Casuals

[JamesDiaz11]

Solid advice from someone not yet old enough to drive a car...

[Dinosaursandanime65]

@JamesDiaz11 I thought advice was a suggestion for someone’s next course of action. Are you being sarcastic?

[Anonymous]

🤣🤣🤣 definition of "insanity": doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.

Choose better guys, simple.

[Anonymous]

If you really liked a guy and then had horrible sex, would you see him as a serious long-term partner?

[Anonymous]

What do you have to offer beyond a warm soft moist hole?

[Avicenna]

Because they are immature

[maximumpower]

Maybe it's your attitude...